pierce_r
Don Juan
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I woke up this morning thinking about something I posted last night, that is apparently still under moderation. I came down pretty hard on guys our age who don't have it together.
Here's why.
There's a mindset that pervades American culture in which couples are expected to build a life together. A couple gets married out of college, goes through a series of ****ty jobs, ****ty apartments, ****ty amounts of debt, ****ty diapers, ya da ya da. They tackle these things as a couple, and overcome them together and make something better for themselves over the years. It's part of our cultural process. It's expected.
When you, a man in your 40's or 50's, meet a girl who's still at the age where she's building a life out of nothing, there's a disconnect. She doesn't know how to handle it. Society hasn't prepared her for this.
Some girls don't want that struggle of building a life together; or at least, they don't want someone to share the load.
This is why money, status, and maturity all matter. Because the younger girls who are attracted to older men -- and man, are they out there! -- are not looking to BUILD a life with somebody. They are either looking to build their own lives independently, or they're slackers and gold-diggers who just want to move into the life that you've built for yourself, already.
I'm dating three girls now, all much younger than me (okay, two and a half girls -- one's away at college but she comes back for winter break next week), all of whom have their own thing going on. Their own careers, their own adventures, no interest (at this point) in kids or moving in together, etc.
I've been through a series of dates with younger women, and I turn and run if she has no job, no aspirations, or if she asks me to take her shopping. (Americanized Asian women are the worst at this, BTW. Wow. Which is a shame, because gray hair and a Porsche are apparently catnip to Asian women.)
But if you don't have yourself -- your finances, your home, your physique, your kids, your ex-wife situation if you have one -- together, then it's just drama for a younger woman. She doesn't want to help you sort your life out. She doesn't want drama. She wants things simple.
If she wanted to baby along somebody who has no money and no position in life, and spend the next ten years patting him on the shoulder and saying things like, "It's okay, baby. We'll make it work somehow," she'd be dating someone from her work, or she'd be out at a dance club hitting on some 25-year-old who's carrying six figures of law school debt, living with roommates, and driving a car he still makes payments on. Somebody who wears square-toed shoes and a digital watch and still thinks that drinking Maker's straight makes him mature.
Girls who want guys our age don't want all the trappings of guys their own age. Some of you are making yourselves nuts trying to "compete" with guys in their 20's. That's insane. The gym culture especially feeds into this.
Get yourselves together. Accumulate what women want, then offer it. They will come. And come. And come. Because one other thing you can offer that a 25-year-old can't -- and they know this -- is an encyclopedic knowledge of ways to bring them to orgasm.
Have fun.
Here's why.
There's a mindset that pervades American culture in which couples are expected to build a life together. A couple gets married out of college, goes through a series of ****ty jobs, ****ty apartments, ****ty amounts of debt, ****ty diapers, ya da ya da. They tackle these things as a couple, and overcome them together and make something better for themselves over the years. It's part of our cultural process. It's expected.
When you, a man in your 40's or 50's, meet a girl who's still at the age where she's building a life out of nothing, there's a disconnect. She doesn't know how to handle it. Society hasn't prepared her for this.
Some girls don't want that struggle of building a life together; or at least, they don't want someone to share the load.
This is why money, status, and maturity all matter. Because the younger girls who are attracted to older men -- and man, are they out there! -- are not looking to BUILD a life with somebody. They are either looking to build their own lives independently, or they're slackers and gold-diggers who just want to move into the life that you've built for yourself, already.
I'm dating three girls now, all much younger than me (okay, two and a half girls -- one's away at college but she comes back for winter break next week), all of whom have their own thing going on. Their own careers, their own adventures, no interest (at this point) in kids or moving in together, etc.
I've been through a series of dates with younger women, and I turn and run if she has no job, no aspirations, or if she asks me to take her shopping. (Americanized Asian women are the worst at this, BTW. Wow. Which is a shame, because gray hair and a Porsche are apparently catnip to Asian women.)
But if you don't have yourself -- your finances, your home, your physique, your kids, your ex-wife situation if you have one -- together, then it's just drama for a younger woman. She doesn't want to help you sort your life out. She doesn't want drama. She wants things simple.
If she wanted to baby along somebody who has no money and no position in life, and spend the next ten years patting him on the shoulder and saying things like, "It's okay, baby. We'll make it work somehow," she'd be dating someone from her work, or she'd be out at a dance club hitting on some 25-year-old who's carrying six figures of law school debt, living with roommates, and driving a car he still makes payments on. Somebody who wears square-toed shoes and a digital watch and still thinks that drinking Maker's straight makes him mature.
Girls who want guys our age don't want all the trappings of guys their own age. Some of you are making yourselves nuts trying to "compete" with guys in their 20's. That's insane. The gym culture especially feeds into this.
Get yourselves together. Accumulate what women want, then offer it. They will come. And come. And come. Because one other thing you can offer that a 25-year-old can't -- and they know this -- is an encyclopedic knowledge of ways to bring them to orgasm.
Have fun.
