Hi guys,
it's been a while since I've been last here. Things have probably changed but women did not
Just wanted to share my recent story with you. Maybe other people can take it as advice because I really hoped to find something like this a few days ago.
So to shorten the intro I'll just say that there was this girl which worked shortly with me in the company with which we clicked visually but since we worked together I didn't do anything.
Later she got fired because we didn't need her anymore and a month later we met at a local disco, I approached and later made out with her.
Shortly after, we began our relationship.
She seemed to be about HB 6-7, smart and funny, was practicing some energy healing techniques and writing, stuff like that.
I was impressed by how good wife material she seemed. Could cook, didn't mind to clean, didn't expect for me to pay for her but accepted it when I did( at the end was still around 50:50 so I can say she didn't use me as a provider of money), she was giving nice heads but wasn't very good in bed, liked nature.
We had nice moments and all the usual stuff seen in movies.
This was about 6 months ago and we were in a relationship till last night.
I wasn't very attracted to her in the beginning and I didn't get a head over heels so I managed to keep my frame strong and lead her. She was already telling me that she loves me, that she wanted to live together and a lot of other compliments to which I didn't pay much attention because they were too early in the relationship, I gave compliments rarely but very efficiently.
Basically I did what I wanted, when I wanted it with her opinion considered but not leading.
Yesterday she was supposed to meet with some guy that she told me she knew from way back and he was supposed to bring some tool for her mother. I didn't pay attention until she started to put on makeup for this guy. Since she usually didn't use much makeup I began to suspect there was something. Later I went trough her phone and found that she was in love with the guy some time ago but he didn't want relationship with her. She was madly in love and "couldn't imagine being married to someone besides him" but he was about to leave for South America. After that I found the message. The message was saying "I'm bored of him(me) but he is giving me what I want" (translation looses some of the meaning but you get the point).
I also saw a message about her meeting with him in the park a month ago when she told me she was alone.
I snapped because this was major disrespect for me and I could not tolerate it, I was ashamed of myself that I had to check her phone to figure this out but glad that I did it. I asked her about the guy and she confessed about having crush on him but nothing ever happened.
Then I told her that earlier I saw a message when she was typing about me when she was scrolling her phone and she told be that it wasn't about me(but I was sure since I saw the conversation). So after we talked shortly at 1 AM I told her to pack her things which wasn't a lot since we weren't living together and I drove her home out of respect for what I thought she was. I told her that I couldn't see the whole message when she was holding her phone and she can tell me what the rest is but she deleted the history and tried to sell me a story about how this message was not about me, how strong her feelings were for me and how happy we are( but if that was the case, why delete it ) . When I asked why did she deleted it, she told me "she didn't want to hurt my feelings". I laughed and told her that she can't lie to me and that I feel pity for her, then left. That completed my decision and neither her cry nor her message in the morning about second changes was changing anything.
In the morning I replied to her message that I can't be with someone who lies to my face. Maybe some else can.
So here I am, a little older, a little wiser. Knowing that I did the right thing and then wondering if I really did.
I don't have much experience for my 25 years but I'll appreciate opinions from you guys if this was the right thing to do and did I mess up.
it's been a while since I've been last here. Things have probably changed but women did not
Just wanted to share my recent story with you. Maybe other people can take it as advice because I really hoped to find something like this a few days ago.
So to shorten the intro I'll just say that there was this girl which worked shortly with me in the company with which we clicked visually but since we worked together I didn't do anything.
Later she got fired because we didn't need her anymore and a month later we met at a local disco, I approached and later made out with her.
Shortly after, we began our relationship.
She seemed to be about HB 6-7, smart and funny, was practicing some energy healing techniques and writing, stuff like that.
I was impressed by how good wife material she seemed. Could cook, didn't mind to clean, didn't expect for me to pay for her but accepted it when I did( at the end was still around 50:50 so I can say she didn't use me as a provider of money), she was giving nice heads but wasn't very good in bed, liked nature.
We had nice moments and all the usual stuff seen in movies.
This was about 6 months ago and we were in a relationship till last night.
I wasn't very attracted to her in the beginning and I didn't get a head over heels so I managed to keep my frame strong and lead her. She was already telling me that she loves me, that she wanted to live together and a lot of other compliments to which I didn't pay much attention because they were too early in the relationship, I gave compliments rarely but very efficiently.
Basically I did what I wanted, when I wanted it with her opinion considered but not leading.
Yesterday she was supposed to meet with some guy that she told me she knew from way back and he was supposed to bring some tool for her mother. I didn't pay attention until she started to put on makeup for this guy. Since she usually didn't use much makeup I began to suspect there was something. Later I went trough her phone and found that she was in love with the guy some time ago but he didn't want relationship with her. She was madly in love and "couldn't imagine being married to someone besides him" but he was about to leave for South America. After that I found the message. The message was saying "I'm bored of him(me) but he is giving me what I want" (translation looses some of the meaning but you get the point).
I also saw a message about her meeting with him in the park a month ago when she told me she was alone.
I snapped because this was major disrespect for me and I could not tolerate it, I was ashamed of myself that I had to check her phone to figure this out but glad that I did it. I asked her about the guy and she confessed about having crush on him but nothing ever happened.
Then I told her that earlier I saw a message when she was typing about me when she was scrolling her phone and she told be that it wasn't about me(but I was sure since I saw the conversation). So after we talked shortly at 1 AM I told her to pack her things which wasn't a lot since we weren't living together and I drove her home out of respect for what I thought she was. I told her that I couldn't see the whole message when she was holding her phone and she can tell me what the rest is but she deleted the history and tried to sell me a story about how this message was not about me, how strong her feelings were for me and how happy we are( but if that was the case, why delete it )
. When I asked why did she deleted it, she told me "she didn't want to hurt my feelings". I laughed and told her that she can't lie to me and that I feel pity for her, then left. That completed my decision and neither her cry nor her message in the morning about second changes was changing anything.In the morning I replied to her message that I can't be with someone who lies to my face. Maybe some else can.
So here I am, a little older, a little wiser. Knowing that I did the right thing and then wondering if I really did.
I don't have much experience for my 25 years but I'll appreciate opinions from you guys if this was the right thing to do and did I mess up.
