Another mistake

[tristan22]

Man, i've been a member here for a while now........when will i ever get the principles i've learned and utilize them 100%?

MY Story:

I've been a customer at a store in the local mall for a while, and this one girl has flirted with me each and every time i go in there. Based on our conversations, she typically dates black guys and NFL players (former Ohio State players). NO biggie, i'm getting the she's interested in me vibe so i proceed.

Anyways being my naive self, i took it upon myself to get her number; based on our established rapport and her constant flirting. What the heck, she flirts with me, why not get her number and try to score a touchdown?

I call and schedule a date during her break at work. The night before our date, she calls and says she can't make it because she has an unexpected meeting (she's a manager). "Tristan i can't make the date tomorrow, i called so you don't waste a trip up here. I'm available next week, call me".

I called, left a message; 2 days later.....NO REPLY.

PHONE NUMBER = IN THE TRASH!.

I should of known this girl wasn't for me. I'm just an average white dude, i'm not rich, i don't play pro football. I hate it when a girl gives you good vibes, her phone number, and then decides to flake on you. WTF, i guess she can continue getting played by the high rollers.

Can you say NEXT

 

[diablo]

It sounds to me like the girl wanted to lead you on a bit. From what you said, it seems like she spent a lot of time talking about the guys that she dates, and how great they all are... either she's trying to make herself feel important (and everyone wants to believe that other people see them as being important) or she's trying to make you feel unimportant. From how she flirted, I'd say it's the former. Either way, the girl definitely isn't for you if she already blew you off, so to speak. Time for you to find another girl - and thank god that you didn't make a post saying "THIS GURL GAVE ME HER NUMBER AND NOW I CANT TALK TO HER CUZ SHE DOESNT CALL BAK SO WHAT DO I DO GUYS TELL ME HOW TO LAY HER". There's enough of those now on this board to last a year...

Oh, and one last thing... if she's dating these guys bringing in millions of dollars a year, why on earth would she still be working for pennies at a mall? I'd have thought that guys like that would take care of the woman they're seeing... Maybe things aren't as she would have you believe them to be.

 

[JT47319]

Originally posted by tristan22

Can you say NEXT

You can't NEXT a girl until you fyck her. Otherwise it's just her NEXTING you and you just realizing it's time to move on.

You NEXT a girl when you've had your way with her and decide you don't want to deal with her drama or other stuff.

You could always try and practice your phone game on her.

 

[RabidDog]

Re: Re: Another mistake

Originally posted by JT47319
You can't NEXT a girl until you fyck her. Otherwise it's just her NEXTING you and you just realizing it's time to move on.

You NEXT a girl when you've had your way with her and decide you don't want to deal with her drama or other stuff.

What?

/rereads

Whaat?

/rereads

No, seriously.. Whaaaat?

 

[JT47319]

Re: Re: Re: Another mistake

Originally posted by RabidDog
What?

/rereads

Whaat?

/rereads

No, seriously.. Whaaaat?

NEXTing occurs when you have the superior attraction in the relationship. As in one person decides to NEXT someone deciding that they aren't worth the effort because they are of LOWER value.

Until you've actually DONE something with her (demonstrating high value and attraction), it's her NEXTing you because the ORIGINAL choice was hers. Of course, it's still a healthy attitude to move on instead of obsessively chasing ala AFC. I suppose it's just a question of semantics.

One option is for the original poster is to think of it more like an exercise. A practice in skills like phone gaming and rebuilding attraction, etc. Screw her and then NEXT her for the heck of it.

Just a thought.

 

[tristan22]

1. I didn't elaborate on how she flirted with with me, however i can detect when a girl is flirting with me or not(i've been in the game long enough).

2. She didn't come right out and tell me what type of guys she dates, she just mentioned flying down to Joey Galloways house with some girlfriends and spending the weekend partying. She's also all about hip hop and hip hop culture; so basically i'm making assumptions.

3. DO you guys think her voicemail is broken? ....j/k

4. I nexted her, i had the situation in my hands, not the other way around JT47319. I asked for the number, i called her and asked her to go out, she didn't reciprocate so f-her.

Tristan

 

[honeyshark]

Tristan,
You did fine. It didn't work. Don't beat yourself up about it.

Peace.

 

[ToughGuy]

Excellent Tristan22,
You did it but did it late.
You should not have given her another call, she didn't deserve it

Forget her. and move on to the new adventure.
you don't need her in your life.

 

[maranathaman]

Originally posted by [T]he ishop

Oh, and one last thing... if she's dating these guys bringing in millions of dollars a year, why on earth would she still be working for pennies at a mall? I'd have thought that guys like that would take care of the woman they're seeing... Maybe things aren't as she would have you believe them to be.

I think she's seeing Cobee-Bryant on the side! (OOpps! Wrong-Sport! My BAD! )

 

[maranathaman]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Another mistake

Originally posted by JT47319
NEXTing occurs when you have the superior attraction in the relationship. As in one person decides to NEXT someone deciding that they aren't worth the effort because they are of LOWER value.

Until you've actually DONE something with her (demonstrating high value and attraction), it's her NEXTing you because the ORIGINAL choice was hers. Of course, it's still a healthy attitude to move on instead of obsessively chasing ala AFC. I suppose it's just a question of semantics.

One option is for the original poster is to think of it more like an exercise. A practice in skills like phone gaming and rebuilding attraction, etc. Screw her and then NEXT her for the heck of it.

Just a thought.

While you ARE techinically right that she "nexted" him 1st.
He was also right to "Next" her in His mind
as a result of her behavior,
rather than to keep trying to get with her as an AFC would do.
He was right to move-on/next-her. When a be-atch treats you
with no respect, then it's time to cut your loses, move-on,
and learn what you can from the experience...

 

[Belgium_Freak]

i would'v said this one she told to call next week :

Her : i can't make it, call me next week
Me : there's so much stuff on my mind these days, i don't think i'm gonna remember that. But i tell you what, i'm free on friday next week if you want to go out give me a call.

Who the fvck does she think she is, letting YOU chase her ass ? She should be the one chasing you by calling for dates, not the other way around.

 

[AlwaysExcel]

Tristan, what do you feel was the mistake? Trying with this chick or calling back and leaving a message?
I don't think you made any major mistakes. The girl wasn't interested enough. At least you made yourself try and didn't just dangle hopefully on her flirtation. You called her bluff.

This is just the tip of the iceberg with female flakiness btw. I just had a girl contacting me constantly and asked me out on a 3rd date. We get all hot and heavy. I get her off (I'm talking moaning my name, bucking her hips, clutching me, and biting me). Then she stops the action without getting me off. BAM! The VERY next day she's cold and now is totally disinterested in me. Whatever!
So even if you follow the rules, memorize all the techniques, and do everything right, the chick can still flake. It's all about keeping centered and moving the fvck on.

 

[tristan22]

1. I swear, i'm beginning to think it's all a "meant to be" kind of situation when you find a girl who doesn't play games and flake on you. I personally think signals are worthless, however considering how terrible my love life has been lately, i just might start paying more attention to the females dispostition (to weed out all the disinterested flakes).

2. I don't understand why some girls flirt with you, give off "i like you" vibes, give you their number, and then flake on you. Maybe i don't know as much about the game as i think i do!

3. I shop in her store quite a bit, how should i react when i eventually run into her?


Thanks again!

tristan

 

[JustDoItAlways]

BITTCH!

Actually, I think JT has a good point here and NEXT should be reserved for when you have the upper hand, fvck her and then drop her or decide to not give her another chance.

The new terminology for this situation should be "BLEW IT, TIME TO CUT HER" or BITTCH! for short. Definitely a better descriptor.

 

[Seeph]

HAHA that is great.. "BITTCH!" props to that.

Tristan.. You will never learn 100%. It wasnt your fault she flaked.. when a hot girl leads you on (or whatever it seems at the time) it's hard to resist. The only thing you should have done different was when she called to flake say something like "If you really want to do something you'll call me" with C+F attitude.. or just make it sound as though she didnt phase you.