Another Asian girls post

[Gonzalo]

Hello people. So this girl has been sending mixed signs (cracks at my CF, asking me to go grab lunch/whatever, then taking her sweet time to return a call, you know the drill). As a regular reader of this site the words "attention hoe" come to my mind. Thing is I have been getting good vibes from her and don't feel like nexting without trying some final DJ test.
Ok circumstances are like this: This girl is Asian (Korean) but lived most of her life in Central Americal (speaks fluent Spanish). I'm Latin. We both study in the US. Girl usually hangs out with her korean clique like nail and flesh, especiall on weekends.
What I'm thinking is just looking for the appropriate time and just planting one on her and see her reaction. I guess my question is, do you guys go for the kiss test or something of the sort at times other than "during/after" the date when the traditional didn't-call-next doesn't seem to cut it? Comments appreciated. G

 

[HuuBinh]

instead of the kiss which i think is ineffective in this case. Since your getting good vibes from her, why don't you withdraw your attention and let her respond.

 

[Chewy Bagel]

ASK HER OUT!

Here's some help:

I've found that liquor helps lubricate things and make the first date situation more comfortable for both people - making out with someone isn't always very comfortable... It's those first awkward moments of you leaning over..then...bam! It's all good from there.

For a macking date, I usually go to a trendy bar, or favorite local hangout with alot of charm as these places are good for drinking and relaxing.

After the date, taker her to your place (or hers). Once you're there, try to plant one on her. Usually, the couch or bed is the best place to mack. Again, it is awkward to lean over and just do it, but it's worth it - I mean, it is the goal, right?

I'll admit, I am Mr. Un-Smooth when it comes to starting a make-out session. I've been known to be watching tv with a girl, grab the remote during a commercial, say, "ok, that's enough of this", turn the tv off, then turn to her and plant one on her. Hell, it works for me.

I think that it is best to kiss a girl during a date - not just out-of-the-blue. I've never just turned and kissed a girl outside of a date (unless I had just met her at the bar and was looking for a ONS). I always took girlies out to a bar and then kissed. (you'll noticed that I use past tense - I'm in a 5-year LTR right now)

Good Luck!

CB

 

[Gonzalo]

Thanks guys, good stuff.

Huu Binh, yeah I've been withdrawing the attention I think that's the reason she's been showing more interest lately.

I'll see how it goes after I get back from break. Any other comments/experiences on 'isolating Asian girls from the clique' welcome. G

 

[Jake Steed]

Gonzalo,

I haven't dated a Korean girl yet, but some of my buds are Koreans and according to them, Korean girls ARE very clique-ish (as are the guys too). The fact that she grew up in centro-america DOES help you out some, but since she runs with a Korean crowd, she's going to feel STRONG pressure from her friends to date a Korean guy. For her to date you, she would have to be the kind of girl who is very progressive-thinking and open minded. Only you know for sure if this girl is like that. What kind of guys has she dated in the past?

The best way to deal with asian girls is to treat them like they're non-asian. Just completely ignore their race, unless they bring it up themselves. If you focus on race, you will creep them out.

About "isolating her from the clique"-- you're really going to have a hard time doing that. If you try to isolate her, she's going to feel a subconscious pressure from you--like she has to choose you or her friends. That is bad. You'd actually be better off becomming friends with her friends, that way they will give you their stamp of approval.

Jake

 

[whoa]

just tell her how much you like bulgogi and shin ramen and your set

 

[coin]

I had a very similar experience with an Asian girl very recently. Search for my recent posts and read up on the responses - see if any of the signs match.

I withheld the attention and she came roaring back - but then when I asked her out again, she flaked hardcore.

I'm going to go back to the ganji but I am not expecting anything this time (actually I wasn't expecting anything the first time either).

 

[tiburon]

ok --- Brother

Dude i have heard from this girl since the first time you met her............I know that if i was in your situation what i would had done but we both know we are different DJs. Nevertheless i would admit i would be confused. The kiss idea is not bad because it would atleast set her in her place and tell her to stop playiong games.. As far as effective goes.....i dont think so. She will be embarassed and very weird about approaching you next time but she will respect you thata fro sure. But if you do it and she doesnt kiss you then you need to next her bad...meaning you dont even look at her you ignore her etc..


I dont think the kisss is bad because i honestly think she should had been nexted a long time ago , but i know where you are coming from.


I would either give her even less attention almost to the point of plainly ignoring her. Then ask her out one final time ...and i am sure you know what to do from there....make sure you ignore her hard first....before you ask her out .



Tiburon

 

[Who is John Galt?]

If she is rational your chances are good

First of all, the vast majority of Asians do not think in racial terms; they think in ethnic terms. For her a Chinese guy would be almost as different as a non-Asian guy. If she is rational she will realize how few Koreans are where she lives. Thenumber of good-looking Korean males is even lower. Therefore, if she is rational, she will be very open to dating non-Koreans.

 

[sql]

if she lived most of her life in central america, id imagine she'd be bi-cultural. it must be a beautiful thing to hear fluent spanish spoken from an asian woman's lips.

dont next anyone unless you're certain they are not interested in you. until you've reached that conclusion you should be djing. =T

hmm. id suggest you ask her to hang out and do something low key together. create opportunities for her to be intimate with you. if she really is into you, she'll take advantage of that and open herself up to you. but if shes not ready or hasnt made up her mind yet, she wont do anything. but dont despair if she doesnt.

its like a dance, you guide her in one direction, and see if she follows. keep leading her where you wanna go as long as she'll let you. just make sure you both know you're about to kiss so she doesnt get freaked out or anything.

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