Anny sugestions about my appearance?

[Huffman]

Man f*ck the gym. You probably look better than most guys here. You're a natural "pretty boy".

If you go to the gym, you're going to bust your ass off for years before you'll be noticeable more beautiful. Worse, you're going to detract from the REAL issue, your mind, confidence, experience.

 

[hudpes]

Because he looks kinda puny. Women want to feel protected. This is one of the basic things that women are attracted to, and one of the major male gender roles: Protector. Nothing wrong with being skinny, but when you're very skinny it looks like another guy could come along and stuff you into a locker.

An acquaintance that is actually puny, tall and wiry, doesn't look too handsome, scored a girl anyone could envy. Now, she either left her guide dog and stick at home, or she doesn't mind him being puny.

The gym won't hurt him, but he should only do it if he feels like it. Not because of girls. Agreed?

 

[apprenticedj]

You're a good looking dude so be thankful for the cards you were dealt. I'd say you could look a little more masculine, maybe grow some facial (if possible) and hit the gym to add some bulk.

I would say you should clean up with hipster chicks, hot-nerd types. Now the wild, bad girls probably won't go for you because you do have a "pretty" look but don't worry about that, just work to your strengths.

As others have said though, confidence is key. Your looks should open some doors or at the very least you're not going to get shot down for being ugly but you gotta be able to chat and talk.

 

[In2theGame]

Start putting on muscle mass and you will be alright. Your not a bad looking guy and im sure you can pick up girls now but that skinny look may hold you back slightly. Im certain if you build up muscle and leaned out, you would look pretty good and can pick up many woman easily IMO.

 

[In2theGame]

BTW you remind me of a baby Steve Cook wit no muscle at all lol but seriously you could look similar to him if you added mass over the years. http://i.imgur.com/czhvXKw.jpg

 

[In2theGame]

I'm confused, why does he need the gym? Perhaps I've been living in a delusion that ladies don't go for the visuals but for what a man exudes?

Women love a strong masculine looking Man. Muscles are a big sign to Women that the guy could protect himself/her and throw her around in bed and make her feel "girly".

 

[hudpes]

Yes, but you only have to look bigger than her, it doesn't have to be pure lean shredded muscle. You just put on weight, don't get too fat and you'll be allright.

 

[PokerJohn94]

Thanks guys for all the responses. I really appreciate this. I really do feel like going to gym, and I will do it. Need to wait they paycheck tho. But I won't become a gym monkey. The gym does boost ones confidence. I was attending gym 2 years ago. Yesterday I read my SS posts from that time, and I noticed how better off I was than. I have to admit, at that time a lot was going for me, but this past year has not been good, so I have lost my ego and my balls as well.

For me I feel like a gym is a must, but I liked the point Huffman brought up (and of course everyone who said I am lacking inner game). I all ready see my self, how I make plans to improve - fix teeth, get better posture attain gym like crazy, improve how I speak, and still don't get out, don't make approaches, and gain no experience. No. I need to attain gym, but I also need to get out more, and make approaches. That is the real battle for me.

So the game plan - When I will get my paycheck, I'll join a gym. I work from 10 am till 7 pm ( gay hours, I know ), so I will do an intense workout before work. When I go home from work I will start to talk to strangers. Attractive girls only. At the beggining not like pickup, but I will just ask for directions, until I get comfortable with it. Later on I'll try to crack a joke and so on. Making baby steps but consistent and every day. About this got the ball rolling yesterday. On my way to home asked a 4 really hot girls for directions. On the last one, she seemed to be rushing with earphones on. Still stopped her to ask. She did seem annoyed tho. I know that it is nothing to ask strangers directions (abbey steps remember), but at least I started to do SOMETHING! Cheers!

 

[Atom Smasher]

OP, your smile looks disingenuous of course because you are self-conscious about your teeth.

You can compensate somewhat by smiling with your eyes. That is really where the smile comes from... the eyes. The mouth is incidental. Start a bank account and put a tiny bit of money away every paycheck for dental work. Just start with the tiniest amount... your contributions to it will grow. I just spent $20,000 on my own grill a couple of months ago and now I have to beat the ladies off with a stick. That's a combination of my own confidence having great teeth and also the fact that I look much better.

Secondly, you don't have the look of a powerful man... yet. I can clearly see that you are right on the edge of that and can pull it off. Meditate on this:

Women are air. Men are earth. Attach yourself to the earth. Plant yourself down and stay GROUNDED. Powerful men are not flighty and ethereal like women. They are grounded to the earth. When you stand, imagine yourself connecting with and anchoring to the earth. You will start to develop a more masculine mindset and it will start to manifest in your looks.

The guys are right... You need to hit the gym or work out at home. You don't need to become ripped. Just do it for yourself. Whenever I work out, I tell myself "This is my gift to myself". It is an act of love and respect to myself. Women will sense something different about a man with that attitude.

Get grounded, work out, and start a fund for your teeth (the amount doesn't matter. You can start it with some pocket change in a plastic cup). Smile with your eyes. You will find out what that means if you meditate on it.