Annoying ****blocking friend pestering my girl!!!

[Ripped]

Some of you might remember this from this thread . I brought a mate along with my girl and a few of her friends for a night out. *I* got him my girls friends number, and he tried it on with her but the interest wasnt there. Anyway he is still being suave with her, calling her heaps, messaging her, etc.

Background on the guy - he gets a lot of girls, and currently is speaking to a few. At the same time he gets overly profound and sentimental, and loves talking about himself, etc. He has money, ambitions, etc, but is a little stuck up, and uses people.

Thing is now, he has begun to message and phone my girl a LOT, trying to take her out, etc. He has no interest in her as such, he just likes to feed his ego by telling others hes going out with his mates girl, etc. However it is ****ting me up the ****ing wall. It is disrespectful and arrogant... we have been mates for 6 years, he barely knows my girl, and yet he thinks he can ring her at all hours, be a smart ass, etc and pretend as if it doesn't matter.

My woman thinks he is annoying, but doesn't really have the guts to just tell him to **** off, she just puts up with it. I want to give him a piece of my mind, without coming across as insecure... because I really just think he should have some respect, back off, and stop trying to be the center of attention all the time. Thing is with him he is innapropriately overbearing...

Any thoughts as to how I can calmy tell him to **** off and butt out would be appreciated .

 

[Ripped]

...Well she doesnt exactly "put up with it". She pretty much blocks every attempt he makes at being funny to her, but she doesnt outright tell him to **** off.

 

[dietzcoi]

SHE needs to tell him to fvck off, if she does not, she is encouraging him.

He is not your friend, by the way...

Looks like trouble ahead to me.

DIetzcoi

 

[squirrels]

She SHOULD tell him off. Tell her to just tell him she's not interested and to stop calling. If he doesn't, THEN you may want to step in.

If she's started to get uncomfortable/angry about it, you may want to drop a hint with him..."Hey man, you need to stop calling xxxxx...she's starting to get p!ssed off."

I'd also ask him, in a joking tone, but with a hint of seriousness underneath, why the hell he's trying to mack your girl. Not because you're worried he might succeed, but because if you guys ARE friends, it's disrespectful to you.

If it's not cool for you for your friends to be trying to pork your girl, then they shouldn't be trying (if they ARE your friends). That's not being insecure, that's getting irritated at being disrespected.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

Just chin the bastard and be done with it.

 

[Shot Callin]

Dude, I don't see what the problem is... if you don't like him calling your girl, and hell I wouldn't either, just tell him to stop. Its that simple... next time you talk to him, just tell him to stop calling her. No harm done. If he asks why either tell him its pissing you off or if you want to be sorta pvssy about it say that it is making her uncomfortable, and she didn't want to tell him.

Just be upfront in life, handle situations as they come up, don't wait around. People will respect you more when you speak your mind, and they will learn to fvck with someone else not you.

This guy sounds like the type of person that will push and push, but as soon as you tell him to stop (like a man) he will immediately back off because his respect for you will rise. That is how it works in the business world.

 

[Ripped]

Thankyou! I didn't expect people to actually see where I was coming from. And SC the problem is that I am just shocked he is doing this, we've been mates for 6 years so the thing I needed help with was a way to tell him to **** off; because I simply didn't expect him to be like this. And yes he is a ****... biggest mistake ever bringing the ****wit along. I almost feel like breaking off with the girl and him alltogether so I can start fresh without it being tainted by that wanker...

Thanks again guys, the responses all have good value.

 

[white_hype]

Originally posted by Ripped
Thankyou! I didn't expect people to actually see where I was coming from. And SC the problem is that I am just shocked he is doing this, we've been mates for 6 years so the thing I needed help with was a way to tell him to **** off; because I simply didn't expect him to be like this. And yes he is a ****... biggest mistake ever bringing the ****wit along. I almost feel like breaking off with the girl and him alltogether so I can start fresh without it being tainted by that wanker...

Thanks again guys, the responses all have good value.

is this a ****ing joke? man ripped, hearing this makes me think youre some kind of new breed pu$$y...

what kind of person are you? you have been friends with a guy for 6 yrs and youre still afraid of hurting his feelings or whatever your f4g reason is for not telling him whats up? (i.e WTF R U DOING TRYING TO GO OUT WITH MY GF?)

i dont know about you guys but me/my frineds bust on eachother all the time (make fun of) and they would never do that but if they did id immediately ask him what they are doing and to stop (They would NEVER DO THAT though)

this guy sounds like a tool and just b/c you talk to a lot of girls doesnt mean you get a lot of girls (i have a freidn who always gets numbers but stuff rarely ever happens btwn them)

GROW SOME BALLS YOU DAM PU$$Y YOU ARE THE "WANKER"

 

[Ripped]

Ahhh **** man I know, you're right, you're right . Thats one thing I do need to work on, speaking my mind. At least now I am recognising the problems. Cheers

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Your girl likes him!!!! When she breaks it off with you, she'll be on his jock!!! Or maybe she is on him now!!!

Your girl is obviously encouraging him, otherwise he wouldn't be wasting his time! I think she is purosely misleading you. Keep an eye on your girl and look for signs of her interest in you dropping.

 

[Player_Supreme]

1. You call this fool a friend? What do you call an enemy. He is more like a jackal bitting at your heels.

2. You need to man up and set ya boy straight. Then you need to tell your ho to represent and tell him to fawk off!

3. Then dump that loser so-called friend!

 

[DJ_Dork]

play it cool, she's telling ya everything. play it his way... invite them both out to something and knock down his ego (make fun of him.)

 

[jbbrain]

ohh, the fvckin pessimists on this board...where would we be without them..

Your girl likes him? Watch out for signs that she's losing interest? Keep an eye out on her? Sounds like a whole bunch of 'chump'...

There's not enough information to support any sort of claim that you should 'worry' (why you should worry in the 1st place beats me) that she wants his nuts. HOWEVER, i'll bet anything that she doesn't mind the extra attention he's been giving her. I wouldn't worry too much about that, most chicks are like that anyways. The issue isn't with you and her.

It's between you and him. He's your friend? Some friend trying to mack up on your girlfriend..reprimand this fool, and fast. He's acting out of line with an over inflated ego. You gotta let this sucker know his place and bring him down to size a little. But don't act all puzzy and insecure about it when you straighten out e.g. "Listen Mannnnnn, I really don't appreciate you trying to call up my girrrrlfriend...duuude.."

Be that ****y, snarky and funny motherfvcker that you are and ask him why he's always going hyena on your ass and trying to steal your 'leftovers'(even if it is your gf..the 'leftover' part is what is going to make him realize what a chump he really is).

Straighten this 'pimp' out and do it straight up, but do it knowing that he needs you to find his proper place.

 

[DJmonster]

This guy is not your friend! Seriously, tell him to piss off, and then cut contact with him. So what if you've known him for so long. Be honest with yourself and figure out if its really worth having this guy in your life.

As for your girl; she probably likes the attention, thats why she can't say no. Don't let it bother you. Just have as much fun with her as possible. Don't ever worry about her interest in other guys. All that matters is her interest level in you, because that is the only thing you can control. If you sense her ineterest level in you has dropped, then you need to work on that. If you don't think it is worth it, then brake up with her. Otherwise, be more of a challenge (withdraw from her a bit, spend time with other girls, work on your self-improvement)

Good luck,

Monster