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That this woman gets aroused from men losing their sh!t shows that she's attracted to negative male aggression. And she thinks other women are the same, whereas most women feel unsafe when a man is not in control of his emotions, especially aggressive displays of anger.
As a woman, there can be a paradox when it comes to being sexually attracted and long term relationship.

Long term we want "safe" but that initial sexual attraction often stems from feeling uncertain and unsafe.

I watched the video and my sense was she isn't saying women are attracted to negative male aggression.

What she's saying is women are attracted to men who don't fear expressing anger when warranted, when he's bothered by a certain behavior to speak up, assertively and honestly making no apologies.

Versus acting aloof, withdrawing, employing "silence and distance" as is so often advocated here.

Personally I view the former as strong and the latter as weak.

Below is an article from Psychology Today discussing why some women (certainly not all) are sexually attracted to the darker sides of a man's personality. Which does include anger when warranted. Not "losing his shyt," that's extreme. There's a balance.

A good example is Jeff Bridges in the movie "Against All Odds," great flick!

 
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Women aren't attracted more to men they can manipulate into emotional outbursts
I'm with you on this, although it is repeated in some places that women do it to be punished. Sometimes they tease the man because he is "too lazy", to make him change, to make him become aggressive so that he can put them back in their place when they make a mistake. My grandmother told me this too, who did it a few times with my grandfather, but she did it to test if my grandfather was in control of the situation. Now I don't know if it's normal, but this is what she told me.

What she's saying is women are attracted to men who don't fear expressing anger when warranted, when he's bothered by a certain behavior to speak up, assertively and honestly making no apologies.

Versus acting aloof, withdrawing, employing "silence and distance" as is so often advocated here.

Personally I view the former as strong and the latter as weak.
That's exactly what I was talking about. They would you to be loud when you have to put them back. Not that you have an emotional outburst.

Now, what a man absolutely must have in his skillset, is the way he responds to different situations, so knowing when to use detachment and when to be direct.

Personally, I'm working on this since I'm really the "passive" version of the masculine energy, so I need to know when to reply with "tone" of voice.
 
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I might be in the minority here, but sometimes you have to show anger, with certain woman.

If you don't show anger, with certain women, they will abuse you.

I have an Italian old lady - she was raised in an Italian household - and if I don't press her, then I will eventually regret it.

They're an outspoken people. They expect to be talked over.

Talk over them or be talked over, kid
 
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