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As a woman, there can be a paradox when it comes to being sexually attracted and long term relationship.That this woman gets aroused from men losing their sh!t shows that she's attracted to negative male aggression. And she thinks other women are the same, whereas most women feel unsafe when a man is not in control of his emotions, especially aggressive displays of anger.
Long term we want "safe" but that initial sexual attraction often stems from feeling uncertain and unsafe.
I watched the video and my sense was she isn't saying women are attracted to negative male aggression.
What she's saying is women are attracted to men who don't fear expressing anger when warranted, when he's bothered by a certain behavior to speak up, assertively and honestly making no apologies.
Versus acting aloof, withdrawing, employing "silence and distance" as is so often advocated here.
Personally I view the former as strong and the latter as weak.
Below is an article from Psychology Today discussing why some women (certainly not all) are sexually attracted to the darker sides of a man's personality. Which does include anger when warranted. Not "losing his shyt," that's extreme. There's a balance.
A good example is Jeff Bridges in the movie "Against All Odds," great flick!
The Sexual Appeal of Dark Personalities
There’s an interesting paradox in the literature on attraction. While people say they’re attracted to nice partners, they simultaneously report attraction to "dark" personalities.
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