Anger still harbouring

[Rollo Tomassi]

Originally posted by yendor28
Since my breakup I have become so much fitter and stronger from teh gym (renewed vigour)

Heh,..

Nothing packs on lean muscle mass as well as a bad break up.

 

[RedPill]

Originally posted by yendor28
Chatting to some of my DJ friends and we all agree that there are guys out there who can seduce virtually anyone, if only for a night.

It happens a lot. Now I know what you say about the girl which I fully understand but I still feel the guys like that are also the problem.

I am not alone either in that in the past men would literally die for fighting for a woman.

I wonder where that has gone

*sidenote: I also find that girls love 2 guys fighting for them so perhaps create the situation?

You've already received good advice on how to deal with your anger/pain, hopefully it helps. I'd say it's not a good thing though to bury that hurt deep in your mind and let it be "dormant" as you put it. That's just asking for it to surface someday, perhaps in a future relationship. Seeing these events in your life as an experience instead of memories that conjure up terrible emotions - that's a healthier perspective.

From what you just posted about fighting for a woman, I get the impression that you long for this time. This was a different point in human history. Back before there was casual sex and people got bored easily. Back before the club scene and divorce court. Back when people's emotions carried the day. There was no real mass media or feminism, etc. I've harboured a lot of anger in the past from my AFC days, much of it from dealings with women, but one day I realized that much of my anger was sustained by hanging on to a mental model of the world that just doesn't exist anymore. When I truly accepted things the way they are, instead of the way I wanted them to be, all of a sudden it didn't hurt to think of my previous experiences anymore. That's when I took the red pill, and all aspects of my life changed.

Yendor, I'm not pretending to know what's going on in your mind, but your post I quoted seemed to indicate to me that you're hanging on to an impossible ideal, which might be why it's so challenging for you to think about your experience with this particular girl. Hope this was helpful in some way.

 

[WestCoaster]

Fighting over a woman not worth it

While I'll agree, some guys do need a fistful of knuckles and I can think of a guy or two I wish I would've popped, in the long run it's probably not worth it.

Fighting over a woman? Definitely not worth it.

Here's a guy who died in a bar fight -- and the assaulter is going to pay.

Once again, it's not worth it ... no one cares if you're tough or not, the ESPN cameras aren't rolling to document how tough you are:

http://www.idahostatesman.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20060126/NEWS01/601260345

 

[DoubleA]

Yeah

Drink some prune juice and let that sh1t go.

That's yesterday. Live for today.

 

[Heretolearn]

Thank you everyone.

Wlydfire: understand your post and right on but she did not 'cheat' in the normal understanding of the word she just became interested in another guy through her and his actions whilst in a relationship with me. That to me is still cheating but it does not make her a bad person. The issue is she did nothing wrong.

She is a good person and I know that even though I pretend not to. She is not perfect and not a good partner for me at this time. But she is good and acted like a human with values which I respect, although do not agree with. But you are right about my feelings of rejection etc but instead of focusing on the girl like I usually would, I am not (because I know it is a lie, she just acted the way she knows) hence I think that is why I have turned to focus the energy on the guy.

Ultimately I just want to get rid of this weight but both roads above are going nowhere!

I will find a way to cry my own way *and not in prison with a guy called bubba just because I hit some stranger

Originally posted by RedPill
You've already received good advice on how to deal with your anger/pain, hopefully it helps. I'd say it's not a good thing though to bury that hurt deep in your mind and let it be "dormant" as you put it. That's just asking for it to surface someday, perhaps in a future relationship. Seeing these events in your life as an experience instead of memories that conjure up terrible emotions - that's a healthier perspective.

From what you just posted about fighting for a woman, I get the impression that you long for this time. This was a different point in human history. Back before there was casual sex and people got bored easily. Back before the club scene and divorce court. Back when people's emotions carried the day. There was no real mass media or feminism, etc. I've harboured a lot of anger in the past from my AFC days, much of it from dealings with women, but one day I realized that much of my anger was sustained by hanging on to a mental model of the world that just doesn't exist anymore. When I truly accepted things the way they are, instead of the way I wanted them to be, all of a sudden it didn't hurt to think of my previous experiences anymore. That's when I took the red pill, and all aspects of my life changed.

Yendor, I'm not pretending to know what's going on in your mind, but your post I quoted seemed to indicate to me that you're hanging on to an impossible ideal, which might be why it's so challenging for you to think about your experience with this particular girl. Hope this was helpful in some way.

SPOT ON!

I live in such a different planet. I do not even long for different times. I just live my life the way I want it (not like society at all). All my gfs have felt pressured that they cannot meet my expectations and the way I live my life.

It shall be interesting how it works out

thank you!