Angelo's path to enlightenment... a long one.

[Angelo]

I have always had trouble with women, matter of fact I only had one girlfriend in my life so far, which I ended because she ended up being needy/crazy, but it was only short-term. I am not going to post the AFC things I've done in the past (high school) and how embarrassing they were, I will just tell you that they were some major AFC sh!t that will make all of you cringe..

Right now, I am dating a woman who seems to have her own life and is not needy, she's fun to be with and really outgoing. It's great to be with her and all, but I just don't think she has as much interest in me as I'd like to think. So for this reason I want to start approaching and getting know more women. Would like to go on dates with different women that I like so I can pick and choose who I really want in the end. And oh yeah, guys, I'm still a virgin

So if you guys are interested and want some entertainment lol then follow this thread because I will post every boring and exciting things that are about to happen with my dating life.

 

[Angelo]

Yesterday, I went to my local college earlier than I usually do just so I can practice speaking with strangers, especially with women I'd consider dating. So I decided to go to the library since there are always HBs there being bored out of there mind and needing some entertainment. I immediately spotted this HB7 sitting by herself flipping through a magazine so I decided that I wanted to approach.

I grabbed myself a magazine I'd enjoy reading if I decided to p*ssy out of the approach. Anyways, as I sat down with her I greeted her with a Hello.

Angelo: Hello
HB7: Hi
Angelo: I like your glasses..
HB7: You do?
Angelo: Yeah... where'd you get them?
HB7: Oh I got in the mall.
Angelo: Really? How much?
HB7: blah blah blah..
Angelo: So where are you from?
HB7: Oh I'm from Nepal blah blah blah

We talked for about an hour. I found out that she's an accounting major and is working for 2 companies and that she has a boyfriend.. Soon she had to go and meet her mechanic that was going to pick up her car in the college to get it fixed. She left, then I decided to go down to the cafeteria 10 minutes later, and this is when it got interesting..

So I got out of the cafeteria with nothing in my hand because the food were so damn expensive! It just happened that she saw me on my way out while she was using the microwave to heat her meal..

HB7: You didn't get anything??
Angelo: Noo.. I didn't like anything in there.
HB7: Well maybe you'll like my food, I'll share.
Angelo: Hmmm.. Idk, I'll think about it, I might join you.
HB7: Haha you might join me?
Angelo: Yeah... well you know what that smells really good so I'll go ahead and eat with you.
HB7: Okay, go grab a plate and fork
Angelo: *grabs plate and fork*

We went outside of the cafeteria and decided to eat outside in the sun. The food was delicious! They were dumplings with 2 different kind of sauces to dip them in, and they were spicy, the way I like it!

HB7: Omg Idk why I am talking to you
Angelo: Haha
HB7: I usually don't talk to people, and now I am even sharing my food!
Angelo: Hah must be a sign
HB7: Haha this is fun!
Angelo: blah blah blah
HB7: blah blah blah

So we talked for about 30 minutes. I was making her laugh, applying kino on her, teasing her, made her talk about herself while I retain a sense of mystery about myself. Later on we both had to go so I went in and asked for her number, and of course she gave it to me. As I walk to my class I had this feeling of excitement after what just happened.

Like I said she told me she has a boyfriend. But I'll probably still call her this Sunday.

 

[Angelo]

So today I went to my college. I went straight to the cafeteria since that is where the girls are at during this time, it was around 11 am. While I was looking around for food I saw my 2 friends and decided to join them. While I was in line I noticed this blonde ( I f!cking love blondes) HB8 with her friend in front of me. I decided to try my luck.

Angelo: I like your shoes!
HB8: Oh thaaaank youuu!! *with a big smile on her face*
Angelo: Where'd you get them?
HB8: Haha I don't even remember
Angelo: Really? I think if you click them together you'll go back to Vegas.
HB8: HAHAHAHAHA!! But nooo
Angelo: No? Why not?!
HB8: The ones in Vegas are stilettos.
Angelo: Oh, what's the difference? I am bad with names
HB8: Those ones have heels on them
Angelo: Oh ok.

The conversation faded from there... What I noticed is that I need to carry the conversation through. I could have asked what her name was and then introduced myself after making her laugh, but I didn't. Somehow I just couldn't do it, maybe I hesitated because I paid too much attention on how good she looks, man she's the girl I'd want to f*ck! I could have also applied kino, but again, I didn't. These are the things I need to work on, next time.

After eating with my friends we decided to go by my classroom while I wait for my class to start.. I spotted a blonde sitting by herself, she was only HB6 at best, but I decided she would be a good practice.

Angelo: Hey, I like your sunglasses.
HB6: Oh thanks.
Angelo: Where'd you get them?
HB6: Costco
Angelo: blah blah blah
HB6: blah
Angelo: blah blah
HB6: bla
Angelo: blah see you around blah *walked away*

See, what I'm beginning to notice is that hotter girls are much more open to be talked to than the ones that aren't that hot. Why? Beats me... But I have a theory. Maybe hotter girls are easier to talk to because they are much more social, while others are more reserved and introverted. Hmmm... Someone want to correct me? Please, tell me what you think.

After my class I decided to try and approach at Barnes and Noble, but nobody was there that was worth approaching. Went to the mall, but damn, nobody was there, it was dead. Although, I saw this really cute girl, but she was with her mother! I p*ssied out and didn't approach.

I decided to call it a day... yeah.. it sucks..

What I notice about me is that I worry about people around me, like what if they were watching, listening, judging, etc.. It sucks! I want to work on not worrying about them. And that when the girl is with a friend, especially with a guy, even more frightening when she's with her relatives. I would hesitate on the approach and end up not approaching at all... There were cute ones I wanted to approach, but I hesitated and got scared. I am beating myself for them because:

"REJECTION IS BETTER THAN REGRET."

I must remember that. Next time.

 

[Angelo]

If you guys have any advice for me, then please, give them. I want to be the best I can be. This is fun, but sometimes it is hard to do it by myself. I need your support guys!

 

[MartyMcFly]

Hey man, congrats on number closing with the girl. It seems like you're at the same point I am. I'm just starting out and it can be a bit daunting at first, but keep at it man, and you'll be a ladykiller before you know it. Just focus on improving things in your life, she should be the one dying to be with YOU.

 

[Angelo]

Jesus today wasn't as great as I thought it would be, matter of fact it was pretty bad lol. I went to Wal-Mart to practice, but didn't really got much out of it. I was at the office supplies section checking out some notebooks when this hot middle aged woman walked by and I immediately initiated a conversation. Asked her if the notebook was worth buying blah blah blah. She gave out her opinion blah blah blah. Then the conversation faded from there. I should have at least asked her name, but I couldn't

Went to the mall and saw a lot of cute girls. I spotted this HB7 walking in the opposite direction as me when I noticed the high school softball jersey she was wearing.

Angelo: Wow.. is that... softball?
HB7: HAha yeah *smiling*
Angelo: Oh my friend goes to that school
HB7: Really?
Angelo: Her name is Trisha... she's a cheerleader.
HB7: Oh.. Idk.. I don't hang out with cheerleaders.
Angelo: NO?? Ok, see you laters.

That was really weak.

I headed to Starbucks and see what was there when I saw this girl HB7 with an interesting backpack, she was with her friend. We were standing around waiting for our drinks, they got theirs and I got mine so I watched whether or not they were sitting down or walking out. They were walking out the store so I decided to follow them and walk out too. This HB7 sees me behind them and holds the door open for me. It was my chance.

Angelo: So what kind of backpack is that?
HB7: Oh it's a cartoon character
Angelo: Haha really? From where?
HB7: Blah blah from this show blah blah
Angelo: Is that show still on?
HB7: Blah Blah no, it got canceled blah blah
Angelo: Oh ok

Then they walked away as I began to sit down at one of the tables in the patio..

After, I decided to go to the University to see if I can get more interaction. But no, what a waste of time. I couldn't bring myself to approach anybody. I was thinking too much, hesitating, worrying what I should say, maybe they don't want to be bothered, maybe they wont be interested and I'll make a fool out of myself. So I decided to call it a day and go home...

Guys, do any of you have any tips on how to not care what the outcome of the approach will be? How can I get out of this rut? How can I just one day wake up and start approaching/interacting with women I am interested in? HOW?? What do you guys do? What is your mentality?

I really need to work on approaching without hesitation even if they are a set of 2-4. Also, I need to work on transitioning the interaction from the opener to introducing myself and start building a connection. It's hard doing this alone.

 

[sesshoDevrim]

I feel I'm in the same boat as you right now. Once I mess up a a potential connection with a girl I end up doubting myself and thats when all my confidence just disappears and it shows. I recently read a thread (forgot the link might post if i can find it) where one guy said to just write down a list of personal attributes that are positive about yourself. Continue to add to the list and read the list; in the morning (when you wake up), afternoon, even before bed. When you ever feel down or lack confidence just remember that list of great things. This will help you get rid of the negative thoughts you have at the moment and get you feeling better.