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SandHawk

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I normally have a pretty strict rule to avoid banging anyone in my close social circle because it normally creates a lot of drama, unnecessary confusion and it can split a social group in half. I've seen a group fall apart over girl drama before, and I rather keep my social circles in tact.

Last summer I ran into this cute 19 year old that recently moved into town and she actually wanted to take dancing lessons in town. I stopped dancing 3 years prior and as I really enjoyed it, we decided to swap numbers and find a place to dance. We hit it off almost immediately, had great convos, good kino and there was definitely mutual attraction. However, I at some point decided that my dancing was more important than getting involved with her and just placed her in the friendzone. She later dropped me a LJBF since I just continued flirting because she felt pretty much the same. We eventually ended up having a make out session a few weeks after that to clear the air of the remaining tension and all was fine.

Fast forward to april this year: I ploughed myself through every attractive girl in the pool of girls at the dancing school, and one unattractive one(no idea why the hell I did that). I ended up dating the last of them for about 4.5 months. My dancing partner was witness how I pulled the feet from underneath this girl and turned her into the brightest ball of happiness. She radiated. So, that whole deal died off this summer, and apparently, the girl is still talking about me.

So, after the dancing season ended in may, I didn't see my partner much as I was involved with other things. Dancing started again 2 months ago, and same sh*t happened between me and my partner: We hit it right off the bat with flirting like we've never done before. It's much more intense than last year, and that's the really confusing part.

With any other girl, I would've isolated her in living room and done what must be done. However, I value my dancing a lot and this girl makes a great dancing partner. She's driven, fun to dance with, has an ideal height and we're both well adapted to each other.

But the sheer amount of IOIs are confusing the hell out of me. My parents met her during the dancing examination last year and my mom actually commented on how she thought it would be amazing to have her as daughter-in-law. Yea, I know what my mother is telling me. I found that amusing, and told her that in a very teasing way, and her response? "That's still possible". She was over for a training session last friday and when looking up some music on my laptop I stood behind her and massaged her shoulders and neck. And I'll be damned if her breathing didn't indicate she was getting horny. However, she does throw in IODs scarcely, but not enough to tell me if she's just flirting or wants more. Some of my friends told me she wants more just by observing her behaviour.

What does SoSuave make of this? I think I'm just going to play this like I did last year: Ignore it and date other girls. I haven't had much time in the past 2 months, so I'm out of plates(I know, bad, my first dry spell in 1.5 years). I've got a few potentials and have 2 dates set up in the coming 1 week, so I'm not desperate. Just want to hear some opinions on this...
 

TheBucketOfTruth

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Why not go for it? It sounds like she's clearly interested and you've already made out. If it doesn't work out there are always other dance partners.
 

Kailex

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Stop reading IOI's, IOD's, WMD's, BOB's... or whatever the hell it is that you are using to gauge "interest".

Forget what your mom said... I can tell that it's influenced your mind even furthermore.

If you want to ask her out... ask her out.
Deal with the consequences later.

But stop "thinking" about it and just ask her out.
 

Do not be too easy. If you are too easy to get, she will not want you. If you are too easy to keep, she will lose interest in you. If you are too easy to control, she will not respect you.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

SandHawk

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First of all, maybe I should indeed stop reading the IOIs and act. The goal behind these forums is to get people to ACT instead of wait / analyse. I completely agree there.

And yes, I do fear the consequences of my actions in this. Not because I am afraid I might "miss the love of my life", because I don't believe in that. However, the potential consequence of losing my partner is that I will lose a year of intense dance training. And to be honest, I value that a lot more than another lay. Finding a new partner isn't too difficult, but finding one that's actually as good and driven as my current partner is a lot more work.

But, I've decided to do this differently than last year. I'm suffering from insomnia, and I sometimes smoke weed to help me sleep. She found out, and said she wants to try it and invited herself to my place. I'll get her into a make out session before smoking, smoke it and then enjoy some more of that.
 

Young Juan

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She wants to smash, your d!ck wants to smash, your mind is hesitant, but I'm pretty sure at least your subconscious wants to smash....all these converging indicators say you're gonna smash.

Unless you premeditate to do her dirty and just keep it honest with her, even if there's not a long term future, you should still be dance partners past the messing around.
 
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