And so the dance continues...what should I do?

[mecca411]

OK, long story short - I met this girl in a bar bak in mid-december, never had any meaningful conversation just a bit of joking around after the bar but I got her number. Never called her because of holidays and I was sick for a bit. Decided it was too late to call her and just forgot about her.

Flash forward to early January back in the same bar, I was approached by a girl who ended up being the sister of the girl I got the number from in mid-December. SHe told me her sis said I never called and that I should still call her. In fact she dialed her right then and there and handed me the phone, but the sis hungup thinking it was just a drunken bar pass around the sis said I should call her back during the week.

In the middle of the week I called the girl once and got her machine and left no message on the advice of some people on this board. I tried her again the following night from a different phone, but got her machine again. I basically gave up at the point and never called again.

about a week and a half passed and I ended up running into the girl's sis the bar and she said "you never called!". told her that I did and left no message and she said "leave a message! Call her again!".

So here we are, over a month since I got the girls number with no additional contact with her apart from a few random meetings with her sis. This girl could be pretty cool for all I know, but I'm far from hung up on her...I just haven't asked out any new girl in recent weeks. What should I do? Should I call her and ask her out for Martinis this weekend? No big deal to me either way, but I'm always into hanging with cute, cool girls. Let me know what you think I should do.

M.

 

[dcfball]

why not bro? no harm done in doing it... and i doubt her sister would tell you to call her just to laugh at you....dont mention her little sister at all though.... just play it cool and leave your number

 

[mecca411]

That's what I was thinking, but let's just see what everyone else has to say about it.

M.

 

[Tkman]

"Hi, this is mecca411, your sister threatened me with a butcher knife to call you !!! Call me back ***-****. See ya".

- Leave one message.
- Dont call after this message. If she's interested, she will call.

If she calls, play it cool. Be ****y + Funny, etc.

If she asks, "why haven't you been calling me" Say, "I was busy" .. "I was taking care of business". Do not apologize. Ask her out.

I think you got 99% shot on taking her out, think about it, she has been telling her sister everything and it's obvious she has high interest level in you. Maybe she's just waiting for you to make the 1st move.

 

[TesuqueRed]

Sure, call her, you've probably got the right attitude about it.

But why are you listening to the sister? It sounds like you're almost taking orders from her. At the least, you're allowing yourself to jerk yourself around because of the sis.

So cut through the crap: do you want to go have drinks with this girl or not? If answer = yes, call. If answer = no or maybe, forget about it.

And quit justifying yourself to the sister. Start flipping some ****y lines back at her if she starts testing you on it again.

 

[JustDoItAlways]

I called a girl one full year after getting her number.

Her response "Why don't you come over and we'll watch a movie."

Yup nailed her that night.

If a chick really likes you, it doesn't matter how long you wait. If she's only mildly interested, on the other hand, waiting too long puts you in the "Who are you again?" category.

 

[NatureGuy]

Definitely call her. And let us know how
it works out !

 

[mecca411]

Ok, called her on Friday....got the machine but this time I left a message. Was out all Saturday aft. Came home and I've got a message on my phone from her. Says she remebers me and to give her a call back. It's getting kind of late and I'm heading to play pool with a couple of my boyz. Should I just wait until tomorrow to give her a call? Superbowl Sunday...hmmmm. May be I can do it in the early aft just before the game. Figured I'd get her to go for a drink sometime during the week at the martini lounge or can you think of a better activity? Let me know.

M.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Aren't martinis fairly expensive drinks to have on a first date I would start out with water and pretzels, then move my way up to beer, then wine, and then martinis. Make sure she is martini worthy first!!

 

[mecca411]

Must I call her today?

So she left a message on my machine Saturday aft. I'm not really going to have alot of time today and I don't really want to do anything with her until possibly Weds. Should I just give her a call on Monday instead of today(Superbowl Sunday) to make plans for Weds? If i get her machine again I'll just tell her i was out of town for the weekend.

M.

 

[dietzcoi]

Patience is called for. I know what it is like when you are emotionally involved, but as an outside observer I can say, wait until tomorrow or later, hard as it may seem.

Waiting will pay off.. it is like fishing or hunting, you have to have patience. Unfortunately I don't, or didn't, but I am learning.....

Dietzcoi