Analyzis of a failed date.

[Styr]

Had a date today. This girl (20 years old, I am 29) has been mildly stalking me and basically begged me to introduce myself to her some weeks earlier. Her work involves being dressed nice and inviting people to a restaurant. I oftentimes pass the restaurant and she has always been happy to see me, providing me with some nice **** tests along the way - which I believe I passed. Things escalated a bit the last time - with her getting physical, and hugging me - so I asked her to meet up in a few days. She immediately agreed and gave me her number without me asking for it.

So it was, I called her, set up the date and it was on. Arrived at the location a few minutes early, she was nowhere to be seen. Waited ca 10 minutes, tried calling her, but her phone was busy. Waited 5 more minutes, her phone was busy. Sent her a text, basically telling her that she has 15 minutes if she is interested in meeting me, otherwise I will be gone. Got a text back almost immediately. She wrote that she is waiting for me. So I went back, and there she was, talking with a female friend on the phone. She was not there before I sent the text.

Now, it took her a sweet couple of minutes to end the call. I was tired of waiting for her, so I started slowly walking towards my chosen cafe', making sure she was following me. The cafe' was too crowded so we decided to go on a walk in the Old Town instead. During the time she saw several men, greeting some of them, and stopping for a brief talk with the others. It felt quite disrespectful. I waited for her for a few seconds each time, then continued slowly, giving her time to catch me. We engaged in some smalltalk, she talked a bit about herself, but she did not, even once, ask anything about me. Yet the first time I introduced myself to her, she was far more chatty and interested in me.

The conclusion is to next her. However, there are a few questions I hope some of you could help me with. Was I right to walk on as she stopped to talk with her friends? Should I have stayed with her?

 

[cordoncordon]

Next and don't even think twice about it. Honestly you should have left after she didn't show after the first 20 minutes or so. But then when she was pulling the on the phone and talking to people thing while you walking to the eatery? I very calmly would have said "well this had been fun, see you around". And walked away and not looked back.

Have more self respect for your time, and most importantly yourself my man.

 

[Styr]

Well, the good part was that as we did not sit down for drinks, I did not waste any money.

She had done that stunt, i.e going and talking with other men earlier on too. One of the times I saw her when she was working - we talked a bit... quite possibly more intimate topics than on the date, and then too she would suddenly run away and talk to some guys. I let it be the first time, as I had other things I could do in the meanwhile, but as she did it the second time, I simply waved to her and told her that I am leaving.

 

[Solomon]

Next and don't even think twice about it. Honestly you should have left after she didn't show after the first 20 minutes or so. But then when she was pulling the on the phone and talking to people thing while you walking to the eatery? I very calmly would have said "well this had been fun, see you around". And walked away and not looked back.

Have more self respect for your time, and most importantly your time my man.

Hindsight is always 20/20

I'm not gonna say anything OP I think Cordon broke it down just fine, I recently have kicked 2 women out of my apartment. 1 a month ago for talking about her ex, and another for disrespecting my living space

my lack of patience now a days for fuccery like this is short

IMO you did well by not spending any money on that hoe

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Steyr,
I agree with Solomen,"you did well by not spending any money"Chatting up Dames like that is picking really low fruit...Hey we all get sucked in from time to time...Such is the insatiable demand for Pvussy by the Clowns out there,that those who are not taken are either trash or damaged goods!

 

[Wilko]

I think you did what needed to be done - it's a definite next. Mind you, I think you would have been entitled to cut your losses after she dragged her feet ending the call.

That's a good question about the walking on business though. If the situation had been reversed and you'd run into some women you knew, I think it would have been appropriate to acknowledge them in passing - not to stop and strike up a conversation. You're on a date, they can see you're on a date - what kind of social retard interrupts another couple's date?

But on top of that, you had all those sh!tty precedents earlier in the night. I think the pause and slow walk off was a perfectly calibrated response.

 

[Styr]

Thank you all for the insight.

As it turns out now, she was likely lying every time she opened her mouth when we were on the date. She told me she would go to the countryside first thing in the morning to see his father for the Father's Day. Instead I saw from her Facebook (She is not my friend there, but I put a bit effort into searching for her before the date) posts that she had flown to Finland instead. Don't know if it is aimed towards me or not, but her status update was quite hilarious: "How can sb trust his/her "friend", when she/he cannot even talk with you without any lies and do not know anything about respect..."

I should indeed have left in the beginning of the "date".

 

[Jitterbug]

I was reminded of this thread last night. Met this chick at a bar, her hands were all over me, vibe was good. Bounced her to another bar. We were just sitting down talking when some older fat woman came up to talk to her - they know each other from work or something. They kept talking and talking and talking... After about 5 mins, I just stood up and walked to the bar. She's like "oh I'm so sorry I'll be with you in a bit". I barely acknowledged that, and proceeded to chat up a little blonde, then got her number. Original chick gave me the filthiest look ever when she left the bar lol. She's a late 20s career woman, supposedly more "mature" and "intelligent" than the kind of girl in the OP's story. I guess they don't grow up or smarter, just older.

 

[Bokanovsky]

The conclusion is to next her. However, there are a few questions I hope some of you could help me with. Was I right to walk on as she stopped to talk with her friends? Should I have stayed with her?

You should have just left. Never, ever tolerate disrespect in the hope of getting pvssy. That's the #1 rule of being a DJ.

 

[Styr]

You should have just left. Never, ever tolerate disrespect in the hope of getting pvssy. That's the #1 rule of being a DJ.

I guess I learned it the hard way.

 

[Colossus]

Had a date today. This girl (20 years old, I am 29)

Your analysis is encapsulated right there.

I know young chicks are hot and delicious, but they are also self-absorbed, respect-less, and generally idiots. At 29 you may be happier with girls 25-29. They'll have a bit more class (hopefully). The point Scara made about low-hanging fruit is also good.


On the note of being dissed, I went on a date with a girl last winter who was texting as I introduced myself. Like I walked into the bar, introduced myself, and she actually finished texting one of her hens for about 30 seconds before putting the phone down and looking at me. Unreal. Never called her again. Another girl came to my apartment and left her dirty dishes laying out and threw her jeans in my tiny bathroom trash (they got puked on at a bar, so they were a loss). Just little things like that man...rub me the wrong way.