Just stumbled upon this site today and its a nice knowledge base. Been reading the bible and old threads and I think my situation is fairly unique and figured I'd post it.
Let me start this off by saying that yes I'm shy around girls so don't be harsh. Anyways there's a cute girl in a couple of my classes that I'm interested in that is extremely shy...she has her small group of girlfriends and I don't think she talks to guys at all. We talk a small amount in class and I've had her number for like 3 months but only to talk about school-related things...the conversations were always polite and reserved on her end - until she tried to get me to matchmake her best friend with one of my friends for the prom.
So I talked to him and he told me that she (the girl, not her friend) was meaning to ask me as well. As a sort of double date kind of thing. So of course I'm expecting her to ask me (in retrospect I should have manned up and brought it up first) and she says something (over texting) along the lines of "do you want to come with us to make it less awkward for your friend." I agreed; my friend ended up bailing because he's a chump but I said I was still coming. and she said "soo are we going to dates then?" Of course I agreed.
We really haven't talked much besides texting which hasn't really gotten too friendly yet. I asked her dress color to show I'm interested in coordinating and she wants to go out to dinner (not alone, with the other people in our limo) and I'm going to try to get her out on a date (I don't have a car which makes it hard). But looking back now I think there's something because I'd catch her looking my way more than usual in class and we'd both look away quickly. And at one point she sent me an out-of-the-blue apology for how one of her friends was acting on facebook which I guess seems like a way to prove herself to me..
So. I'm not looking to fvck this girl or anything at this time, just a relationship. I'm thinking: get her out on a date (even if its with a group), try some kino, etc. It's just hard because we're both awkward and clueless. And on prom night I'll dance with her, try to get close, and read how she reacts as far as kissing goes. But that's in a month and I don't want to do nothing between then because I want to keep her interest.
Sorry for the long post but any thoughts on what I should be doing or similar experiences that could help me out? Or am I on the right track...
EDIT: by the way both myself, the girl, and the group of people we're going with don't smoke, drink, and are generally overachieving students, in case anyone's wondering.
Let me start this off by saying that yes I'm shy around girls so don't be harsh. Anyways there's a cute girl in a couple of my classes that I'm interested in that is extremely shy...she has her small group of girlfriends and I don't think she talks to guys at all. We talk a small amount in class and I've had her number for like 3 months but only to talk about school-related things...the conversations were always polite and reserved on her end - until she tried to get me to matchmake her best friend with one of my friends for the prom.
So I talked to him and he told me that she (the girl, not her friend) was meaning to ask me as well. As a sort of double date kind of thing. So of course I'm expecting her to ask me (in retrospect I should have manned up and brought it up first) and she says something (over texting) along the lines of "do you want to come with us to make it less awkward for your friend." I agreed; my friend ended up bailing because he's a chump but I said I was still coming. and she said "soo are we going to dates then?" Of course I agreed.
We really haven't talked much besides texting which hasn't really gotten too friendly yet. I asked her dress color to show I'm interested in coordinating and she wants to go out to dinner (not alone, with the other people in our limo) and I'm going to try to get her out on a date (I don't have a car which makes it hard). But looking back now I think there's something because I'd catch her looking my way more than usual in class and we'd both look away quickly. And at one point she sent me an out-of-the-blue apology for how one of her friends was acting on facebook which I guess seems like a way to prove herself to me..
So. I'm not looking to fvck this girl or anything at this time, just a relationship. I'm thinking: get her out on a date (even if its with a group), try some kino, etc. It's just hard because we're both awkward and clueless. And on prom night I'll dance with her, try to get close, and read how she reacts as far as kissing goes. But that's in a month and I don't want to do nothing between then because I want to keep her interest.
Sorry for the long post but any thoughts on what I should be doing or similar experiences that could help me out? Or am I on the right track...
EDIT: by the way both myself, the girl, and the group of people we're going with don't smoke, drink, and are generally overachieving students, in case anyone's wondering.
