Hey DJs, this is my first post so be easy on me. I recently met these two girls and both of my encounters ended up the same way.
Girl #1
I went to my favorite bar to get a few drinks, after I ordered my first beer, this girl slightly hit me so I knew she was interested. In a short conversation, she said she was there to meet somebody, but she wasn't dating that guy and gave me her number. Couple of days later, I called her up and set up a date. Right from the very beginning, she was very responsive and she was constantly touching me and gave me a few compliments. I was 'very interesting', 'cute' and she was 'very glad that she met me'. By the end of the night, we started making out and SHE suggested that we go some place else. So we went to my house, we did quite a lot but she wouldn't give it up all the way. I didn't really mind, since I was 100% sure I was going to see her again and thought that maybe she just didn't want to come off as a slut. She hung out at my place for a while in the morning and we agreed to see each other again. She said couple of times how much fun she had.
Half a week later, I called her up and she didn't answer the phone (she never did before, she always called back after couple of minutes). I called her 3 more times within a few days and nothing. A week later, I left a message and she called right back. She said she had a great time and she wants to go out again. When we were supposed to finalize the plans, she canceled the date saying she went to see her friend and asked me if she could call me when she gets back. I got pissed but finally agreed. She never called me.
Couple of weeks later, I stumbled upon her at the same bar and she was genuinely happy to see me, very flirty and touchy, she said she didn't turn me down but got back to her ex-boyfriend. I never saw her since.
Girl #2
I walked up to a bar to order a beer (same place hehe), this fat chick starts hitting on me. Her cute friend started talking to me too, so I sticked around for a few minutes. I asked her who was she with and she pointed to some guy and said 'my boyfriend'. A week later, I met her in another bar with her other girlfriend who started hitting on me. While I was talking to both of them, couple of girls that I knew said hello to me and she was courious to find out who they were. She gave her me number before she left the bar.
Now the story is pretty much the same as with girl #1, except that during the date, some of her other girlfriends showed up for a while. I was more perstistent when I got got to her place after the date, but she made it clear she didn't want to have sex plus a a bunch of 'we're moving too fast', 'we barely know each other', 'you do this to all the girls', blah blah blah. We made out in the morning and talked about what we may do next.
With some minor differences, the phone talk afterwards was the same as before (I only made one call per week), finally she called up saying she wants to go out only to cancel the date the same day. The day after, she said she's not looking for a relationship and I said me neither.
OK, you can see the repeating pattern, what is it that I'm doing wrong? I appreciate any intelligent comments/suggestions.
Both of the girls where in 25-29 age range.
Girl #1
I went to my favorite bar to get a few drinks, after I ordered my first beer, this girl slightly hit me so I knew she was interested. In a short conversation, she said she was there to meet somebody, but she wasn't dating that guy and gave me her number. Couple of days later, I called her up and set up a date. Right from the very beginning, she was very responsive and she was constantly touching me and gave me a few compliments. I was 'very interesting', 'cute' and she was 'very glad that she met me'. By the end of the night, we started making out and SHE suggested that we go some place else. So we went to my house, we did quite a lot but she wouldn't give it up all the way. I didn't really mind, since I was 100% sure I was going to see her again and thought that maybe she just didn't want to come off as a slut. She hung out at my place for a while in the morning and we agreed to see each other again. She said couple of times how much fun she had.
Half a week later, I called her up and she didn't answer the phone (she never did before, she always called back after couple of minutes). I called her 3 more times within a few days and nothing. A week later, I left a message and she called right back. She said she had a great time and she wants to go out again. When we were supposed to finalize the plans, she canceled the date saying she went to see her friend and asked me if she could call me when she gets back. I got pissed but finally agreed. She never called me.
Couple of weeks later, I stumbled upon her at the same bar and she was genuinely happy to see me, very flirty and touchy, she said she didn't turn me down but got back to her ex-boyfriend. I never saw her since.
Girl #2
I walked up to a bar to order a beer (same place hehe), this fat chick starts hitting on me. Her cute friend started talking to me too, so I sticked around for a few minutes. I asked her who was she with and she pointed to some guy and said 'my boyfriend'. A week later, I met her in another bar with her other girlfriend who started hitting on me. While I was talking to both of them, couple of girls that I knew said hello to me and she was courious to find out who they were. She gave her me number before she left the bar.
Now the story is pretty much the same as with girl #1, except that during the date, some of her other girlfriends showed up for a while. I was more perstistent when I got got to her place after the date, but she made it clear she didn't want to have sex plus a a bunch of 'we're moving too fast', 'we barely know each other', 'you do this to all the girls', blah blah blah. We made out in the morning and talked about what we may do next.
With some minor differences, the phone talk afterwards was the same as before (I only made one call per week), finally she called up saying she wants to go out only to cancel the date the same day. The day after, she said she's not looking for a relationship and I said me neither.
OK, you can see the repeating pattern, what is it that I'm doing wrong? I appreciate any intelligent comments/suggestions.
Both of the girls where in 25-29 age range.
maybe u should've left when she said she didnt want sex. Thus she sensed you're into relationship?