An interesting relationship question (advice please)

[Johnsmith8899]

So I’m great at attracting meeting and sleeping with women. I’m currently talking to one who’s very interested and literally drips between her legs when she sees me. I’m interested in her as much as she’s interested in me but like every other DJ I don’t want this flame to burn out.

At what point do you transition from the mysterious challenge to a relationship?

I’m pretty sure she’s in love but I know it’s all because of me lol didn’t hide **** from the girl either just was my savage self.

How do you retain that level of attraction in a relationship where you live together and such?

I feel like the fun part is ruined once u commit or is there exceptions for those who love eachothee
Thoughts ?

 

[marmel75]

The same tactics you use to get in a relationship won't work after a while when you are actually in a relationship.

 

[Johnsmith8899]

The same tactics you use to get in a relationship won't work after a while when you are actually in a relationship.

Haha explain please I’m inexperienced at not being a DJ

 

[jaymbrs]

Stop over ****ing thinking everything. That's some of the problems I find on this board. Just be yourself if your intention is to be in a relationship with this girl. The game playing BS only works in the beginning.

 

[RangerMIke]

There really is nothing you can do to keep a chick around longer (a relationship). When she decides it's over... it's over. Any efforts to emotionally manipulate her to keep her around means you have to act like a chick... and if she likes dudes, you will turn her off. Your question is how do I keep her 'loyal'.

"Loyal" chicks that are in relationships that are turned off will morph into fat nagging shrews when her attraction level for you drops below acceptable levels based on HER needs. In most chicks this is not a rational choice, it's sub-conscious.. it just happens. She really doesn't wake up one morning and say "Gee... I'm unhappy, I think I will torture my man and try to drive him off." Most women are emotional creatures, they act based on how they are feeling. Depending on her social conditioning and HER level of confidence this will be fast or slow over time.

What you really want is a chick that stays in love with you, it's like @marmel75 said... whatever it is you did to get her to want you... just keep doing that. Do not get complacent... If you are a jacked fit stud... double down on that... keep working out and stay fit... if you are a driven business man that makes money and pays for fun sh!t... bust your @ss and be the best driven business man you can be. Chicks always want more.... more, more, more. She will want this, and because she is an emotional creature, she will 'believe' she wants you to change... spend more time with you... drag your @ss to chick sh!t like yard sales and other stupidity. If you do this and let slip the things you did to get her, she will lose interest in you.

Never surrender want you are to service HER needs.

I really am terrible at relationships, I really never try to do this, but if you are going to try this, then there is SOME give and take, so what you have to do is figure out this tightwire act... you have to stay on the wire (who you are and what you want) while learning new tricks (juggling, standing on your head, carry her on your shoulders while you walk) on the wire. But you have to stay ON THE WIRE. If you abandon your high-wire act... and become a circus clown, well she wasn't attracted to a circus clown, so you will lose interest.

 

[BeExcellent]

Advice from the old lady:

In a great marriage sex is the glue. Desire is the glue. My grandmother was happily married twice...widowed twice. She understood men & was a gorgeous woman.

She understood that as a woman you are your husband's lover first, wife second & mother to the children 3rd. Always in that order. At the same time she is also his best friend and loyal confidant. Being lovers first is what keeps sexual desire alive.

If you have found someone you greatly desire & who has great desire for you...spend time to see if you like each other as people. Do you have compatibility? Is this a woman you enjoy hanging out with besides just the hot sex?

You can't know whether a relationship has legs until you get past the heady crazy infatuation period. Infatuation is not love. It has to wane for you to see whether there is something deeper. Hot sex alone will not sustain a relationship. It can't. It is very important however as part of a greater whole.

The challenge of being in a relationship with someone is to retain your identity and your seperate sense of self. This is what attracted her (who you are). Remain who you are. She needs to do this also to remain attractive to you.

Men who expect to dictate and control every aspect of their woman's lives squash the individuality that attracted them just as men who try and cater to a woman's every whim also kills attraction. You can't go bending over backwards trying to please someone else. A woman will become a doormat & a man an AFC. Both kill off attraction & respect.

It is a balance. Remain a distinct individual while loving & caring about someone else. Do it from a place of choice & strength. Be lovers. Keep the mystery alive. Mystery & some space stoke desire.

Desire is the glue. It is possible to keep the flame alive but it is never an accident.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

So I’m great at attracting meeting and sleeping with women. I’m currently talking to one who’s very interested and literally drips between her legs when she sees me. I’m interested in her as much as she’s interested in me but like every other DJ I don’t want this flame to burn out.

At what point do you transition from the mysterious challenge to a relationship?

I’m pretty sure she’s in love but I know it’s all because of me lol didn’t hide **** from the girl either just was my savage self.

How do you retain that level of attraction in a relationship where you live together and such?

I feel like the fun part is ruined once u commit or is there exceptions for those who love eachothee
Thoughts ?

Don't ask alot of questions. Stay busy on your priorities. Pound her savagely often. Do a few things with her from time to time. You can keep it going for some time.

 

[Bible_Belt]

If you're the one who first walks away, you will keep the girl for one more day.