Am I the only one

[youngprodigy]

I was a red pilled naturalist before sosauve. One of my plates at the time got me to settle and outta boredom I agreed.

I turned blue pill then more I started liking her and eventually she left.

I've banged countless other women, been on dates, improved myself in so many different ways, went on so many new experiences and I'm really satisfied with other aspects of my life at the moment.

In the meantime my ex rode the ****crusal and I'm not denying it. It's been nearly a year and I still haven't shaken this oneitious and it's getting me worried.

I know I can't get back with her cause that's an embarrassment on my social reputation but I can't shake obsession even though I have the power to keep no contact no matter how hard she tries to get my attention.

She's a horrible, manipulative and mentally unstable little girl but the time we had together makes me loath for the "high" points we had during the time.

I'm tired of all this time I've wasted having her in my head and am really looking forward to actually leaving this in the past. So far nothing has worked, I've dated, ****ed women, partied, self improved and nothing works. I've never had abanonment issues with any plates prior and after.

If anyone's been in a similar situation it would be greatly appreciated if you could provide me with some insight. Thanks.

 

[Julian]

Stop being such a beta.


You need to remind yourself that yah while there may have been good times...at what cost did they come?

It took me a good 6 months to completely write off my ex. Granted i attempted NC on her but ended up contacting her for sex lol. Anywy you need to MOVE FORWARD...if all ur doin is lookin in ur rearview mirror of life, ur gonna crash.

And instead of just mindlessly smashing hoes and partying etc..all those shallow vapid things..you need to find a female tp connect with again.just make sure shes not mental/sloot.

 

[Milano]

Its funny how our gut feeling makes us into super detectives, its like out brain wants to protect the semen we just invested into the woman. I think thats also why its so easy to get feelings when the subject has the right genetics you want

She is probably just what you think, AND a single mom is also a walking red flag every single time. You are not allowed to get feelings for them unless you have a beta cuck brain that allows you to ignore your own genetics for another mans semen

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

It does pass, when you find another better option, who you appreciate and who appreciates you more. It might today, next week, next year.... you can keep yourself entertained with fidget spinners in the meantime.

The important thing is to learn from the experience, and be rational about what happened. You'll probably still always have a bit of a soft spot for them, and there's nothing wrong with a bit of sport fcking for old times sake. But once the break up is a few weeks down the line, it's really time to start being realistic about the situation and process the emotions once and for all.

It takes practice, especially when you're young. But it does get easier. It must be said that, at your age, you probably have at least a couple more of these to go through. If you're smart, you screen women properly and you remain grounded in reality, you can keep the a$$ache to a mimimum.

Lastly, just wait until a time you fck up yourself and let a real dime piece slip through your own fingers; that's something you really never get over completely, when it's your own fault. Thus I hope you are/become smart enough to begin to recognise a good thing when you see it.

 

[beforeimgone]

I was a red pilled naturalist before sosauve. One of my plates at the time got me to settle and outta boredom I agreed.

I turned blue pill then more I started liking her and eventually she left.

I've banged countless other women, been on dates, improved myself in so many different ways, went on so many new experiences and I'm really satisfied with other aspects of my life at the moment.

In the meantime my ex rode the ****crusal and I'm not denying it. It's been nearly a year and I still haven't shaken this oneitious and it's getting me worried.

I know I can't get back with her cause that's an embarrassment on my social reputation but I can't shake obsession even though I have the power to keep no contact no matter how hard she tries to get my attention.

She's a horrible, manipulative and mentally unstable little girl but the time we had together makes me loath for the "high" points we had during the time.

I'm tired of all this time I've wasted having her in my head and am really looking forward to actually leaving this in the past. So far nothing has worked, I've dated, ****ed women, partied, self improved and nothing works. I've never had abanonment issues with any plates prior and after.

If anyone's been in a similar situation it would be greatly appreciated if you could provide me with some insight. Thanks.

I would suggest viewing life as a game. Those emotions you feel mean that you're losing the game to her.

Getting angry over something she has said or did, allowing a shvt test to work, caring about whether she has has secx elsewhere instead of assuming she has, letting her past your wall of confidence, etc.

These are all ways in which you will lose the game with women. Every emotion they invoke in you is a part of the game. The love you felt, the sadness you may have dealt with, the obsession you're controlling, etc. They aren't real emotions. Those are you losing the game.

Play to win. I know I do and I love cheat codes.

 

[resilient]

I remember my first oneits I experienced in 2005 in my young 20s that drove me to this forum. From fall 2005 to fall 2006 it took me exactly a year to get over her.

In that time I read the DJ bible, countless threads, printed out every article on this site, highlighted everything like a mad man, started talking to a few DJs on here for wisdom and guidance.

I then made some PUA friends, went through the DJ boot camp... I sarged a ton. I made hundreds of approaches, got rejected again and again and again.

My confidence finally started to feel great and stable. I married my now ex-wife and didn't return this forum for nearly a decade.

It takes time to get over this ex, OP.

It helps that you're seeing other women and banging a few of them.

I agree with another poster said above: it takes meeting a better chick that treats you right to chip away at this deep seated oneitis feels.

As cliche as it sounds, times does help though.

 

[guru1000]

I would suggest viewing life as a game. Those emotions you feel mean that you're losing the game to her.

Getting angry over something she has said or did, allowing a shvt test to work, caring about whether she has has secx elsewhere instead of assuming she has, letting her past your wall of confidence, etc.

These are all ways in which you will lose the game with women. Every emotion they invoke in you is a part of the game. The love you felt, the sadness you may have dealt with, the obsession you're controlling, etc. They aren't real emotions. Those are you losing the game.

Play to win. I know I do and I love cheat codes.

Herein is one of the great secrets of stoicism that I have always utilized but very few could implement: Personify your challenges into the "Challenger," by understanding that it is simply YOU against the Challenger. Nothing else.

All the interim emotions and people are superfluous, meaningless roadblocks to the win. Set aside all those deleterious thoughts and people by interpreting them as "jabs," understand the true nature of the "ring," go for the knockout and just ... play ... to ... win.