Konada said:
Introvert is just a term to describe people who need to spend time alone more. I myself am an introvert. It has nothing to do with how far you can socialise with everyone. For me, I still attend parties and stuff but I bail once I feel my energy levels drop low so I don't go into a recluse state. You might want to try that some time, keep your outings short and simple. That way, people see you at your best and you don't have to worry about being that odd one out in the group.
This is the way I tend to socialize. I enjoy interacting with others in small doses, but I run out of stuff to say. I only want people to see me when I'm 'on,' or focused on a task. I usually run out of stuff to say on a date after 2 hrs, and then become boring after the 2nd date.
Of course there are things that I could do to improve this. Certain addictive habits like drinking and... other things release dopamine so that you do not get as much of a dopamine spike from interacting with others. So yeah, cutting down on drinking and stuff like that is part of my intermediate term plans to improve this.
Being introverted is not worse than being extroverted, but in our culture it is a huge disadvantage. For example, Pook apparently said that an extroverted nice guy will do better with girls than an introverted DJ. He simply has more opportunities. Western society majorly overvalues extorversion and undervalues the quiet, dedicated, hard worker and thinker or what have you. So it is best to adapt as much as possible, while drawing on the strengths that introverts have. For example, I may not talk as much as others or be as energetic, but I can be deeper and more interesting in small doses - and try to work on the areas like social energy and spontaneity, where I am at a disadvantage compared to extroverts.
