Am I setting myself up for disappointment?

[spiegel549]

I don't want to write a huge story but its as simple as this...and please yes this is about co workers please save the don't mess with girls at work crap. Been doing it for years. I need some experienced guidance please brothers.

-Started hanging out with 22yr old HB8 at work
-We went out 5 times
-We fuked my bday weekend Saturday night/sunday morning/and she took and paid for a $70 breakfast for me.
-After we fuked she was cool all day until the next day at work
-She was acting odd. Embarrassed almost for "giving it up so soon" ok w.e.
-Asked her to get together this past weekend.
-She gave me stupid responses like "maybe" "I work" etc. So when I pushed a bit for her to sleep over she responds with "I can't be doing that anymore...well i decided were better off as friends." I respond cool no worries lol.
-I have played it sooo cool and like I don't give a ****, she has been reaching out to get my attention and coming to my office more often then she ever did.

So now this is where I am at. I have played it super cool and showed her I don't give a ****. This Saturday I invited a new sales girl out to the night club. I get free bottle service all the time and always encourage to bring other girls with them. So she ended up inviting the girl I already banged. Didn't know they were friends lol. When the girl found out I was taking another girl out I can tell in her face she was hurt lol. She even told the other girl "He didn't invite me....?"

-So biotch just wants to be friends
-But when I show I don't give a fuk and take other girls out she gets jealous

End of the day I casually bumped into her and I invited her out to join and she goes "Oh all of sudden." I go what? I didn't have a chance to invite u yet lol, you wanna come out or not lol. she goes within a second "Yeah ill come out...singles night!" wtf??

Here is where I am at

I have a new girl coming out that I wanna bang. Unfortunately she invited the girl who I already smashed that "just wants to be friends" but yet clearly likes me and shows jealously by trying to gain my attention.

Saturday night. They are suppose to meet at my house and we are gonna take a taxi to the club. WTF am I thinking? Can I work something outta this? Honestly I just wanna bang the girl I already banged again but she is playing it like were just friends yet her actions and body screams I want the D again.

She has to end up at my house at the end of night no matter what happens at the club, and so does the new sales girl. hmmm

Thoughts?

 

[Bingo-Player]

short answer - YES

you clearly care about girl #1 a lot more than you would like us to think

girl #2 is quite simply an attempt to make #1 jealous and it seems to have backfired

instead of just holding your frame and left it at "cool no worries lol" you've decided to go and create a whole heap of drama for yourself

guess what ? chicks-love-drama

you have them both coming to your house :nervous: WTF

in what universe is that going to gain you anything ?

women already know when you care and they know when you don't

but by going to all the trouble of arranging this night out she's got 100% confirmation that 80% of your world is revolving around her atm

not to mention your now running the risk of both these chicks ganging up on you

( believe me I've seen it done a million times)

in my opinion your only option now is too call the whole thing off (preferably on the morning of the event)

go complete ghost for 6 weeks leave the dust settle and then see what the lay of the land is

i can guarantee you that if you take both these chicks out together , your going to end up bust

 

[El Payaso]

I don't want to write a huge story but its as simple as this...and please yes this is about co workers please save the don't mess with girls at work crap. Been doing it for years.

If you've been doing it for years, you ought to be pretty knowledgeable by now then.

 

[Greasy Pig]

I think you're on a winner here. Just ply them both with booze and see which one is giving you the most buying signals.
Then make your move.
If you bang girl no.2 and girl no.1 questions it, just blame it on being drunk and continue acting like you don't give fvck.
But maintain professional courtesy at work at all times and don't commit anything to writing that could be used against you.
I've been in this situation with work chiçks and I banged both of them about a year apart.
If a chick really wants to fvck you, it's amazing what behaviour of yours they'll ignore or "forget".

 

[Riprock713]

Sounds like a 3 some opportunity! Go for the gold bro. or just do whatever you want.

 

[spiegel549]

I know..I know...I am bouncing back and forth with two results that can happen...here is the problem.

Girl #1 who I already banged who "wants to be friends" is meeting at my house with Girl #2 and also Girl #2 is bringing another female friend.

Two Problems in my Mind

Truth be told, I wanna bang Girl #1 again. Thats my goal but Girl #1 is very very low key about what she does with co workers. Girl #2 has no idea that me and Girl #1 have banged.

1) While we are at the club, I don't think I could handle seeing Girl #1 dancing, flirting with other dudes, and probably going to influence Girl #2 to do similar.

My Biggest Problem I Can't Figure Out The Outcome To

2) When we get back to my house at the end of the night. I will have 3 drunks girls. How do I say "Ok you girls are fine but Girl #1 you gotta stay over because your too drunk!" It works if Girl #1 met at my place alone...but in a group I am fuked.

Wtf should I do??

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Speigel,

You know, it strikes me that this is the point at which the game has become a little over-complicated.

I had a very similar sitch years ago, where I had a party at my house. Loads of co-workers and one chick I especially wanted. We went to the club, ended with an after-party at my gaff, getting high and wasted. Ended banging some filthy broad in my bed while I put the one I really wanted in the master suite.

This chick told me drunkenly months later (IN FRONT OF HER THEN BF) that she was gagging for me to bang her that night at my place. I am still smarting that one to this day.

In summary, you're making life overly complicated by trying to take them all out at once. That, or as has been alluded to, go all in for the trice.

 

[spiegel549]

Speigel,

You know, it strikes me that this is the point at which the game has become a little over-complicated.

I had a very similar sitch years ago, where I had a party at my house. Loads of co-workers and one chick I especially wanted. We went to the club, ended with an after-party at my gaff, getting high and wasted. Ended banging some filthy broad in my bed while I put the one I really wanted in the master suite.

This chick told me drunkenly months later (IN FRONT OF HER THEN BF) that she was gagging for me to bang her that night at my place. I am still smarting that one to this day.

In summary, you're making life overly complicated by trying to take them all out at once. That, or as has been alluded to, go all in for the trice.

So basically I can easily avoid this by telling Girl #1 and #2 That something fell through etc.

I got a brand new HB8 that is clearly DTF and wants to come out with me as my date Sat. night.

Am I better/safer just bringing the new one and canceling on the work ones?

Honestly what do I gain by rubbing this new girl in Girl #1s face at the club besides causing drama. You agree?

One of my boys is pushing me to do that and make Girl #1 jealous because SHE made the ground rules for "lets just be friends" is that childish?

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

So basically I can easily avoid this by telling Girl #1 and #2 That something fell through etc.

I got a brand new HB8 that is clearly DTF and wants to come out with me as my date Sat. night.

Am I better/safer just bringing the new one and canceling on the work ones?

Honestly what do I gain by rubbing this new girl in Girl #1s face at the club besides causing drama. You agree?

One of my boys is pushing me to do that and make Girl #1 jealous because SHE made the ground rules for "lets just be friends" is that childish?

Pretty much. It is that drama-factor which they love. But just ask how much of that you need in your own life, especially as you seem to otherwise have chicks hounding you at every angle anyway.

You could go with the original plan, all end up back at you place and bang 2.0. Then if 1.0 starts something, you blankly remind her that she 'jus' wanna be fwiends'.... then watch the hamster have an epi.

May be as you're all working together though, you can just have peace of mind at work; take 3.0 out...?

TMK says, you don't need to make a woman jealous, she's quite capable of achieving that on her own.

 

[RangerMIke]

You have created too much drama. Girl#1 won't go out with you, move on, give her space and see what happens.

Your thought that girl#2 does not know you banged girl#1 is likely false, women typically know a lot more than you think. She also likely thinks that she is being used to make #1 jealous... that group meet-up will not likely go as you expect. Rather than having a choice... they will likely all reject you.

Cancel with both, go out with the woman that will go out with you 1 on 1.

 

[spiegel549]

Interesting Update

You guys are spot on. Interesting update here.


Decided to go with the guarantee drama free option. Thursday night texted and told Girl #1 & #2 that this Saturday is not going to work. That previous plans I committed to ended up pulling through.

They were both cool with it.

Girl #1 who I banged, said "Have fun another time!"
Girl #2 said she wanted to do something with me next weekend.
Left it at that.

9pm that same night Thursday, Girl #1 texts me "what are you doing?"

I said fuk it and called her to shoot the ****.

Long story short we chatted for 20 minutes. Inside jokes, me teasing her etc. and casually she started mentioning about the "just wants to be friends" line and told me that she was enjoying what we had going on and that she actually misses me. :crackup:

I literally said, well your azz is the one who decided to drop that friends line. Thats exactly what we were doing lol...hanging out, enjoying each others company, having fun. If you miss me then get your azz over my house.

She goes "well I am off Monday if you are how about I come over?" I said sure mondays good. I gotta run but you have a good night. she said you too. boom.

Saturday I see her at work and she is all smiles, offering me grapes that she brought in, asked me how my night was, trying to pry if I brought anyone home, getting a little jealous I played it cool and answered in my usual avoid the question make a joke response.


So thats it. Playing it cool and not up her azz seemed to work. She "misses me" so...

The way I was playing it before I got the friends line...hitting her up every now and again, teasing her with flirty texts etc. Do I want to go back to that? By withdrawing all of that, it made her miss me, and want to see me...so how do I play it out now?

Thoughts?

 

[Greasy Pig]

"If a woman is in your home, she's expecting you to make a move." - Old jungle saying.
Don't disappoint her. Get a few drinks going, chill out, laugh, tease, escalate, fvck.

 

[spiegel549]

"If a woman is in your home, she's expecting you to make a move." - Old jungle saying.
Don't disappoint her. Get a few drinks going, chill out, laugh, tease, escalate, fvck.

Agreed. She just texted me saying "I work tomorrow" I said, how about tonight then after work? she goes "I can't today" I responded with a picture of an old grandma using a walker and I wrote "this is you" LOL....

WTF this girl is all over huh? New girl hit me up tonight, going out with her and she is screaming DTF.

Thoughts on girl #1?

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

So thats it. Playing it cool and not up her azz seemed to work. She "misses me" so...

The way I was playing it before I got the friends line...hitting her up every now and again, teasing her with flirty texts etc. Do I want to go back to that? By withdrawing all of that, it made her miss me, and want to see me...so how do I play it out now?

Thoughts?

She had some of her own issues that made this sh!t all awkward for HER and she couldn't handle it, hence the LJBF. You pulled away and got her [seemingly] unintentionally jealous. She was always attracted to you but she felt weird or awkward. Once she got jealous, she knew that she had to act to avoid losing you. So she did. And it worked. But you want her too. So in other words, everyone is a winner.

 

[spiegel549]

She had some of her own issues that made this sh!t all awkward for HER and she couldn't handle it, hence the LJBF. You pulled away and got her [seemingly] unintentionally jealous. She was always attracted to you but she felt weird or awkward. Once she got jealous, she knew that she had to act to avoid losing you. So she did. And it worked. But you want her too. So in other words, everyone is a winner.

You are dead on. The exact vibe I got from it all.

We made plans for this Wednesday at 7pm movie and take out at my place. Lets see how it all goes.

 

[spiegel549]

Just a thought. Been doing some thinking about this one.


Plans for tomorrow at 7pm my house movies & take out. IF she flakes, excuse or w.e do I bother to invite her out again? Or leave this one alone permentanly?

Don't know why but my gut which is usually right smells an excuse coming tomorrow.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Ok im starting to get a little confused now

So youve arranged for girl #2 to come over tmorrow ?

If she has agreed to come over and she does actually show you need to bang her otherwise this will drag on & on ,

il bet you she will have her best underwear on make sure you take note

Girl #1 sounds like headwork id forget about her

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

You guys are spot on. Interesting update here.


Decided to go with the guarantee drama free option. Thursday night texted and told Girl #1 & #2 that this Saturday is not going to work. That previous plans I committed to ended up pulling through.

They were both cool with it.

Girl #1 who I banged, said "Have fun another time!"
Girl #2 said she wanted to do something with me next weekend.
Left it at that.

9pm that same night Thursday, Girl #1 texts me "what are you doing?"

I said fuk it and called her to shoot the ****.

Long story short we chatted for 20 minutes. Inside jokes, me teasing her etc. and casually she started mentioning about the "just wants to be friends" line and told me that she was enjoying what we had going on and that she actually misses me. :crackup:

I literally said, well your azz is the one who decided to drop that friends line. Thats exactly what we were doing lol...hanging out, enjoying each others company, having fun. If you miss me then get your azz over my house.

She goes "well I am off Monday if you are how about I come over?" I said sure mondays good. I gotta run but you have a good night. she said you too. boom.

Saturday I see her at work and she is all smiles, offering me grapes that she brought in, asked me how my night was, trying to pry if I brought anyone home, getting a little jealous I played it cool and answered in my usual avoid the question make a joke response.


So thats it. Playing it cool and not up her azz seemed to work. She "misses me" so...

That's the way it works with all chicks.

The way I was playing it before I got the friends line...hitting her up every now and again, teasing her with flirty texts etc. Do I want to go back to that? By withdrawing all of that, it made her miss me, and want to see me...so how do I play it out now?

Carry on as you are; push pull all the way. Have a laugh and don't get involved in drama. Unless you are literally looking to bang two or more chicks at once, why bother taking more than one out at once. Other than inspiring jealousy, what else were going to achieve?

So you took the third option and came away with all options still in tact.

Thoughts?

Well played