Boy in Blue
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Alright... I've hit nothing but dead ends with women until I met this girl Homecoming night.
Long story short... she's in a long distance relationship with at guy living a half hour's drive away. She sees the guy maybe once every two weeks, but has continued the relationship for 2 years, through all the ups and downs, mostly caused by him forgetting she existed and not calling/visiting her.
I've liked her since the night I first met her, and I've been a real good friend to her and vice versa ever since, we know eachother well and there is a definite foundation of trust. But it was only last week that i decided to go ahead and let her know how i feel.
My exact words were "You are very special to me".. I made a definite point of not saying "i love you" cuz i know that's the worst thing you could possibly say. I also made the point to her that I wasnt asking her to go out/cheat on her boyfriend/break up with him. I was not sheepish, I was not pleading, I was not demanding or insecure. I just told her how it was.
My friend who was once in a similar situation is telling me that I've screwed myself over by telling her anything of the sort. Is this true? Have i damned myself? And if so, is there any way of redeeming myself/remedying the situation?
Further note, I haven't noticed any particular change in our friendship since i talked to her, and I haven't mentioned anything about the conversation since (im not harrassing her).
Long story short... she's in a long distance relationship with at guy living a half hour's drive away. She sees the guy maybe once every two weeks, but has continued the relationship for 2 years, through all the ups and downs, mostly caused by him forgetting she existed and not calling/visiting her.
I've liked her since the night I first met her, and I've been a real good friend to her and vice versa ever since, we know eachother well and there is a definite foundation of trust. But it was only last week that i decided to go ahead and let her know how i feel.
My exact words were "You are very special to me".. I made a definite point of not saying "i love you" cuz i know that's the worst thing you could possibly say. I also made the point to her that I wasnt asking her to go out/cheat on her boyfriend/break up with him. I was not sheepish, I was not pleading, I was not demanding or insecure. I just told her how it was.
My friend who was once in a similar situation is telling me that I've screwed myself over by telling her anything of the sort. Is this true? Have i damned myself? And if so, is there any way of redeeming myself/remedying the situation?
Further note, I haven't noticed any particular change in our friendship since i talked to her, and I haven't mentioned anything about the conversation since (im not harrassing her).
