Am I not improving or are the girls just not interested?

[ElStud]

I really want to know if I'm really not improving or if the girls are just not interested. For instance I was talking to this Rebecca girl and I asked her if she was going to homecoming, she told me no and I asked why. Later I told her this story about what happened at the party this weekend and she seemed MORE interested, giving eye contact, but not really. So later I see her friend Lindsey starts paying attention but gives me this really annoyed face when I try to include her in the conversation. I'm a fun loving guy, but no matter what I do I just can't have fun with these girls. I try to be funny and try to play games with her like arm wrestling or I try to tickle her to make the interaction more fun, but the girl just rejects. Then I talked to this Allie girl saying "Are you going to homecoming?" and of course she says no. And I'm like "What's up with none of the hot girls going to homecoming? Are you guys too cool to come to homecoming or something?" and she's like "Well I'm going to be out of town" and I'm like "Sucks for you". Overall, I'm quitting these girls here, they've got to be some of the most boring chicks I've ever met. No fun for Mike.

Sure they were fun in the beggining, but now they just bore me.

 

[Derek Flint]

Why don't you just grow a pair and ask one of these girls instead of playing games with them?

 

[ElStud]

I have no interest in asking them. I'm going stag and I'm going to dance with whoevers there. I'm just tired of being myself around these girls and then they act all uninterested and go for these AFC guys who do nothing but go for rapport and occassionally tell a funny story or joke. They're probably just using those guys because they listen to them. Yeah, I think I'm going to end it with these girls soon and find new girls to follow me in my journey. More dependable girls.

 

[ElStud]

I don't know maybe it's the girls that need to "step up". I'm being my fun and they're rejecting. Next! I'll find a group of girls that's actually fun and not boring as heck. Like I said, they probably only hang with these other guys because they'll listen to their problems.

 

[Obsidian]

Derek's right. You're never going to get anywhere if you can't explicitly ask a girl on a date. Maybe she's not going because NO GUY HAS ASKED HER YET.

 

[ElStud]

Derek's right. You're never going to get anywhere if you can't explicitly ask a girl on a date. Maybe she's not going because NO GUY HAS ASKED HER YET.

Dude read up, I'm going stag. Why limit myself to one girl?

 

[Derek Flint]

Wait, first you're asking these girls if they are going, then when they say no, you say you are nexting them and going stag?

I'm confused.

Sounds like they nexted you, not the other way around.

If you want to take a girl, ask her and don't beat around the bush by dropping hints.

 

[ElStud]

Wait, first you're asking these girls if they are going, then when they say no, you say you are nexting them and going stag?

I'm confused.

Sounds like they nexted you, not the other way around.

If you want to take a girl, ask her and don't beat around the bush by dropping hints.

Dude read, I was going stag in the first place. I never WANTED to go to homecoming with these girls. I was just asking if they were going.

 

[ElStud]

Well dude if I can get the attention of a whole group of people and make them laugh and these girls don't laugh, that means there's something wrong with them. You act like you've never met boring chicks before. And yeah, these chicks are that boring. You're not going to homecoming? Sucks for you, I'm going to go and have some fun, while you're on vacation. Seriously these have got to be the most boring group of girls ever.

 

[B4IFURU18?]

Start using canned openers, I heard they work great! I mean, g-r-r-r-r-r-r-e-e-e-a-a-a-a-t-t-t-t. [queue pic of Tony the Tiger]

 

[PhilippeUrielAmancio]

Seriously these have got to be the most boring group of girls ever.

And yet, you care enough to post a message about them on this forum...

Just be normal man. Be confident, be direct, say what you want, and do what you want.

And take responsibility.

 

[Kev07]

1. Girl saying no to going to homecoming: If she says yes, then shes implying that she has a date and then you wouldn't ask.

2. Going with a "date" to homecoming doesn't mean you're stuck with one girl.

3.Sure you can make a whole group laugh, but unfortunately, that's the only part of your game that you have worked tightly. Work on more than just being funny.

4. Of course these girls are boring you, all you do is make them laugh, what are you expecting from them?

5. And to answer your original question (the one in thread title), Yes you are improving, if your only goal is to entertain people.

You still haven't really answered me to what your overall goals are. To me, it seems like your only goal on improvement is to become more social, seeing as how you only talk about making people laugh and don't even attempt to take things any further than being their entertainer.

 

[Mad Manic]

I don't know maybe it's the girls that need to "step up". I'm being my fun and they're rejecting. Next! I'll find a group of girls that's actually fun and not boring as heck. Like I said, they probably only hang with these other guys because they'll listen to their problems.

This doesn't work, because these girls are more highly sought after by guys than you are by girls, so they are the ones who are moreso in position to find another guy. You're the one missing out, not them. They can get a date more easily than you.

 

[yungahdubz]

Mate, I'm going to be completely honest with you. I don't want you to get the impression that I'm giving you **** for no reason, cos at the end of the day we're all here to learn and improve. But I really do think your not improving,I admire the fact you keep getting shot down, and still have the balls to approach, but you need to step up your game.

I've read a couple of you FR's and your success rate is pretty low, you go in with these boring stories about prince and doing surveys and ****, and your obviously not creating any attraction. And then when people are giving you advice; you get pissed off and start saying **** to them, when they are just trying to giving you advice, it might be in a harsh manner but in my opinion you need it because the message simply is just not getting across.

You think that you have good game and its the girls that are lacking it, and when you got kicked out of that shop you think it was because you were black? BS. I know why you got kicked out of there, everyone else knows why you got kicked out of there, only you don't know why you got kicked out of there.

You keep blaming others when **** like that happens to you, whether it be not getting indicators of attraction from girls or getting kicked out of a shop , it's not their fault, it's yours!

Take my opinion into account, give me **** for tell you the truth, I don't really care tbh. All I know is I'm just a 15 year old guy, who's managed to improve in many aspects of his life due to SoSuave, and you should too.

 

[robstar]

Hate to break it to ya man.. but the only thing that means success with girls is if you're hooking up with them.
Seriously just start giving it a shot! Stop trying to focus on improving your 'skills' with girls and go out to get rejected! The man who is a master in a field is the man who has made all the mistakes possible. You are trying a 'risk-free' method of improving your game.. there is no such thing.. just have a shot at some girls.. go on dates, hook up with them.. you got nothing to lose because you don't have them in the first place. And if you fail.. well you'll still have the option of going back to these girls you've failed with once your a DJ.
I'm going to put this bluntly "YOU HAVE TO FAIL IF YOU WANT TO SUCCEED!" Yes it may seem like a paradox but its true.

Oh and as for the making girls laugh issue, that means nothing.. I know a guy that is not funny at all, he doesn't need to make girls laugh and he gets plenty of *****. Yet I know another guy who's as funny as hell but he gets nothing. Its not an indicator of success.