Am i missing something ?

[NeedToImprove]

i post here very rarely than what i used to do, i found other things to keep me occupied. work, gym, but my love life still sucks. being with 31 i feel old, i lost my hair, my body is not the same although since february i lost lots of weight. my weight was 182 pounds and now is 158 pounds. im not a tall guy 5'6 and dont have a pretty face, maybe that's why i dont attract women. you talk about confidence, but if a guy isnt attractive there's nothing much confidence will do i think, well maybe it wont let your self esteem go down the drain like mine is now, but that's all i can think now when relating looks women and confidence. am i desperate case of ugliness? for example i put my photos in myspace or facebox and i only get awful comments by women not a single one that's somewhat positive.

what i hate the most is when women of all the photos i have there only comment the one's that have nothing to do with me. for example, my dog (how cute he is, bla bla) or friends. it gets me really frustrated. its like they are really making fun of me. or when they say " no one is ugly, everyone is beautiful one way or another, if not by looks they have other beautiful things in them. inner beauty is what counts the most".

i wont post the pics unless someone here is willing to see them and give a helpful hand. my situation is as desperate as it is, i even thought about suicide sometimes, but decided that's not the way out. i just dont know what to do to change the big picture, all i can think of is being lonely in the future, not having a family nor kids, its really ****ing sucks.

 

[ChrizZ]

pm me your pic and I'll help u out. It isn't your looks that's holding you back, it's prolly your style and the way you carry yourself.

 

[Michael Chief]

posting in these forums tacitly imply that you've met some prerequisites. you have not met these prerequisites; it's obvious from what you've typed. you have a different MINDSET from the rest of us here.

Read up. the most convenient thing to read from this site is the DJ Bible. scroll down and you'll see a link. i would personally recommend Double Your Dating by David DeAngelo and The Game by Neil Strauss, and David DeAngelo's Advanced Series.

Study this stuff, then post another thing here after.

 

[NeedToImprove]

i've studied the bible and read it back and forth. it didnt help.

 

[ducaro]

For one, stop the facebook and myspace drama. get outta the **** hole. Men are never on there. All the hoes know that its the wussies that sign up on such stuff.
two, don't expect to attract women with your looks.

develop a personality. something about you that doesnt shout 'common'

you'll be on your way soon!

 

[Michael Chief]

well i must be honest...i havent read most of the DJ bible.
But i know that a successful DJ must have a certain kind of mindset, and I gained this mindset mostly through David DeAngelo's stuff.

Having this mindset lets me truly believe that CONFIDENCE REALLY IS IMPORTANT. the fact that you said "there's nothing much confidence will do" made me believe youve studied hardly anything because i assumed that the DJ bible teaches how phucking important confidence is. but if it hasnt worked for you, i suggest you look to some other programs... or just realize how important confidence is...

Look, confidence is ATTRACTIVE to women. VERY attractive... it might as well be the most attractive attribute a man can have. when you are more confident, you will get more success with women. when you get more success with women, you will get more confident. its an endless cycle of AWESOME SH!T.

if you dont believe me, ask any woman if she thinks confidence is attractive.

 

[DJVladdy]

study the law of attraction, and listen to the player supreme. Because this forum cannot help you - your game is THAT low. I'm saying the game in your mind and the waves in your brain are all beta = stress and being overwhelmed. You think negative thought. Guys, if you read carefully, the guy is not asking for advice. What he is saying is: "poor me, please feel bad for me because i am a failure". You cannot achieve success if you only think and feel failure

 

[Crazy Asian]

replace the vagina in ur pants with a penis.

...hehe but really, ur depending on looks too much. Maybe ur not good looking or even a bit ugly, but that doesn't stop you from improving in other areas to make up for your looks.

 

[ChrizZ]

Okay, I've seen your pics. It was actually better than I expected. It is clear that you need to work on your game more than on your looks. However here is some feedback on the pics. What u need to improve is this:

1. get a tan.

2. ur clothes look too ordinary. Get some fancy clothes that fit your personality.

3. Get some accessories. Wristband, tattoos, jewelry etc...

4. don't post so many pics of your body. That looks really try hard.

Change all that and u got the looks part covered.

The big step however is to work on your game.

 

[reset]

Look at your user name. That's the mindset you walk around with all day. "I need to improve". It's always in the future. It's not going to happen when you always have a feeling that you aren't enough, RIGHT NOW.

You will never feel good about yourself if all you can think about is the little skin bag you walk around in. That's not who you are, it's the physical container that holds who you are.

 

[realsmoothie]

For one thing, start posting in the mature men section, a lot of those guys are really good.

My opinion, as a fellow recent 30something just recently moving back into the game, is to take baby steps. Little changes will give your mind the impression that you're improving yourself even if they're tiny. The gym would be a good start.

 

[TruthHurts]

keep in mind, even if u good looking, u will still have same feelings, i.e. we all trying to find our match, but with such diversity now days (i.e. everyone into different things) its hard to find someone that likes same things and your attracted to... Just keep on looking... For me I meed someone I like about once every 2 years, and I am told I am good looking...

 

[NeedToImprove]

well here are the photos if someone wants to make a comment or something

http://www.freefotolog.net/todas.php?ir=Picollo

 

[Nighthawk]

You're not ugly at all.

In the otherwise annoying and rubbish lesbian rom-com Kissing Jessica Stein the titular character talks about 'sexy-ugly' men. Her examples are Harvey Keitel, James Woods, Mick Jagger and Lyle Lovett. These men are not conventional dream-boats, but they are sexy to a lot of women because of their dominant, confident, dangerous, intense personalities.

These sort of qualities are possibly what you are missing.

 

[LittleBigOne]

Turn around the tables by asking you the following questions:

Do i REALLY need a woman? (answer should be no because woman desperately needs a man like YOU).

Do i take sh!t of other people? (answer should be no because your own opinion counts)

Do i need internet to meet woman? (answer should be no, get a life by creating hobbies and actually MEET people!)

Do you participate in negative discussions or thoughts? (answer should be no, you put a positive spin on things.)

I can make a long list here but by starting to keep these phrases in your mind (read them everyday) you can make yourself feel more attractive and woman will see it and the good ones will be attracted to you. And don't think you will attract hot pornogirls, by this you will meet sooner the girl you REALLY like.

 

[frivolousz21]

I am 5'6" I have slept with over 30 women..im 24
not all hot or even cute


anyways...your height will just take away some women from you...its non factor.

at 5'6" you will want to be around 160-165 lbs...with good mass..but a lean body...not to bulky.

if your going bald..shave it low..ive been going bald since 17.

if you want to appear taller..wear vertical striped clothes....no horizontal strips..also get your traps to look decently sized..it will help.

you can also wear sandles or timerland like boots to give you a inch or 2.

most important is smile..smile a lot.

read the bible..get some self help books like tony robbins..and go out and make your life the WAY YOU WANT IT TO BE.

 

[Grizou]

I can just repeat what someone wrote down before . Forget about any ratings and comments judging your pictures on myspace whatsoever. These pictures cannot by any means reflect your personality. Women may judge/comment 'em without knowing anything about you. As it has been said several times before, confidence is what makes the man and that is hardly interpretable by a picture.
Have you ever taken a closer look on some other rating websites? Some of the most gorgeous women get torn apart by some wanko, for what reason? For jealousy, badhairday, for no f.ckin' reason at all!
On the other hand, you may see the ugliest blokes with a hot chick at their side in real life. Stop whining about your looks, there's nothing bad about you at all!

If you go walking around with an attitude like "everything's s*it, life sucks and I can't do anything about it", you're just making it worse. First, you will bring yourself even more down (consider it a vicious circle, one without a reason to exist) and other people might feel frightened by the emotional snake pit you set up around you. Second, the only one who is able to change your life is you. To me it seems as if your sadness focuses pretty much on your lovelife. Get yourself distracted, find some joy in other activities. This would give you the chance to find something you are really interested in, expand your social circle and therefore meet new friends, give you interesting conversation material for future opportunities.

Las Buenas!

Ps. just lost my forum virginity: first post