Am I in with a chance or not?

[jonte]

Hey guys. Looking your opinion on weather I am in with a chance of a relationship or not. Well heres the story

Met a girl from my university out at a club one nite and just tlaked to her briefly saying that I ahd seen her around. I knew she done the same university course as my mate and so I asked my mate for her number. The same nite she also asked the same mate for my number. We arranged to meet out one nite because we where both going to be in the same town. We chatted for a good we while. Later that night she txt'd me saying I seem very friendly and that she would really like to meet up again. So we arranged to go to the cinema. After the film we talked for ages and got on really really well and had a laugh with each other. She has since asked to meet up again this friday.
She has not plain out said she likes me in a relationship way but does the intrest she is showing look positive or could it mean she is just looking to be friends?.

any help appreciated!!

 

[Thauran]

It sounds to me that you most definitely have a chance with this girl. You would never have gotten her number from your friend and agreed to go to the cinema with her if you weren't interested in a relationship... most likely this girl wouldn't have done the same thing either if she wasn't interested too.

You are both probably unsure of what the other one is interested in. I think it's important that you apply some kino, look at her eyes a lot during conversations and make it clear to her that you like her... otherwise she'll think you only want to be friends. And you will think that she only wants to be friends if she doesn't do anything, right? And then nothing will happen only because none of you dare to do what must be done.

I think my most common mistake is not realizing that the girl wants me before it's too late. If you don't try and see if she wants a relationship, you'll be kicking yourself because... maybe she did? And she does =)

Anyway, just my little imput... good luck man

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"Above all things boy, be a man" -Peter Steele.

 

[SLIKKER_THAN_AVG]

Hey whats up bro..i was gonna chastise you for asking your FRIEND for HER number..seeing as that is an AFC no-no, but then according to your post she asked for yours thru him..so it sort of balances it all out in a weird sort of way!

Anyways i would say yes, from what ive read you have a chance with her. It shows that hse is plainly interested in you for initially asking to meet up with you this friday..whether it be for a friend to hang with or something more, who knows..it all depends on her personality and what sort of a girl she is.

So now, you have the floor and its time for you to make it clear to her that you're not interested in just being a friend but something more..so you gotta do all the regular things..blah blah kino, C/F. Girls pick up on that kinda stuff and she'll get the idea. I'd say after Friday you will definitely have enough info as to whether the whole thing is worth pursuing or not.

So..best of luck! hope it helps.

Later

 

[jonte]

really helpful man!
from the time I posted that last message we have arranged to meet up again tomorrow night. this will be abt the 4/5 time we have met. She is away most of july, is it time for me to make my feeling's clear?, what way should I go about it?.

 

[jonte]

Well lads?
What way do I show my feelings to her in a subtle way or should I just say straight out that i like her?

 

[Oscar Wilde]

Originally posted by jonte
Well lads?
What way do I show my feelings to her in a subtle way or should I just say straight out that i like her?

Make it feel like a real date (actually, just make it a real date). Go for the kiss half-way through, when the timing is right (you'll know). Read about that on here if you dont.

 

[silverwex]

Yeah sounds like she interested man.

Kiss close and if she backs off... NEXT!

Also, apply kino and c+f! They always work a treat!

Good luck.

 

[jonte]

what is c+f?

 

[ulsterman]

Whatever you do, mate, don't pour your heart out and go all soppy on her, if that's what you were thinking about when you mentioned letting her know how you feel about her. I seriously counsel you to immerse yourself in as much Don Juan wisdom as possible before you proceed much further. Read Pook's post on ******** and study the best archived articles on sosuave.com;. In the meantime, make sure you avoid extremes of wussiness with her or caricatured macho-ness, keep your conversational material as light as possible (avoiding serious subjects), and try to get her on an action date (e.g. a hike) where you can be a man by taking the initiative in deciding what route to take.

As far as closure goes, you have to get her within kissing range on the date. The goal is to get right beside her - it's easier to kiss a girl for the first time in this kind of scenario if she's right beside you rather than facing you. You can get closer in stages, and if she doesn't back off right through until you can breathe on her cheek without a recoil from her, it's time to go for the kiss (on the lips). And even if she does kiss you and tells you she thinks you're amazing, stay calm and don't reciprocate her level of verbiage, at least, avoid doing so at the start of the romance.

 

[ulsterman]

c + f = ****y & funny. A tad overrated, methinks. Better to tease a girl about her high heels once in a blue moon than to be a ****y and funny pain in the posterior all the time. Relentless C & F will impress the teenage and immature chicks a lot more than the rest, but, if handled incorrectly, can make a guy look really immature.

 

[Thauran]

Just start with reading the ‘must reads’ in the DJ Bible, then the other articles... just read all of it. You may read the same thing over and over in different articles… but repetition is very good and it will make you remember it. Theory is one thing, actually applying all you’ve learned is something else.

There are a lot of abbreviations used on this site, like ONS, ONEITIS, LTR... I have eventually figured most of these out, but if you're new it may sometimes be rather hard to figure it out from the context. I haven’t found any place to read what they all mean, maybe it should be added to the FAQ?

And jonte, let us know what happens

 

[ulsterman]

Yeah, Jonte, let us know what happens, dude.