Am I Gay?

[loving]

This is a question that's been on my mind for a while now.

I am not attracted to men.. I am attracted to women.

When I see women, I get feelings in my body, my thoughts stop, etc.

But when I see men, I smile a little.

I don't control either of these... The automatic smiling came fairly recently (about a half year ago) and I used to resist the smiling that came automatically (didn't want others to think I was gay because I smiled at men).. Now I just accept that it happens, fearing that I'll turn into something I don't like by trying to deny what happens, and worse worrying about how others are judging me about it.

Does this happen to any of you? What do you think is causing it? What do I do about it?

 

[omega05]

you think you're gay because you smile at guys? come on man you just said you're not attracted to men

 

[Ridingthelightning]

Why are you smiling at men?
Its easy to smile at men.
Are you smiling at all men, or just men that you would be able to say are attractive to women or gay men?

 

[loving]

Why are you smiling at men?
Its easy to smile at men.
Are you smiling at all men, or just men that you would be able to say are attractive to women or gay men?

I said it happens without me trying to do it. Automatically. I don't know why.

Not all men, most men, can be anyone, old, young, black, white, handsome, ugly.

 

[Just a Shot Away]

Personally, when I'm met with an attractive woman I find it difficult NOT to smile. In fact, the entire conversation I'm trying to resist smiling. But with chicks I'm not attracted to it's not a challenge at all. Are you the same way?

Do you smile at certain guys but not others? If you find yourself smiling at attractive/masculine guys more than a different set, I'd say you probably have a little bit of gay in you, but so what. More mates to choose from, heh.

 

[Hot Ice Casanova]

Lol you're not gay. You probably just have an objective sense of what is a "good looking guy". The sort of guy you want to be like.

Lots of classic seducers (Casanova, Cagliostro, Byron, Duke De Lauzun, Eugen Sandow, JFK, Rudolph Valentino, etc.) were able to appreciate what an attractive man looks like WITHOUT being gay - that is, he's not personally attractive to you, but if you WERE a woman (albeit with the same sort of superficial "shallow" visual attraction mechanism as a man) you'd be attracted to him, he has good physique, carries himself well, etc..


Heck if I was a chick, I'd sleep with me any day of the week! I'm just that hot (lol *vain vain vain*).

Now if you have dream of sleeping with men (the way MOST guys have dreams of sleeping with women) then you could be gay. But I don't think a spontaneous smile is enough to prove it. I sometimes spontaneously smile at both girls and guys, but I'm not gay or bisexual, guys and anuses don't turn me on in the least - I'm just a sociable guy.

 

[Groovy]

MAybe you smile at men because you're insecure. Smiling is like realising your tension. Do you know when you're gonna do a major smartass ****y funny line, and you're like: I can't laugh when I say this! It's kind of the same thing. I used to have really long hair and it was really unexpected when I cut it all very short, so I used to kind of feel like smiling when I saw people too, sometimes. Anoyone here knows what I'm talking about?

 

[DonGorgon]

You are not gay but you are bi-sexual. many men are bisexual these days due to difficulties getting women as a straight man and the saddest part is that once they embrace their gay side women become more attracted to them simply cause they dont chase as much and dont act as desperate mainly cause they now have men to keep them busy..

women are very attracted to gay men.. so you should start having much more lucky now.. if it maters to yo..lol

 

[Nygard]

If you are gay, so what? Train tracks or rope?

 

[CaptainJ]

You are not gay but you are bi-sexual. many men are bisexual these days due to difficulties getting women as a straight man and the saddest part is that once they embrace their gay side women become more attracted to them simply cause they dont chase as much and dont act as desperate mainly cause they now have men to keep them busy..

women are very attracted to gay men.. so you should start having much more lucky now.. if it maters to yo..lol

Stop talking out of your ass

To the OP, you are not gay, like you said you're not attracted to men, that's evidence enough to show you are not gay. And also, your smiling can be attributed to anything, but i think the case is not that you are smiling at men, but that you aren't smiling at WOMEN. I smile at everyone I meet, men or women, big smiles when I see good male friends, it's just natural. I think you're just like me, except you're repressing you're smiling to women because you feel anxiety towards them, which is pretty obvious from your description of your attraction to them.

I say just get smiling to a lot of women, throw off this social anxiety that is making you feel gay.

Also, you're not gay if you're appreciating a male's beauty like an above poster said. Like I like the look of muscular guys because I'm a powerlifter and trying to get muscular myself, thus aspiring to look like some of them. It's natural.

 

[horaholic]

If you're not smiling while thinking of the guys naked body against you, I think you're probably striaght.

 

[Solomon]

You are not gay but you are bi-sexual. many men are bisexual these days due to difficulties getting women as a straight man and the saddest part is that once they embrace their gay side women become more attracted to them simply cause they dont chase as much and dont act as desperate mainly cause they now have men to keep them busy..

women are very attracted to gay men.. so you should start having much more lucky now.. if it maters to yo..lol

ROFL, this gotta be the dumbest thing I've seen you post DG, log off the net for awhile with ya theories and hit the field

@OP--If you are not attracted to men you ain't gay....

simple as that

 

[DonGorgon]

Stop talking out of your ass

you are gay too dude... did you even read the OPs post..lol?? He has an un controlable flirtation response with men hence he is gay/bi.. yeh in 2009 it ok to be gay. so i expect folks to come on her saying he is a ok..

 

[DonGorgon]

ROFL, this gotta be the dumbest thing I've seen you post DG, log off the net for awhile with ya theories and hit the field

@OP--If you are not attracted to men you ain't gay....

simple as that

The painful truth can sound dumb to the fearful... You log off and com back when you are brave enough to face social reality or male desperation..

 

[Solomon]

The painful truth can sound dumb to the fearful... You log off and com back when you are brave enough to face social reality or male desperation..

The guy says he smiles at men, it could be insecurity, I use to look down when I perceived a man of higher social value and thought they was better. Does that mean I'm gay? or if I smile at a dude walking by and say hi does that make me gay? nope maybe I'm just a coo/friendly dude. the problem is your mindset is still in the matrix i.e. Limited Beliefs, and UBER-generalizations, and guess what DG it ain't black and white. So please stop giving me this absolutist **** cause that's what women do!

The reality is women wanna fucck men, men that aren't afraid to to be men, not men pretending to be wussies, but then maybe your reality is different from mine since you live in one of the most populated gay states in the country, as I recall ATL's gay population was 2nd right after San Francisco right? so it doesn't surprise me you feel this way.

and Oh I don't need to log of I've field tested this "act gay" thing on the field, like I've field tested being "uber direct" or the Apocalypse or various of other things from this site/guru's etc, and guess what DG "WOMEN WANNA FUCC MEN WHO TAKE CONTROL, AND ACT LIKE MEN" not guys who run around in tight jeans, waving they hands

lol @ women attracted to gay dudes, da ****? yeaaaaaaaaah ok

LOG OFF!

 

[DonGorgon]

lol @ women attracted to gay dudes, da ****? yeaaaaaaaaah ok

LOG OFF!

Come to Atlanta GA and go to lennox mall there you will see happy smiling women walling around with gay husbands and boyfriends and kids for said men... People never believe this is happening until they see it with their own two eyes..

Women love gay men because:

1. their looks and body fitness
2. their style.
3. emotional similarities
4. gay men are indifferent to women which make women chase them

 

[Cinamon]

Come to Atlanta GA and go to lennox mall there you will see happy smiling women walling around with gay husbands and boyfriends and kids for said men... People never believe this is happening until they see it with their own two eyes..

Women love gay men because:

1. their looks and body fitness
2. their style.
3. emotional similarities
4. gay men are indifferent to women which make women chase them

The gay guys are probably the womans best friend, not there husband. Also, are you confusing metrosexual men as being gay, cause seriously how many gay guys could there be in Atlanta. Just cause i guy likes to take pride in his appearance, doesnt make him gay or bi.

Some people just have friendly faces, that you cant help but smile to.

 

[DonGorgon]

The gay guys are probably the womans best friend, not there husband. Also, are you confusing metrosexual men as being gay, cause seriously how many gay guys could there be in Atlanta. Just cause i guy likes to take pride in his appearance, doesnt make him gay or bi.

Some people just have friendly faces, that you cant help but smile to.

As i said denial is the norm with this issue until you see what is going on..