Am I doin what I SHOULD be doing?

[Dannyrt34]

Well guys, long story short.

I been talking to a hottie the last few weeks. She never really showed much interest, such as not being flirty back when I was flirting, or even really talked that much. I decided she's not interested and stopped talkin to her, it's been about 2 days and I got a message from her on my phone saying "I guess your too cool to talk to me, I really liked you too." I'm a relationship person so I never like to just keep nexting, as it rarely gets me anywhere when I next too soon, which is possible what I did here.

I really thought about this and realized that even though she didn't show much interest towards me, she never really showed much DISINTEREST either. I come to the conclusion that it may be my way of thinking. I still tend to be needy, because I immediately think that a girl is not interested unless she's constantly being flirty and talking to me. If this is the case, then obviously she's interested if she wonders why I haven't talked to her lately. Now I'm thinking of what I should say to let her know I'd still like to go out with her.

If this isn't the case and she's really not interested, then she's probably playing mind games.

Any advice or opinions I would appreciate, and what should I do next?

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Danny,

Not all women show their interest the same way. While most girls will smile and flirt back when they're attracted to a guy, some girls do the opposite and hide. I think you should learn to understand that as long as she's answering your phone calls and accepting your invitations to get together, then there's at least a decent amount of interest.

In this situation its only been 2 days since you've talked to her. You can easily fabricate an excuse as to what you've been up to for the past two days, but here's your chance to throw in some C/F to really raise her interest level.

This girl obviously doesn't play the game that much, or well, since she's telling you flat out that she's interested in you. I wouldn't contact her immediately though, because that would show a degree of weakness on your part (running to her when she calls). Instead wait another day or two, then call her up. Tell her you were out of town for the past few days. She'll be excited to hear from you and happy to know that you have your own life.

Remember despite what women ***** and moan about, they are programmed to want the guy who runs the show. They don't want a lap dog or a *****-boy. You should be solid if you follow the plan.


Keep us posted.



PIMP

 

[Cronus]

The thing about interest is, you know she is interested if she initiates or contributes to the conversation/relationship/whatever. If she contributes, then she is interested, your job from that point is to make it romantic and not as just friends.

Anyways, My Advice:

Tell her that you've been busy and that you will talk to her later.
Next time you talk, tell her some BS (you went out of town, you have been studyin for test). Only tell her however if she asks. If she doesn't then her interest level must not be that high; if she does, then her interest level is higher and it shows that she wants to know what you have been up to. You want to have some scarcity and not always be talkin to her. When you do talk with her make her have fun. Her interest will increase and she will initiate more often.

She is initiating right now, so I assume you have her interested. It seems like she is just not that experienced in the dating scene.

 

[DJ_in_making]

Danny,

here's your chance to throw in some C/F to really raise her interest level.

Yes, you've been doing alright so far. And don't worry, I get like that sometimes when I don't get blatant IOI's . However what you did - whether you are aware of it or not- was switch the position of power. Now she is chasing YOU. She would've never done that had you kept flirting with her.

Your job now is to hyperbolize the situation and make it seem like she's​

on your nuts. You could bust on her for actually thinking her crush on you was a 'secret' or tell her you like her as a little sister, how you haven't gotten to know her well enough and you judge girls on character b/c beauty is common.
Once she starts chasing you and showing obvious IOI's start rewarding her.

 

[SkinnyBonesJones]

can busting on her by doing something C+F like teasing her for showing interest backfire? I had a similar situation where I basically said 'you must really like cause you keep calling me'. Well, guess what, then she stopped initiating contact. What can you do once that happens?

 

[Dannyrt34]

Danny,

Not all women show their interest the same way. While most girls will smile and flirt back when they're attracted to a guy, some girls do the opposite and hide. I think you should learn to understand that as long as she's answering your phone calls and accepting your invitations to get together, then there's at least a decent amount of interest.

In this situation its only been 2 days since you've talked to her. You can easily fabricate an excuse as to what you've been up to for the past two days, but here's your chance to throw in some C/F to really raise her interest level.

This girl obviously doesn't play the game that much, or well, since she's telling you flat out that she's interested in you. I wouldn't contact her immediately though, because that would show a degree of weakness on your part (running to her when she calls). Instead wait another day or two, then call her up. Tell her you were out of town for the past few days. She'll be excited to hear from you and happy to know that you have your own life.

Remember despite what women ***** and moan about, they are programmed to want the guy who runs the show. They don't want a lap dog or a *****-boy. You should be solid if you follow the plan.


Keep us posted.



PIMP

Amazing advice, that makes alot of sense. I called her this afternoon, told her I have been very busy (Basically the truth) I been busy with college, work, going to the gym, and trying to find the time to just hang out with my friends after all that. She seemed happy to make plans for this weekend. I wish it was so much easier to change my mentality about girls and showing interest. This has been my biggest problem to overcome, and I realize it's probably because I'm selfish with my needs, I like it when a girl flirts back all the time because it boosts my own ego. I'll work hard to remember that even tho I'm not getting the IOIs I want, that doesn't necessarily mean anything, I'll try to learn that the simple things such as her just BEING THERE on a date with me means she's totally into me. I'll keep you updated because I am totally interested in taking this further with her, and I may need somebody to slap me out of it when I'm thinking about giving up again.

 

[Cod3r]

"I guess your too cool to talk to me, I really liked you too."

Come on !!!! Man i'm not even going to go into what's going on here, stop wasting your time on this little slvt and go fvck her best friend. I just want to smack some of you guys here, jeez


-Cod3r

 

[aelux]

Come on !!!! Man i'm not even going to go into what's going on here, stop wasting your time on this little slvt and go fvck her best friend. I just want to smack some of you guys here, jeez


-Cod3r

Got to say its kind of like that. I'm in a similar situation where a girl always tries to get my attn but when I called her she didn't return calls. Playing games, its just a power trip and an ego boost for her. If you want to be her lapdog friend fine but if you want somethere else keep the ball in her court.

 

[DJ_in_making]

can busting on her by doing something C+F like teasing her for showing interest backfire? I had a similar situation where I basically said 'you must really like cause you keep calling me'. Well, guess what, then she stopped initiating contact. What can you do once that happens?

No, not if you do it early on, and not if you do it the right way. She was playing games with him, if he starts IOIng him just b.c. she's finally paying him attention that's bad. If he c+fs her, and has her work for him and then he can start rewarding her.

It only backfires when you start overdoing it or she feels like she can't win you over.

Tell me more about your situation though, did you say it in a teasing playful way or in an arrogant get-off-my-nuts sort of way?

Were you being c+f like that to her for a long time?

 

[SkinnyBonesJones]

No, not if you do it early on, and not if you do it the right way. She was playing games with him, if he starts IOIng him just b.c. she's finally paying him attention that's bad. If he c+fs her, and has her work for him and then he can start rewarding her.

It only backfires when you start overdoing it or she feels like she can't win you over.

Tell me more about your situation though, did you say it in a teasing playful way or in an arrogant get-off-my-nuts sort of way?

Were you being c+f like that to her for a long time?

It was in a teasing way, and definately not the first ****y thing to come out of my mouth. But she hasn't initiated a call or text since then (about a week ago now), and I haven't either.