Glenfiddich101
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Hi Guys
I've been in an excluisive relationship for a few months now. thnigs are moving along fine, sex is great and we enjoy each other's company.
However i'm not sure if some of my doings are a reflection of my insecurities.
1.) I've read here that its good to have some minimal social proof in a LTR. I think i was doing fine in the begniing, letting her know that i'm wanted by other girls as well. But i might have been doing it too often and yesterday she took my words and used it on me just to spite me. I knew she didnt mean what she said but the feeling wasnt good on my part. I guess i derserved it. I was being too ****y.
2.) Whenever i'm in a relationship, i place emphasis on her safety and well being. So i told her its polite to inform each other of our plans for the day if we werent meeting up, or if she's coming back later than usual. Nothing detailed, just casual. However, she always forgets and this pisses me off. If i were to make a fuss of it, it make me seems petty. And if i ignore it, thats not how it works in my relationship. Another thing is she takes forever to return my sms. I've waited 6 hrs before. I know we are both busy at work but having to wait that long is pushing it.
3.) She doesnt express much affection verbally, but she holdsd me alot when we are together. She says that shes not the romantic kind and it takes awhile for her to warm up.
Is this normal for chicks? I'm affectionate verbally/physically with my gfs and so were they. Arent girls suppose to be more into this than men?
4.) I can be pretty paranoid and overtly sensitive at times. Esp if she mentions something abt her past or some guy. I'll just start thinking of all the possible scenarios and that ****s up my head pretty bad. How do i get rid of this stupid **** behaviour
Sometimes i feel that i might be asking for too much too early. But somehow, i feel that its no point having a relationship if the girl doesnt share the same values/rules as me. I donno. I'm sortof confused as well.
Appreciate if you guys can straighten out my thoughts for me.
Thank you
CS
I've been in an excluisive relationship for a few months now. thnigs are moving along fine, sex is great and we enjoy each other's company.
However i'm not sure if some of my doings are a reflection of my insecurities.
1.) I've read here that its good to have some minimal social proof in a LTR. I think i was doing fine in the begniing, letting her know that i'm wanted by other girls as well. But i might have been doing it too often and yesterday she took my words and used it on me just to spite me. I knew she didnt mean what she said but the feeling wasnt good on my part. I guess i derserved it. I was being too ****y.
2.) Whenever i'm in a relationship, i place emphasis on her safety and well being. So i told her its polite to inform each other of our plans for the day if we werent meeting up, or if she's coming back later than usual. Nothing detailed, just casual. However, she always forgets and this pisses me off. If i were to make a fuss of it, it make me seems petty. And if i ignore it, thats not how it works in my relationship. Another thing is she takes forever to return my sms. I've waited 6 hrs before. I know we are both busy at work but having to wait that long is pushing it.
3.) She doesnt express much affection verbally, but she holdsd me alot when we are together. She says that shes not the romantic kind and it takes awhile for her to warm up.
Is this normal for chicks? I'm affectionate verbally/physically with my gfs and so were they. Arent girls suppose to be more into this than men?
4.) I can be pretty paranoid and overtly sensitive at times. Esp if she mentions something abt her past or some guy. I'll just start thinking of all the possible scenarios and that ****s up my head pretty bad. How do i get rid of this stupid **** behaviour
Sometimes i feel that i might be asking for too much too early. But somehow, i feel that its no point having a relationship if the girl doesnt share the same values/rules as me. I donno. I'm sortof confused as well.
Appreciate if you guys can straighten out my thoughts for me.
Thank you
CS