OK you guys, I have been sober a while and realize that I am not going to be the homewrecker. If she separated from her husband and was living somewhere without him, that is one thing.
I think the thought about a DJ being morally 'correct' is an important point. Even though we are joking around with women, we should never say anything mean or nasty. If women disrespect us, then we politely tell them we are not standing for it.
This thread has gone longer than I though so maybe some one could elaborate or start a new thread about dealing with married women or women in relationships.
I have learned a lot from this, thanks guys, I mean, DJ's!