The LadyKiller
Senior Don Juan
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- Oct 5, 2011
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Recently, I posted about a new HB I met who I clicked with immediately and was taking out on a casual lunch date (we both had work later in the day). For what it's worth, the outing went very well - she was great to be with and said she does not play games (you'll see where this is headed). HB also expressed her desire to go see a movie with me during the next week (she also asked me to go to a concert with her a few months from now, but that's irrelevant). Thinking I was in much better position than I actually was (you'll see), I said that's fine.
Fast-forward to today. I run into HB and discuss plans for this movie date she initiated - day, time, etc. Everything went well until she said, "Hopefully we can make it earlier in the day, as I......might have a date that night." Inside, my mind looked like this: :crazy: . Somehow, I kept my composure and joked how she's going to have a busy doubleheader that day, to which she agreed (she "does not play games"...so she might have lied. IMO, all girls play games.).
I've seen a lot of things in the dating game, but not this. This is new. Unfortunately, I get the feeling this is basically a death knell for any hopes I had with HB. Two of my buddies who I hang out with were equally confused, they've never heard of this. Later in the day, I ran into one of our mutual friends - one who suggested she "liked" me. Apparently, HB's friends have never met the guy, but he is real and they've been on a few dates (getting closer to becoming a couple). Her friends like me, so they'll put in a good word, though it might go nowhere.
This brings me to my predicament. I can handle being turned down, that happens, and I can find other plates. But, do I still go on the date? Is it worth it? Can I really gain anything out of this? My friends think that flaking on the date (for obvious reasons) is going to look really bad because we're all in the same social circle and I'm the most stand-up guy in the group. But there is no chance in he** I am paying for her if this is a friends thing. :crackup: :crackup: To make matters worse, our entire social circle is going out the night before this "date." Perfect.
What is the best way to go about things, given our shared social circle and what I now know (basically that she's possibly on the verge of being taken)? The way I can see it, I can go all-out and try to make this my Super Bowl of afternoon movie dates, or be straight up and ask her what the deal is (but this would reveal my feelings)? I could also flake, but it'd be obvious and because we're in the same social circle, she and I are sure to be in the same company.
Again, I can handle rejections and find other plates in time (my three other plates: 1 is relocating in a week, another I learned is also in a relationship, and the third has become a major headache), but the situation is a Catch-22. I can't be a d*uche. And oh yeah - our paths likely cross tomorrow/today too.
Fast-forward to today. I run into HB and discuss plans for this movie date she initiated - day, time, etc. Everything went well until she said, "Hopefully we can make it earlier in the day, as I......might have a date that night." Inside, my mind looked like this: :crazy: . Somehow, I kept my composure and joked how she's going to have a busy doubleheader that day, to which she agreed (she "does not play games"...so she might have lied. IMO, all girls play games.).
I've seen a lot of things in the dating game, but not this. This is new. Unfortunately, I get the feeling this is basically a death knell for any hopes I had with HB. Two of my buddies who I hang out with were equally confused, they've never heard of this. Later in the day, I ran into one of our mutual friends - one who suggested she "liked" me. Apparently, HB's friends have never met the guy, but he is real and they've been on a few dates (getting closer to becoming a couple). Her friends like me, so they'll put in a good word, though it might go nowhere.
This brings me to my predicament. I can handle being turned down, that happens, and I can find other plates. But, do I still go on the date? Is it worth it? Can I really gain anything out of this? My friends think that flaking on the date (for obvious reasons) is going to look really bad because we're all in the same social circle and I'm the most stand-up guy in the group. But there is no chance in he** I am paying for her if this is a friends thing. :crackup: :crackup: To make matters worse, our entire social circle is going out the night before this "date." Perfect.
What is the best way to go about things, given our shared social circle and what I now know (basically that she's possibly on the verge of being taken)? The way I can see it, I can go all-out and try to make this my Super Bowl of afternoon movie dates, or be straight up and ask her what the deal is (but this would reveal my feelings)? I could also flake, but it'd be obvious and because we're in the same social circle, she and I are sure to be in the same company.
Again, I can handle rejections and find other plates in time (my three other plates: 1 is relocating in a week, another I learned is also in a relationship, and the third has become a major headache), but the situation is a Catch-22. I can't be a d*uche. And oh yeah - our paths likely cross tomorrow/today too.
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