Always respond last in a respectful and responsible manner.

[Hoodie]

I've noticed this really works well.

Say if a girl gives you attitude or turns you down, be it over text or face to face.

If you leave her on read, she will perceive it as you being annoyed or mad.
Which in her mind gives her certain power over you, the ability to make you mad.

However if you always have it in your mind to answer something like "All good" "No worries", etc.

Even if she gives you attitude and is being annoying.

You convey a frame of not being bothered by her attitude, being the responsible one and in control and not carrying any animosity.

Which in turn makes you more attractive to her, even if she turned you down and probably won't see her again.

It also makes you respect yourself more, which makes it alot easier to move along and keep getting out there.

Aswell as your reputation will be better, if she perceives you to not be bitter from her bad attitude (Becasue women talk..).

 

[BPH]

I think your reaction to a situation should be genuine, and not a "game" where you try to get a certain reaction or response from her.

If you are annoyed or mad and leave her on read, leave her on read. It doesn't matter what power she THINKS she has if you've moved on.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

If you are annoyed or mad and leave her on read, leave her on read. It doesn't matter what power she THINKS she has if you've moved on.

This is key. If you ever find yourself trying to consciously figure out how to make sure she feels a certain way, you've already lost.

Next her in your mind and forget about her, whatever the situation.

 

[Hoodie]

This is key. If you ever find yourself trying to consciously figure out how to make sure she feels a certain way, you've already lost.

Next her in your mind and forget about her, whatever the situation.

I think everyone cares to some degree even in the start, otherwise you wouldn't initiate.

But I don't think you should show her that you care in the start, before it's serious.

It helps protect and build up a good reputation, esp in the dating process as it's more likely that you will part ways.

I see how it's good and necessary to show your genuine emotions in a LTR.

But if you're just dating and don't know eachother that well yet. Then playing it cool is better imo.

 

[Deranged]

If you ever find yourself trying to consciously figure out how to make sure she feels a certain way, you've already lost.

This is huge. Applies to every relationship in life.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

But I don't think you should show her that you care in the start, before it's serious.

Fighting against emotions and trying to "game" anybody is like trying to fight against hunger if you've got an eating disorder.

It just doesn't work.

Here's a critical idea.

All game is to emulate somebody who is living the abundant mindset.

If you do have a lot of ladies you are talking to, then you won't have to consciously think, "what should I do to make her think X..."

Because you really won't care unless one girl starts to stand out from all the rest.

So, ask yourself.

What would I do if I KNEW I had 5-6 ladies on speed dial that would love to go out with me?

This is why it is critical to always be talking to ladies just to keep your sales funnel full.

It is the antidote to one-itis and poor decisions that plagues so many.

 

[Bingo-Player]

I typically won't bother replying to a rejection and then usually remove / block her on social media as its done

Noticed a few women on twitter b1tching when men do this ^^^ so I assume generally they don't like it

I have also in the past given one or two women a stern message about time wasting which again they don't like but at that point it really doesn't matter anyway

Women have the game set on easy mode when it comes to dating if she rejects me I have very very little interest in trying to soothe her conscious

 

[Divorced w 3]

She doesn’t necessarily deserve a reply. Leaving it on read is actually a power move. No doubt that you got it, just doubt as to what interesting or productive pursuit you’re up to that you couldn’t yet get back to her.

One thing though that I have learned the hard way…. You should always be cordial in written communication. It can always be manipulated against you. And believe me she will.

 

[The Duke]

Why would you worry about someone that isn't worried about you?

If they aren't interested, move on.

Stop worrying about what others think.

 

[Hoodie]

Fighting against emotions and trying to "game" anybody is like trying to fight against hunger if you've got an eating disorder.

It just doesn't work.

Here's a critical idea.

All game is to emulate somebody who is living the abundant mindset.

If you do have a lot of ladies you are talking to, then you won't have to consciously think, "what should I do to make her think X..."

Because you really won't care unless one girl starts to stand out from all the rest.

So, ask yourself.

What would I do if I KNEW I had 5-6 ladies on speed dial that would love to go out with me?

This is why it is critical to always be talking to ladies just to keep your sales funnel full.

It is the antidote to one-itis and poor decisions that plagues so many.

Being stoic and controling your emotions is fully possible and necessary.

 

[Lotus Effect]

Very good thread guys.

I do have the 'next' mindset, and just moving on.

But still, framewise, I agree with OP. Instead of being a little pr!ck, just answer a simple, k', no worries, chill, and move on.

You should already have moved on tho... She did.

 

[Hoodie]

Why would you worry about someone that isn't worried about you?

If they aren't interested, move on.

Stop worrying about what others think.

Maybe it's not so much about worrying about what she thinks.

But worrying about what you think about yourself.