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Clooney,

Based on what you told me through our past pm’s I understand that you are a young man who has had responsibilities thrust upon yourself at an early age and have matured at a more rapid pace than normal. This is one more untimely tragic experience for you at such an early age..

Sometimes the form and method by which people close to us die adds tremendously to the misery and grief of their loss. Suicide is sudden and dramatic and people do it for many reasons but I think at the core of their suffering is loneliness – an emptiness on the inside for having some unfulfilled need or want.

Sometimes friends, family, and all the material wealth cannot quell this insatiability. There may be no temporary cure for this emptiness but one should seek the inbred spirituality within all of us for a long lasting solution. The spiritual self is more important and seems to be much stronger and more capable than the physical self for dealing with such grave adversities in our lives.

My advice to you is to seek your spiritual self for strength in dealing with this calamity – our spiritual self was designed for such circumstances when our flesh and heart are too weak to sustain the loss!

May your affliction be lessened by knowing that there is a sincere concern for your welfare from your fellow DJ’s.
 

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Sincere condolences to you Clooney and affected family and friends.

I don't really know what to say, but you really are a champion around these DJ boards and I know you'll find a way through this and find an empowering meaning from the event that will take you to another level and that will allow you to grow from the experience.
 

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CLOONEY,

I'm very sorry. My condolences.
 

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Hey Clooney,

I offer my sincerest condolences to you and your family. I know you are going to have many tough days a head of you, please don't look for comfort in drinking or drugs to get rid of the pain. It is so much better to just talk your way through the pain than to find a false of security of dulling your senses to ingore the reality of it.

TS
 

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I'm sorry to hear about your father, Clooney. It is hard to lose someone you love.

Take care.
 

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CLOONEY, sincereest condolences to you.

i admire you for your strength and courage. you've earned respect from a lot of us here. on top of what you already did. :(
 

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Sorry to hear (read) about that Clooney. Atleast you know you got us here at sosuave to talk to if needbe.
 

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I do not get this... fvck, i will never get this...


No matter how hard the times are, no matter how ****ty the situation you are in is, the truth is- THERE IS ALWAYS GOING TO BE A BETTER DAY. I do not understand why so many people do not seem to know that. Everyone goes through ****... everyone of you... and some people choose giving up.....


Clooney, you are a smart guy, im glad you see through this bs.

"When you are going through hell, keep going' - Winston Churchil
 

CLOONEY

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Thanks again guys. Its been 2 days now. So its starting to get a little easier, although of course it is still VERY VERY hard. Starting to organise the funeral now.

I think this was maybe meant to be at this time though, as he was thinking of doing it earlier. Over the last year I have grown up tremendously and finally worked my head out. I was living on fake confidence made by my image etc before that, but realised it just couldnt make me happy. I have been doing a lot of soul searching over the last year and about 2 weeks before this I was thinking to myself, I really truly feel confident that I could deal with ANYTHING in my life right now. So of course the most brutal thing gets thrown at me. If this did happen a year back, I think I would have been a mess.

My dad had very poor health anyways, both physically and mentally, and there was no hope for him as far as he was concerned.

It really bothers me though that some guys on these boards who are physically healthy (the truly most important thing in this life, other than life itself) are complaining and talking about suicide.
Always keep your head up and make sure you have people around u to talk about your problems with. If not, there are always support groups and churches that will really stand by you every step of the way. If not, places like this, sosuave, have great guys who you can vent to and really get some great advice, of which you should take onboard. Instead of most of the people who say they can not go on and then just argue back when people try to help them. Sometimes a view from the outside is best.

Much thanks again guys.
 

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You are welcome friend, have a great night.
 

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damn dude....i am truly so sorry.
 

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Clooney -- I am shocked that this has happened to a member of the board I always looked up to at as a knowledgeable and strong person. As someone who has been pretty far down into depression, I think I can safely say your father did definitely not intend for you to hold yourself back from his death (in my really dark days, I was pretty close to suicide myself and I wasn't even thinking about my family...seriously).

And if, as you said, you father was in bad health physically and mentally, well then suicide may not have been the best option but it may have been the one to grant him rest the quickest. I feel nervous giving you my thoughts, risking interfering in your grief, but I believe that your father is in a restful place now.

This is the ultimate test of strength for you. I did not know your father, of course, but I believe he of course wanted to you to go on with your life. Take time to grieve and release your sadness, by all means, but do not let it weigh down your life forever. If you can come out of this on the upside, you will be x times stronger in character.

Hope this doesn't sound too much like a Hallmark card -- Best of luck and remember that everyone here at sosuave wishes you the best! :D
 

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I haven't been on here for a few days, and now when I come back, the first post I read is this one.

I think most of us have some personal experience with suicide and depression myself included, but I won't pretend to know what you're feeling right now.

Its funny though. You mentioned when you came here you were full of 'false confidence' and you've steadily grown more genuine. I've noticed the change and the CLOONEY of today is definitely man enough to handle and lead your family through this.

Always remember that your only responsibility in this sad affair is to your family and to yourself. It hurts now and it will for a while to come, but as surely as the sun will rise tomorrow, this too will eventually become a wooden cross, just another milestone you passed on the journey of your life.

-Cyrano
 

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My condolences

My condolences, CLOONEY.

Suicidal tendencies are generally biochemical in nature. I've been there, and in my case reactions to allergic foods often caused psychosis and suicidal tendencies, even in absence of any particular life event that gave any psychological reason to be suicidal. Psychological reasoning generally does not trump serious brain biochemical imbalances. That's where suicidal people should look first.

Other than that, Cyrano's post says everything else better than I can at this time. Keep going, CLOONEY.
 

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My friend in school who used to live in an African country where they would hear people being shot and killed in the mountains while trying to figure out some equations always comes up to me if ever something bad happens and simply says

Stay strong.
 

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CyranoDeBergerac, Bonhomme, alboh its good to hear from you all. I remember all of your names from the board, I hope you guys are doing well. Titus, good to hear from you too mate, as you have been through the same thing.

I am ok, just got back from a night out with my mates, they are really great at this time, just taking me out, and being there for me the whole time. Everywhere I went I saw people I knew though, couldnt enjoy myself, instead just telling everyone what happpened and litstening to their condolances.

Time to sleep, everything right now just seems surreal...........but I am ok. Like I said in earlier posts, just gotta keep my headup.............!! :)
 

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Very sorry about your loss.

Thank you for the inspirational words, they are very true and everyone should take advantage of the wisdom.
 

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:( Very sorry to hear bout your loss, deepest sympathy to you and affected family and friends.

I've had friends who've tried to commit suicide... but luckily they realised it wasn't the only way out.

A friend of mine died earlier this year. Everyone, even those who didn't really know her was affected in some way (this was at school when it happened.) I felt so lost, so confused. Didn't think I would recover from the trauma of it all. But it makes you realise how precious life is.

Stay strong, there will be a better day :)
 
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