Alpha Mentality is attracting the Uglies!

[HandyAndy]

This forum has helped me out tremendously I cant even begin to explain. Well, ive developed into a confident teenager, and girls are taking notice. Ive changed my whole attitude and mentality.

Well, since then, girls have been showing lots of interest, ive mentioned this before. They are attracted or drawn into my looks, confidence, and my mentality, cuz im sure as hell they ain't attracted to my body.

HB8 asian says "I'm in love with Andy, he's so hot"
HB5 friend says "Is your brother as hot as you?"

Stuff like that, you get the idea. Well along with attracting the cuties you get the occasional ugg who starts to show feelings toward you, well to get the the point, how can you get these ones to stop liking you? I know, act like a needy AFC, but the thing is, ive been studying this stuff for over 6 months and now my mentality is second nature, my ****y/funny, teasing and all that is now part of my daily life, acting AFC for me today is like me trying acting Alpha 6 months ago. Help please? Thanks

 

[theunflushables]

Be an *******. Tell her you don't date fatties/uggo's. Thats the sure fire way to do it. Or be honest and tell her you don't feel the same way. It's less blunt but works just the same.

 

[john paul]

I use to have this problem a lot.

I just ignored there advances and they stopped. And word must of gotten around because I use to have an ungly profess her love to me every couple of weeks, but it doesnt happen at all anymore.

I feel mean putting it like this but oh well..

Right now they think they have a chance with you but when they see you are getting hot girls they will realise its not going to happen.... and they will just keep those feelings to themselves.

So with time this problem will solve itself

 

[HandyAndy]

Be an *******. Tell her you don't date fatties/uggo's. Thats the sure fire way to do it. Or be honest and tell her you don't feel the same way. It's less blunt but works just the same.

Naw man, I dont have the heart to tell a girl shes ugly straight to her face, thats extremely rude.

And thanks for the advice jean paul

 

[SinJester]

lol! Well if you are more attractive if only natural that a whole range of girls will notice, not just the ones you want. Although you are getting more attention are you actually having success with hot girls? I think John Paul is spot on, hook up with and hang around a lot of hot girls and other girls will think you are out of their league and not bother showing any interest. What's happening makes sense if you find yourself being more attractive but not yet having actually got girls.

Don't be a bastard and tell them they are ugly. If they show too much interest give them the LJBF speach, classic. Otherwise like John Paul says just ignore their advances, works for me.

 

[HandyAndy]

Well yea, im getting tons of attention and no puss.y essentially, lol

 

[theunflushables]

Yeah, the whole "I don't date fatties/uggos" is like using a nuke to kill a housefly. It is effective, just might destroy everything else around. Just be honest and tell them you don't want that type of relationship from them.

 

[Quiksilver]

Put some work in.

Very few guys can, without effort, attract hot girls.

You have to step your game up and actually go out of your way to talk to these girls that you want.

When I was on fire, I used to get attention from uglies just like you. No effort on my part. I had to try a little bit in order to get the girl I wanted.

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

But dont forget . You have to be good with them .

You might get something good out of them ( their hot friends , good words from them etc. )

And just tell them you always saw them as friends and you like someone else . Thats it .

As for hot girls , dont worry . I think you have game , and you can get them .

 

[Enryu]

say why do you even care when they want you?
Its not like they would stalk you or do something negative in order to hurt you or something. Just ignore it.

 

[Tekniq]

This is one of the very few cases in the DJ world that the concept of less is more really does apply; in almost all aspects. You should be fine if you tone down your game and such when around the less desirable girls.

 

[HandyAndy]

Well yeah, im trying to ignore the ones that I dont like, im confident but also insecure about my body, which ties into approach anxiety and all that other good stuff. I constantly get looked at by girls and I just look back, which is as far as ive gotten. Honestly I just dont know what to say, how to hold a conversation..

 

[snowdog]

I constantly get looked at by girls and I just look back, which is as far as ive gotten. Honestly I just dont know what to say, how to hold a conversation..

You're doing very good my man. You're getting out there and taking action.

From the point where you're at, it takes a lot of time to get to the next step. I'm halfway past there now. I used to be where you are all the time. How I got further? It just took time. Keep doing what you're doing and it'll work out fine. Don't try to get it too fast, because it doesn't work that way.

Patience is a virtue my fella

 

[HandyAndy]

Thanks for the advice everyone

 

[HandyAndy]

Sorry for double post, another thing:

Last night I was hanging with one of my best friends, his girl friend and her friends. I wasnt interested in any of them, we were just having fun.

Well my boys girl:

1. Grabs my ass
2. Signals me to kiss her
3. Points a fake gun (arcade), pretends to shoot me, winks at me and bites her lip.

I told my friend to keep his girl in check because shes doing all this stuff behind his back, and I'm not down with stealing girls (especially my best friends), plus I wouldn't want her anyway. Sometimes its flattering, but sometimes I feel annoyed.

 

[SinJester]

Damn man now your stealing your friends girls without meaning to? Stop being such a fcking pimp already

Just act the same way as you do when ugly girls are around (when they get attracted) when girls you actually want are around.

 

[HandyAndy]

Lol you made laugh, that was funny, thanks for the advice, I cant help but get nervous around girls I just met, you know how your very comfortable around your friends but when you meet someone new you get that indescribable feeling, its feels awkward for you and all....idk how to explain but it happens to everyone

 

[GaryUranga]

lol dude yep that can be pretty annoying, just ignore the uglies, Im too nice to them that it plays against them and I dont mena Im beigna nice guy but I just dont flat out reject them and thats a prob, its annoyign havign that girl be all into you.

as for friends gfs I never got anythign too extreme other than some iois but nothign big ever happens from it, girl startign or flipping hair, minor stuff which is pretty good cause my friends gfs are pretty hot

 

[SinJester]

HandyAndy it happens to everyone who isn't experianced with it. Get over it by keep meeting new girls And soon they wont be 'girls you just met' anymore.

 

[HandyAndy]

Cool, thanks everyone