alpha male rant

[Five To One]

Anyone else sick of the alpha male of your group? Im just sick of him being an a$$hole to everyone and yet they all love him for it. Nothing happens without him being included. Ill call my other friends but they will be at his house. And when I do make plans with the guys it always ends with him showing up, someone is always sure to let him know what we are doing.

Im the only person in our social circle who calls him out for the sh1t he does but it always ends with everyone siding with him. He is always sure to turn everyone against me in the argument.

Whats worse is I use to be his right-hand man, but now that iv become a problem for him, he has taken some other guy for his best friend. Hes now excluding me from his plans when not long ago he use to always call me first.

Last time we were alone he told me iv changed and he doesnt like it. I told him iv matured.

It just sucks because im getting kicked out of my social circle and it seems like no one is noticing. And I dont have much to fall back on. Like honestly im not close with anyone but this alpha male who dispises me now.

Iv just got to try to get through this final year and then i can finally go out on my own. Its too late for a senior to try to make new friends.

I have a couple plates I can focus on to keep me sane, if they all fall then im screwed.

well that was a huge rant but needed for my sake.

 

[Five To One]

You hate him now because you want his position. It's not that you don't like him for who he is. You used to be his best mate, but I would have to assume you are jealous of his position 'cause you think he'll get all the action and power you want and turned against him.

You see, because you were fine with him before, his behaviour couldn't have been that tyrannic.

If he IS just an *******, which you should really think about without the clouded judgement that comes with denial, then sure okay. But if it is just your jealousy then it's your problem.

Go figure

Yeah some of it your right. I do want his position. But I wouldnt act how he does.
He really is a bully and tyrant is a good word to discribe him. I dont want to be like him because I know him so well, it makes me sick how he treats people. And he doesnt really get that much action, for every one girl he gets I have two. Im just sick of the respect he gets for how he acts.

Thats the one piece that I have failed to find so far. How he gets so much respect from others and how little I get. How is it that I get girls but I dont get respect/close friends?

 

[Da Realist]

The reason everyone is turning on you is that you bring the mood down. He doesn't. You're putting your time and energy into trying to knock him off while he just acts himself. He's at least comfortable with himself while you're not and people sense it. Only an insecure man tries to show up another just for respect. Are you doing it just to feel good as a person, or are you doing it because you know its in you? In other words, stop measuring yourself against your "opponent", but against yourself.

 

[Five To One]

Well I do agree that I bring the mood down now, I make it tense when I dont do his bidding and refuse to let him walk over me. He then makes a scene over it and I stand my ground, everyone else just sits there in shock as we stare eachother down. I use to be his b1tch like everyone else but I just dont do that anymore. Its not that I go out of my way and spend all my time trying to undermind him, im just not going to be his pawn anymore. Im not talking about small things here, im talking about like going to taco bell and him telling the cashier that im paying for him. Im obviously not going to pay for him, I would rather say no get b1tched at. But then the rediculious thing is he will do the same thing to our next friend and that friend will pay for him. Suddenly he bullied his way into a free meal. And yet hes the most liked guy in our group.


And your a bit off when you say hes comfortable with himself. Hes your typical putting-others-down bully. He insults and threatens. Plus you forget I was very close with him so I know him very well and trust me when I say hes an insecure guy.

 

[jdawgmcb]

Read "The 48 Laws of Power" by Robert Greene...that book CHANGED my life. (It also helped me deal with the "alpha" males...youll learn that they really aren't that "alpha" and that they are only "alpha" when you accept them as "alpha")

 

[Five To One]

Read "The 48 Laws of Power" by Robert Greene...that book CHANGED my life. (It also helped me deal with the "alpha" males...youll learn that they really aren't that "alpha" and that they are only "alpha" when you accept them as "alpha")

+1

Thanks j-dawg.
Iv found the book and excited to begin reading it tomorow

 

[Cassanova_Child]

whos readhis book on war and seduction as well? taht man is a genius about human psychology.

and yeah, i'd just ignore your friend. there really isnt any other cure.

 

[Da Realist]

If you know all this, then why are you letting it get to you? I'd say, really, just forget it and start your own thing.

 

[S.Y.L]

I am the alpha male of my group

 

[jdawgmcb]

whos readhis book on war and seduction as well? taht man is a genius about human psychology.

and yeah, i'd just ignore your friend. there really isnt any other cure.

he most certainly is

im definitely going to order it

 

[Cassanova_Child]

he most certainly is

im definitely going to order it

those 3 books (war helps to, trust me ) are great supplements to the whole DJ thing, they should be required reading for men.