Alpha body language/anxiety reduction

[S.U.R.F.]

Hello, surf here.

I read alot of posts on sosauve. Its great. But sometimes I know that we all agree with me, its hard to go from a "'JUST DO IT' thread, to actually "just doing it". Its hard. But heres something that will help.

Im prety good with rules, and numbers, and being a logical guy. I have found something that will definitely help everyone. I'm applying it to myself right now.

Now... alot of our old high school one itises took place on the computer.

Being asian, I look at asians. I notice alot of insecure asians, they have some common features.

Me reading extensively on new age philosophy and neuroscience.

My theory, our chest plays a big part.

Every alpha male stands up straight. This is actually a huge factor in how they turn out.

Put ur shoulders up, then back, then down. Straighten ur back. Tuck ur tummy in. Move ur ass forward. Perfectly straight. If you can't, do some yoga. I recommend bikram yoga, its heated so its easier to bend more. A few classes got my spine straighter then ever.

Reasons this is important.

1) Physically. Physically the chest represents our most vunerable part(not brain, think heart). Alpha males are not scared of the world. They put their chest FORWARD, to embrace the world. Betas and omegas bend their chest back to shelter it from everyone else.

A straight chest gets more oxygen. More oxygen is vital for the alpha male energy and health they have. More oxygen, or deeper breaths = more pleasurable feeling and less anxiety.

2) New age. Putting ur chest forward, and controlling ur breathing manually puts you in the "NOW". Yeah, I read power of now. Easiest way of being in the now, FOCUS ON UR BREATHING its easy. but hard to mention. Focus on deep breathing in and out. Also this deep breathing has profound health benefits, im not going into it, look it up yogis ,

3) Neuroscience. The deep breathing that accompanys a straight chest, which is stimulating the diaphgram has strong effects. The diaphragm is said to control neurotransmitters like norephiprine and dopamine production. The more stimulation, the higher levels. These 2 neurotrans. are responsible for courage/confidence, pleasure and well being. WOW. lol.

Yup, this is from a bout a year of just casual reading and research. It took me about half an hour to put it together into 3 easy steps.

1) Be self aware, this is hard but will become a habit. Self aware is realizing that you are doing this, and should be moving ur chest in front.
2) Shoulders up back then down.
3) Control and focus ur breathing.

If anything, you will take up more room and walk like a bloody man. If you don't believe the bull**** I typed above, those two reasons are more then enough for you to try this.

Asians walk with a bad back and one itises often occur when you are on MSN alot. Think about it, bad chest position.Those 2 things dont bring confidence, nor happiness.
P.S. I mean solar plexus, but chest is good too.

Look at the way you are sitting right now as ur reading this. Hehe, what is your solar plexus doing? Think about it guys, easy, convenient, HEALTHY, and it could make a difference in getting women and general well being.

I notice that this reduces anxiety in me alot. So That alone is worth it.

Enjoy.
Surf.

 

[zekko]

Put ur shoulders up, then back, then down. Straighten ur back. Tuck ur tummy in.

I've noticed some guys try to puff themselves up and maybe try to walk a little TOO straight with their shoulderss a little TOO far back and such. I think this comes acorss as try hard and maybe a little desperate. Like they're trying to make themselves look bigger than they are but you can see it's just a front. Maybe the girls see it differently, I don't know.

The nice thing about weight lifting is that when you build up your muscles and you stand up straight you get this big bulked up straight posture effect NATURALLY without having to force it. And I think that makes a huge difference.

 

[Ease]

Its all about your hands.

To keep a good upper body posture, the key is your shoulders. You need to keep them in the natural dropped wide stance. It brings your chest out front and shoulder out sideways and it feels best.

The key to alpha language is your hands. When you sit, put them to either side. Dont cross any part of your body, its a subconcious action to defend yourself. You have to leave yourself open to attack. Spread arms and legs out.

When walk keep your hands hanging, leaving yourself open to attack. Be slow to react instead of jumpy. You find out yourself when you pay attention to your own language.

 

[Galactus]

I think a little clarification is needed. Here's my interpretation:

I heard once that women can see through all that chest puffing, so I got in the habit of just being natural. The problem is, when "being natural" means that you walk slumped over with your chest tucked in, looking down all the time, not only do you look pathetic, but you ain't getting laid.

In trying not to come across too ****y, or like a wannabe badass, I have probably been hurting my game. I have walked by windows and seen myself, or seen myself on videos, and I slump over, tuck my head down, and take short steps. I think a lot of this is because I'm 6 foot 4, and in not wanting to be a huge, obnoxious, overbearing presence, I've been unconsciously trying to shrink myself down. In the past, my size has made me feel a bit freakish, and I've always worried the villagers would attack me with torches and pitchforks.

But I think there is a good compromise. I tried it again. This is not about throwing your chest out as far as you can and your shoulders way back. I've seen little guys do this and it looks ridiculous. I did it in front of the mirror, and I could see the positioning that was right for me. It's hard to explain. I think it's up to the individual to look at himself and find what works best for him.

I've done a lot more people-watching in recent years, and I think it's a very important exercise. Pay attention to how everyone acts, that's crucial, but also look at how they move their bodies.

Tony Robbins talks a lot about how your physiology affects your state of mind. If you look sad and miserable, so will you be. If you look confident and strong, so will you be.

And if you look like you're trying too hard, it's probably because you are. Like I said, look in the mirror. Find what looks right. Pay attention to your mental state. How does it feel in your brain? Do you feel confident, but not like a jackass? Walk around. It should feel a bit different, but not uncomfortable. Again, pay attention to how this new posture makes you feel about yourself.

Ease, there's a lot of good stuff in those few sentences. I love the thing about the hands, and I will keep that in the back of my mind as I venture out into the world. I read something a few years ago that a guy should never stand with his hands in his pockets; just let them dangle at your sides. This felt and still feels unnatural, but I try to do it. Now I understand why this is important. Tucking them in your pocket is probably defensive. It sends a signal that you're trying to protect yourself.

Clark Kent would stand around like that but not Superman. Look at Superman, standing there with his chest and chin out, and hands on hips. He's saying, "Bring it, beeyotches!"

 

[S.U.R.F.]

wow you guys are amazing. thats alot of new stuff for me to know.

Ease I love your think on the not blocking your body, and leaving your body for attack. Such a physical representation of the alpha mindset.

Galactus, yeah if you were to really puff your chest like that, it would be rather try hard. But some people are walking like bend over sticks. I figured that by forcing yourself to stand straight, over a period of a few weeks or so, it becomes more habitual and less forced. Thus..natural?

I think you have to start somewhere, I guess fake it until you make it.

And I love your thing about looking confident and feeling confident. I believe it works the other way around too, if you feel confident then you also look confident.

Same for with great power comes great responsibility, its true. But when you take great responsiblity over your actions and yourself, that also gives you great power.

But all in all, your right. Its not going to look natural at first. But natural are just habits, and sometimes habits have to be made if you don't already have them. So in the beginning, it might look a bit contrived.

surf