When we fail with a women we think that it was becuz we just were not "dark triad' or " alpha" enough. This is bullshi**. We failed becuz the women on a deep psychological level just did not respond to us. It had nothing to do with alpha or beta. It had to do with you dont remind her of something in her childhood. The manosphere wants to make a largely mysterious process into one that is rational and understandable. So we come up with this designation of alpha and beta. This is wrong.
About 50% of women ( and 90% of attention *****s) grew up with abusive or absent fathers. So they are attracted to dark triad traits. This is not ideal. So why is the manosphere using what these damaged women prefer as the template for what a man should be. They call it being "alpha". This is nonsense.
Mentally healthy women do not go for alpha jerks. I think this alpha/ beta mindset has been very oversimplified by the PUA community and pop culture. A women from a good family is going to want to be with a guy that resembles her father. Fathers have mostly Beta qualities with a little bit of Alpha mixed in. Good fathers do not act like jerks or exhibit the dark triad traits. Why is this called beta then?
The men that dysfunctional girls dump you for are usually not alpha. They are usually losers. These guys are not even universally attractive to women. They often have self esteem issues and all types of other problems. They often have no job. Some may argue that they exhibit alpha qualities like aloofness and outcome independence etc. This is false. They exhibit it to that girl becuz they know they have her already. They do not exhibit these traits to women that are not already deeply attracted to them.
If a true alpha were to date these women, these women would run. They would be too afraid emotionally and they would leave these guys or friendzone him. Imagine if an 6ft accountant who is an all around good guy where to date a damaged women. She would prob go on a couple dates with them, then string him along and then dump him for her dead beat ex bf.
It had nothing to do with alpha or beta. It had to do with what she responds to on a psychological level.
CAUTION: I will concede that extremely AFC behaviors like calling WAYY too much or being too needy do turn all women off. But most men are not that extreme. The average socially adjusted guy does not do that but yet he still has problems with holding down a LTR with damaged women.
About 50% of women ( and 90% of attention *****s) grew up with abusive or absent fathers. So they are attracted to dark triad traits. This is not ideal. So why is the manosphere using what these damaged women prefer as the template for what a man should be. They call it being "alpha". This is nonsense.
Mentally healthy women do not go for alpha jerks. I think this alpha/ beta mindset has been very oversimplified by the PUA community and pop culture. A women from a good family is going to want to be with a guy that resembles her father. Fathers have mostly Beta qualities with a little bit of Alpha mixed in. Good fathers do not act like jerks or exhibit the dark triad traits. Why is this called beta then?
The men that dysfunctional girls dump you for are usually not alpha. They are usually losers. These guys are not even universally attractive to women. They often have self esteem issues and all types of other problems. They often have no job. Some may argue that they exhibit alpha qualities like aloofness and outcome independence etc. This is false. They exhibit it to that girl becuz they know they have her already. They do not exhibit these traits to women that are not already deeply attracted to them.
If a true alpha were to date these women, these women would run. They would be too afraid emotionally and they would leave these guys or friendzone him. Imagine if an 6ft accountant who is an all around good guy where to date a damaged women. She would prob go on a couple dates with them, then string him along and then dump him for her dead beat ex bf.
It had nothing to do with alpha or beta. It had to do with what she responds to on a psychological level.
CAUTION: I will concede that extremely AFC behaviors like calling WAYY too much or being too needy do turn all women off. But most men are not that extreme. The average socially adjusted guy does not do that but yet he still has problems with holding down a LTR with damaged women.
