Been around in this forum for a few months.. the information learnt and practised changed my life vastly.. This post i made had helped some of my local PUAs and I would like to present this case example for everyone..
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Ok guys, a background of my Oneitis, I believed my case is much serious than most. Story starts on Feb this year. I HOPE THIS CASE MAKES OUT FELLOW DONS BETTER.
I have only been with this girl HB8.5-9 for 2 months. She was All over me like a super glue. calling me at least 2 times per day. I was typically enjoying the attention as it has been quite long since a HB of her grade was all over me. We make out.. all except sex.. (AFC then..)
That time i was all cool. I chose not to kino. As i tot kinoing is anti-challenge. Well, she is SUPPOSED to be a fling quality. but I got way too serious as she's the only chick. and AFCness cause her to go away. I finalized things with a "I like you a lot" over the phone. She LJBFed me on the spot.
She was the exact physical type of girl i have been looking for. In fact i noticed her since i was young (known of one another's presence since young). But i undergone an image change and she started noticing me. Been a 2years gap we last met... And she still charmed me as ever. I never dreamed that I could get so close with her before. she's 28. I'm 25.
Aftermath. (I was a TOTAL WUSS!!!!)
I cried. I screamed. I lose 4kgs. I miss my sales target for 2 months. I spend a lot of money and not getting happiness. I consulted help from all my friends. I slept and wake up thinking of her. I wasn't spared of my misery for even 10mins of my day other than slping. I go overseas to escape from the pain. I can't stop thinking. I cried again at my workplace washroom. Kick me, punch me. I dun care. I just want to let out.
2months' of that feeling. How's that? I think that she's the best girl i ever met. But her character sux! She have short attention span. Luckily, ALL MY FRIENDS AND COLLEAGUES SUPPORTED ME.
How did i forget her? Nope, I still can't forget her. I even asked around all the guys and my pivot on how to get her back, cause i haven't Fuk her. I wanna find ways to fuk her. But guess what, I think i am trying too hard... WAY TOO HARD.
For all info. I was worse in another previous relationship of 3yrs (LTR) she dumped me and married another AFC guy. I broke my knuckle that time. (2x worse than with i type on top)
Plate spinning theory, anyone heard of that? There's just one phrase to solve it.
"NEVER PUT ALL YOUR FUKING EGGS IN ONE BASKET"
Most oneitis problems came because of the reason you placed emphasis on her.
Ways to improve the situation, decreasing ONEitis aftermath.
This is tested by me before. They should work.
1) Ever going online staring at the monitor? Clicking on her internet (Myspace) profile? Seeing her pics? She's so beautiful? And i thought i still had her?
STOP THAT! destroy all sources of things that remind you of her. <But don't destroy your comp pls...> Myspace? WILL POWER!!! Don't VIEW HER PROFILE. It really helps...
*I forced myself to do that... It takes EXTREME Willpower to do that for serious oneitis cases.
2) Don't ever find the slightest reason to call/msg/msn her... She knows she had you all over her. Doing so will never help in the situation. And please, no GIFTS for her!
3) Jacking off serves a temporary relief of your problem. But... It won't help in the long run. In fact, I felt slightly worse after jacking off thinking of her. It makes me wanna "try" her more in real life.
4) Never be alone... And i repeat again. "NEVER BE ALONE" (Crying at one corner is one exception to this case.) Go out. talk to friends. You can't find something you like to do (Most probably you have already diverted All your attention to her)?
Use it as a chance to UPGRADE yourself!
Use the ANGER, RESENTMENT, SADNESS to MOTIVATE you to be a better man! I used them. I workout, I work hard for my money, I got styled up on my clothings and hair. I learn a new musical instrument. I intend to take up HIP HOP Dancing. And SWEAR that you will be a TOP wanted guy that all girls will crave for. Be it your bodybuild <working out>, Style <Dressing up>, Talent <Musically inclined & Dancing>, Stability <Be it Education or Career>.
ONEitis is the best chance to improve yourself. Some of my old friends notice changes in me. "Maturity wise, build <slightly toned than before>, Charisma <DJ attitude>" within 3 months. Let that happen to you. Oneitis is a weapon for you to be a HB magnet.
As above are all tested and effective personally. However, My oneitis is still there but very much managable.
5) Plate Spinning theory
This is a theory by one of my fav posters on sosuave.com. Check this out. It is not tested by me but by other guys to help in Oneitis. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.ph...ht=plate+theory
6) Slightly related to the Plate spinning theory.
As my FR, the Korean HB. She appeared and i can tell she's very interested in me but she's gone back to Korea. We had an unique and fun time together. <No F-closed> but really sweet memories. My Oneitis get tons better after the get-together with her. HOWEVER, i notice i begin to have slight oneitis on her instead.
Above is a way to solve oneitis but dangerous, as your oneitis may be diverted to another girl.
Another example, my 3yr LTR was crushed. Mega Oneitis. Can't stop calling her.. I was a great nuisance. Then i came to know a new HB. My oneitis near 1 week shifted to her. Average Oneitis. The HB LJBFed me. Then i came to know another new HB. She's married. Shifted my ONEITIS on her. Oneitis again.
Really hope this help out you guys...
Just my 2cents worth of thoughts.
Cheers,
Charlezz
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Ok guys, a background of my Oneitis, I believed my case is much serious than most. Story starts on Feb this year. I HOPE THIS CASE MAKES OUT FELLOW DONS BETTER.
I have only been with this girl HB8.5-9 for 2 months. She was All over me like a super glue. calling me at least 2 times per day. I was typically enjoying the attention as it has been quite long since a HB of her grade was all over me. We make out.. all except sex.. (AFC then..)
That time i was all cool. I chose not to kino. As i tot kinoing is anti-challenge. Well, she is SUPPOSED to be a fling quality. but I got way too serious as she's the only chick. and AFCness cause her to go away. I finalized things with a "I like you a lot" over the phone. She LJBFed me on the spot.
She was the exact physical type of girl i have been looking for. In fact i noticed her since i was young (known of one another's presence since young). But i undergone an image change and she started noticing me. Been a 2years gap we last met... And she still charmed me as ever. I never dreamed that I could get so close with her before. she's 28. I'm 25.
Aftermath. (I was a TOTAL WUSS!!!!)
I cried. I screamed. I lose 4kgs. I miss my sales target for 2 months. I spend a lot of money and not getting happiness. I consulted help from all my friends. I slept and wake up thinking of her. I wasn't spared of my misery for even 10mins of my day other than slping. I go overseas to escape from the pain. I can't stop thinking. I cried again at my workplace washroom. Kick me, punch me. I dun care. I just want to let out.
2months' of that feeling. How's that? I think that she's the best girl i ever met. But her character sux! She have short attention span. Luckily, ALL MY FRIENDS AND COLLEAGUES SUPPORTED ME.
How did i forget her? Nope, I still can't forget her. I even asked around all the guys and my pivot on how to get her back, cause i haven't Fuk her. I wanna find ways to fuk her. But guess what, I think i am trying too hard... WAY TOO HARD.
For all info. I was worse in another previous relationship of 3yrs (LTR) she dumped me and married another AFC guy. I broke my knuckle that time. (2x worse than with i type on top)
Plate spinning theory, anyone heard of that? There's just one phrase to solve it.
"NEVER PUT ALL YOUR FUKING EGGS IN ONE BASKET"
Most oneitis problems came because of the reason you placed emphasis on her.
Ways to improve the situation, decreasing ONEitis aftermath.
This is tested by me before. They should work.
1) Ever going online staring at the monitor? Clicking on her internet (Myspace) profile? Seeing her pics? She's so beautiful? And i thought i still had her?
STOP THAT! destroy all sources of things that remind you of her. <But don't destroy your comp pls...> Myspace? WILL POWER!!! Don't VIEW HER PROFILE. It really helps...
*I forced myself to do that... It takes EXTREME Willpower to do that for serious oneitis cases.
2) Don't ever find the slightest reason to call/msg/msn her... She knows she had you all over her. Doing so will never help in the situation. And please, no GIFTS for her!
3) Jacking off serves a temporary relief of your problem. But... It won't help in the long run. In fact, I felt slightly worse after jacking off thinking of her. It makes me wanna "try" her more in real life.
4) Never be alone... And i repeat again. "NEVER BE ALONE" (Crying at one corner is one exception to this case.) Go out. talk to friends. You can't find something you like to do (Most probably you have already diverted All your attention to her)?
Use it as a chance to UPGRADE yourself!
Use the ANGER, RESENTMENT, SADNESS to MOTIVATE you to be a better man! I used them. I workout, I work hard for my money, I got styled up on my clothings and hair. I learn a new musical instrument. I intend to take up HIP HOP Dancing. And SWEAR that you will be a TOP wanted guy that all girls will crave for. Be it your bodybuild <working out>, Style <Dressing up>, Talent <Musically inclined & Dancing>, Stability <Be it Education or Career>.
ONEitis is the best chance to improve yourself. Some of my old friends notice changes in me. "Maturity wise, build <slightly toned than before>, Charisma <DJ attitude>" within 3 months. Let that happen to you. Oneitis is a weapon for you to be a HB magnet.
As above are all tested and effective personally. However, My oneitis is still there but very much managable.
5) Plate Spinning theory
This is a theory by one of my fav posters on sosuave.com. Check this out. It is not tested by me but by other guys to help in Oneitis. http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.ph...ht=plate+theory
6) Slightly related to the Plate spinning theory.
As my FR, the Korean HB. She appeared and i can tell she's very interested in me but she's gone back to Korea. We had an unique and fun time together. <No F-closed> but really sweet memories. My Oneitis get tons better after the get-together with her. HOWEVER, i notice i begin to have slight oneitis on her instead.
Above is a way to solve oneitis but dangerous, as your oneitis may be diverted to another girl.
Another example, my 3yr LTR was crushed. Mega Oneitis. Can't stop calling her.. I was a great nuisance. Then i came to know a new HB. My oneitis near 1 week shifted to her. Average Oneitis. The HB LJBFed me. Then i came to know another new HB. She's married. Shifted my ONEITIS on her. Oneitis again.
Really hope this help out you guys...
Just my 2cents worth of thoughts.
Cheers,
Charlezz