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its not real abuse buddycomic_relief said:I agree with setting the frame of the relationship in the beginning, being firm in what you say, and not giving in is all good things.
BUT ABUSE IS NOT A GOOD THING IN ANY FORM.
You are advocating making your girlfriend "walk on eggshells" so to speak and that makes her insecure.
If you want an insecure girl, then that is great and you have at it. If you want a secure girl, then you need to learn a new set of ideas because you will get thrown out on your @$$ very quickly.
How about instead of being mentally abusive, you just stay firm in your decisions and let her have clear cut ideas of what is right and wrong. The punishments are laid out (you cheat? BAM! You become MENTALLY ABUSIVE? BAM! etc.)
Being willing to walkaway is what is key to keeping the girl. Rollo's great rules states "Whoever has the most power is whoever needs the other person the least."
Being a strong man in her eyes will win you her heart.
btw i think that your friend needs some mental help if he is pulling that sh!t. I have a simple rule, Treat her the same way that you would want to be treated.
comic_relief
its CONTROL, which results in her mind not even having any THOUGHTS of thinking that she could betray you