Funny thing about relationships, at the begining it can be like a fairy tail romance where everything you ever wished for and desired actually occuring before your eyes, you are feeling on top of the world and thinking stright ahead to a bright future.
Fast forward to a couple months or years, you see yourself heartbroken because she left you, you started to see all the signs pointing to the wrong directions and you cannot stop this relationship from going under. That fairy tail romance you were once dreaming about came to a complete stop, you began questioning yourself, life and why did it happen, whether it was your fault or hers and you want to start getting back on your feet, get better, feel better and look for a new relationship and hoping that the next one will be "it", and you will be settled for life.
The thing is that often there is no such thing as the "it" relationship. Sometimes its beyond your control when a relationship deteriorate and you are standing there helpless and try to fix it but to no avail. Every new relationship is a new experience and should be a different experience as well. So what if you love this woman for 3 years and then it ended? Just know that you had a good run at it for 3 years and that time has passed you by and when it ended it was good for both parties to look for other things in life. The past will stay in the past and you should cherish it but you got to move to a new segment in your life and cherish every relationship you ever encounter and know that even if it ends, the time you spend with someone cannot be forgotten or replaceable even if things did not end up working out.
There is a time limit over a relationship, its here today and gone tomorow, nothing is forever and nothing stays healthy for a long period of time. People change and so are their priorities and desires. The only thing constant in your life is you. Don't let past and ruined relationship dictates how you fee about yourself. You should define how you feel about yourself and remain true to yourself no matter if you are in a relationship or single. In the end the only person you can count on is yourself. Therefore you should accept the loss and instead of focusing how bitter you were left because of it, you should be happy that you can now look for another relationship and another experience. Forget about Forever Happily Ever After Crap - It doesn't exist in our world. Maybe you will find that special someone that will stick with you until you die, but if you don't then know that at least you did your best because youv' tried. If you don't try then you are just wasting time. So go on out there and start meeting those women and don't worry about the future and happily ever after, just take things day by day.
Fast forward to a couple months or years, you see yourself heartbroken because she left you, you started to see all the signs pointing to the wrong directions and you cannot stop this relationship from going under. That fairy tail romance you were once dreaming about came to a complete stop, you began questioning yourself, life and why did it happen, whether it was your fault or hers and you want to start getting back on your feet, get better, feel better and look for a new relationship and hoping that the next one will be "it", and you will be settled for life.
The thing is that often there is no such thing as the "it" relationship. Sometimes its beyond your control when a relationship deteriorate and you are standing there helpless and try to fix it but to no avail. Every new relationship is a new experience and should be a different experience as well. So what if you love this woman for 3 years and then it ended? Just know that you had a good run at it for 3 years and that time has passed you by and when it ended it was good for both parties to look for other things in life. The past will stay in the past and you should cherish it but you got to move to a new segment in your life and cherish every relationship you ever encounter and know that even if it ends, the time you spend with someone cannot be forgotten or replaceable even if things did not end up working out.
There is a time limit over a relationship, its here today and gone tomorow, nothing is forever and nothing stays healthy for a long period of time. People change and so are their priorities and desires. The only thing constant in your life is you. Don't let past and ruined relationship dictates how you fee about yourself. You should define how you feel about yourself and remain true to yourself no matter if you are in a relationship or single. In the end the only person you can count on is yourself. Therefore you should accept the loss and instead of focusing how bitter you were left because of it, you should be happy that you can now look for another relationship and another experience. Forget about Forever Happily Ever After Crap - It doesn't exist in our world. Maybe you will find that special someone that will stick with you until you die, but if you don't then know that at least you did your best because youv' tried. If you don't try then you are just wasting time. So go on out there and start meeting those women and don't worry about the future and happily ever after, just take things day by day.
