All my fears; Dancing

[jago25_98]

This is pissing me off after living with an ugly fool DJ taking 5 girls in 2 weeks and me, much better looking and getting more looks. So I'm back to this.

What happened?

Usual childhood then all of a sudden everyone's doing this fvck called dancing, seems designed to hurt me. It's social and it's about inner belief in yourself, not surface confidence.

1) social
2) inner conviction
3) sexuality; damn hard to dance if worried about looking gay eh?

-- 3 major problems all coming out in one thing; dancing --->

1) I hate groups if people. Never been one of those people. The smarter you get the more lonely you get.
2) Don't know what caused this. Perhaps made a **** of at some point.
3) I'm definately not 100% straight but I can't say I'm gay because I'm more straight than gay and people have to pigeon-hole.

Otherwise I'd describe myself as otherwise very confident; do well in interviews, fine with women after ice breaker.

But even when totally hammered I can't bring myself to even try and dance. Just cannot do it.

But it's that deeper believe in oneself that fvcks me.

And this is what's happening with dancing. I've never danced yet, and I'm 23.


Once gave out phone number to a girl for a Salsa lesson; never phoned me. But I might have shat myself anyway.

It's fvcked at least 50 chances with women.

As I say though, I'm otherwise confident, it just comes to that self-belief and sexuality side that needs a boost.

 

[PoloBlue]

I never liked dancing, I feel silly moving around like that, dancing doesnt go with my personality

real men dont dance

 

[Don_Joffe]

If dancing is your primary fear, you need to overcome it. FACE YOUR FEARS.

 

[skeeloo]

dancing dont go with my personality either especially when u grew up around tough men in my childhood arear (gangmembers).lol and a tough ass uncle.
my friends on the other hand fair better at clubs because i dont think u can really get succsessful in clubs without dancing. what i hate is when people force me to dance im 6'3 with broad shoulders and dancing doesnt work for me(funny thing is i attract most of the girls even when im not dancing while my friends get the 5's 6's or nasty chicks). i usually get girls at the bars or when a slow jam come up. but i think dancing can be cool if you have the stature for it. not my thing though.

 

[Baruch]

the thing is, you can still be tough and dance at the same time. I am russian, we got that mafioso mentaility emboded in us, but when there is a party going, you cannot see one person sitting down. everyone is on the dance floor tearing it up.

fortunetly enough, my mom used to dance when i was a little boy and made me dance with her. so i am naturally an ok dancer. i am practicing break dancing at the moment.

dancing is a part of life, its a great way of just letting loose, forgeting your problems and just go with the beat.

i think you worry to much about how you are going to look like in the eyes of others, and that is your main mistake.

take some dancing lessons, or put some music on, try to dance by yourself.

usually, if i am in a bad mood, which is rare nowdays, i will crank up the stereo and bust a move.

try it sometime.s

 

[aBAzLLnA]

real men dont dance

Get the fvck off this site right now. Real men don't dance...lmao...oh, you're a real man, huh?

First off, don't listen to the shmuck who said this, I've literally ****ed girls on the dancefloor before, and it's said that your dance ability reflects upon your perfomance in the sac.

Secondly, grinding will show the girl that you're a sexual being, and you've got balls.

Finally, my topic about dancing at another board: HS Dance Guide

 

[i am me]

Originally posted by skeeloo
dancing dont go with my personality either especially when u grew up around tough men in my childhood arear (gangmembers).lol and a tough ass uncle.
my friends on the other hand fair better at clubs because i dont think u can really get succsessful in clubs without dancing. what i hate is when people force me to dance im 6'3 with broad shoulders and dancing doesnt work for me(funny thing is i attract most of the girls even when im not dancing while my friends get the 5's 6's or nasty chicks). i usually get girls at the bars or when a slow jam come up. but i think dancing can be cool if you have the stature for it. not my thing though.

So? Gangmembers don't dance? Ever heard of the C-walk???

Dancing can look cool and feel good when you know how to do it. Everybody should practice a little a home once in a while so they can at least feel comfortable when at a club/dance. People who say "dancing" doesn't fit their personality are just making excuses...unless you're a goth but then you probably wouldn't be on this site

 

[Mojo604]

Originally posted by aBAzLLnA
Get the fvck off this site right now. Real men don't dance...lmao...oh, you're a real man, huh?

First off, don't listen to the shmuck who said this, I've literally ****ed girls on the dancefloor before, and it's said that your dance ability reflects upon your perfomance in the sac.

Secondly, grinding will show the girl that you're a sexual being, and you've got balls.

Finally, my topic about dancing at another board: HS Dance Guide

:claps:

*checks out link*



dancing is fun... I use to worry about what people would think n ****, but the very first night I whent clubbing- I faced my fear like a man and overcame it quickly. now i love clubbing...dancing is so liberating..specially when you got some cutie rubbing up against you hahahah ...and drunk

 

[Billasec]

I used to BE **** AFRAID OF DANCING


when i was 13 at my barmitvah i was afraidto dance and i fglt like an idiot not even dancing at my own party.

So finally when i was 15 i started to overcome it.

I took steps. When there was some hott HB i just had to do it and i made my friends push me to do it and physically push me to do it.

So i did it.

Slow dancing is the easiest thing ever, taking a **** requires more effort.....literally lol

grinding just takes some practice but essentially you grap the girls body by her hips and follow her a$$ or her Crouch with yours and cahnge the pace from time to time ( i like to think of it sorta like a trance song, slowly changing the beat)

Regular dancing takes more practice to get compterble, but just watch other people and be as comfterble as possible.

sadly enough drinking can help overcome and allow you to fell more compterble.

And trust me once you know how to dance, the HB's FLOCK.

its amazing feeling know you are a good confident dancer.

also the best dancers usaully take the most risks

 

[belividere]

dude sounds like your troubles are deeper than dancing. I dont dance very much and still can pick up girls in clubs. i was thinking about it the other day and every girl I dated who liked dancing I wouldn't dance with. I dont know guess I'm just a prick like that.

I'll tell you what though I am an opprutunist. I have been to salsa lessons a few times. It was like 15 girls and then me. F'ing gold mine. I gotta say the same for yoga. I actually had fun with salsa too, despite the girls.

But if you dont ever plan on dancing then maybe you should be looking to pick up girls in places were no one is dancing. Go to a bar/pub instead of clubs.

 

[skeeloo]

its not that i dont dance, i just dont dance like spinning my head on the floor or any juvenile crap like that , i dance with a glass of drink in may hands slowly grinding on the chick and all, but when it scomes to flinging my hands around like some kid i dont do that. i hate sweating in clubs. dancing is fun of course. do what works for you the thing i would never do is stand at the corner and let a girl approach me that is a loser thing to do. and of course real men do dance lol. just not like a boy.

 

[I-am-someone]

Ah... dancing is so damn sweet.
This saturday I went out, and danced my fvcking ass off. I mean, I REALLY put power into every move, follow the music without paying attention to all the other slobs in the room.
There were 5 HB8 and above dancing around me at the end, pity one of them stepped on my foot by accident with high heels and crushed my big toe, causing me to nearly faint . One chick got approached by 5 different guys while I was there, but she wanted to dance w/ me... pretty sweet .

Anyway, I've personally discovered that if you dance with the right posture (shoulders back, head up high, etc) and put real thrusting moves into the way you dance, it'll certainly attract every woman in the room. Ofcourse, you need to practice dancing in front of a mirror as well. Just turn up your music and start to dance, it may take up to 15 minutes, but you just gotta keep on going until you feel the beat and your body has adapted to it.

 

[aBAzLLnA]

It's all about style and attitude. That's seriously what dance is. You nail the attitude, and your style will develop.

I'm actually a raver, but at dances where they only play hip-hop I'll bust out a short body wave or something and mix it up with a little gliding, then maybe a little raving and back to hip-hop dancing...lol only when I don't have a chicks ass in my groin.

Oh yeah, most chicks suck at dancing, so if you don't have a chick to dance with don't be afraid to bust out a groove on your own...it attracts attention

 

[Royal Elite]

Originally posted by i am me
So? Gangmembers don't dance? Ever heard of the C-walk???

Dancing can look cool and feel good when you know how to do it. Everybody should practice a little a home once in a while so they can at least feel comfortable when at a club/dance. People who say "dancing" doesn't fit their personality are just making excuses...unless you're a goth but then you probably wouldn't be on this site

One if you really dont like dancing dont go to clubs, go to bars where you can focus on your best asset-talking.

If you do want to start dancing dont wait until you get into war to see if you gun is loaded. Start practicing at home in the privacy of your home. You dont have to be b2k, just practice a basic two step about 20 minutes a day.

 

[MrHarris]

Originally posted by jago25_98
This is pissing me off after living with an ugly fool DJ taking 5 girls in 2 weeks and me, much better looking and getting more looks. So I'm back to this.

What happened?

Usual childhood then all of a sudden everyone's doing this fvck called dancing, seems designed to hurt me. It's social and it's about inner belief in yourself, not surface confidence.

1) social
2) inner conviction
3) sexuality; damn hard to dance if worried about looking gay eh?

-- 3 major problems all coming out in one thing; dancing --->

1) I hate groups if people. Never been one of those people. The smarter you get the more lonely you get.

If you look at your words, you can see your problem. Your way to focused on how YOU look. This is extreme vanity hidden within the ego. You need to quit worrying about how you look.

Dance is about who you are in it's best form. In it's worst it is a drunken off beat movement of the body. Your inner self does shine through when you dance. If your a passionate lover then that will come through. If your uptight and the worst fawk around that will come through. Sorry to disappoint those who say that you can't tell how a person is in bed by the way they dance.

Something went wrong in your growth. Somewhere you got stuck on YOU and you need to free it. Your ego is in control of you and giving you a full dose of fear to keep you in line.

You need to decide how long your going to remain a slave and when you want it to stop.

Originally posted by jago25_98
2) Don't know what caused this. Perhaps made a **** of at some point.


3) I'm definately not 100% straight but I can't say I'm gay because I'm more straight than gay and people have to pigeon-hole.

[/B]

I'm sorry but ewwwwwwwwwwwwww....you like dudes....ohhhh ****tttttt!!!!

I wish you had not of disclosed you bisexuality on this forum on how to meet women.

This gay thing might be what is blocking you from scoring as your buddy does.

Originally posted by jago25_98

But it's that deeper believe in oneself that fvcks me.

[/B]

Exactly. You inner beliefs and your inner sexuality is what is holding you back. You have an attraction to men that you want to keep hidden. Your so afraid of dancing that you might look gay because you are carrying that "thing" inside of you.

If you don't let it out of the closet it will eat you up. One of my old friends had this problem and he needed to just let it run it's course. He eventually got rid of it, hopefully for good.

But my point is you also need to look at how you accept your attraction to men (gayness). Do you feel ashamed? Are you embarrassed? I will bet that you are carrying negative guilt around with you and you keep it deep in a closet inside (pun intended).

Originally posted by jago25_98
And this is what's happening with dancing. I've never danced yet, and I'm 23.


Once gave out phone number to a girl for a Salsa lesson; never phoned me. But I might have shat myself anyway.

It's fvcked at least 50 chances with women.

As I say though, I'm otherwise confident, it just comes to that self-belief and sexuality side that needs a boost. [/B]

I don't know if you know this, but if your carrying around the attraction to men it will manifest itself in your personality.

Women can also sense this in 5 seconds of meeting you. In the case of my old friend. He hid his behind overly masculine behavior which he thought women couldn't see through.

The saw through his masquarde everytime.

He faced tons of rejection from women. I am in the place of your friend who gets 5 women in 2 weeks and you are in his exact place getting no women.

Look at your aura. Look at your manerisms that your not aware of. Look at how you look at men subsconsciously. I had to get my friend out of trouble many times because when we went to a club he would unconsciously look at men more than women.

I feel for your buddy also cause I've been in his shoes. He must truly be a good friend.

Good luck!