All it takes is One Slip

[Redwood]

How is it difficult to simply not associate with someone outside of work or family? It literally requires doing nothing with someone.

For my situation, it's mainly just work. I have no real problem with this in regards to my personal life.

 

[Manure Spherian]

For my situation, it's mainly just work. I have no real problem with this in regards to my personal life.

Good.

 

[Lotus Effect]

Or maybe it's as a writer that I take words and their meanings more seriously than you.

It is probably it.

I suspect you didn't know the word Coven is only used for witches. I

I knew. I used it as an allegory tho.

I have no doubt about that. I prefer to communicate in person. You can let me know whenever you're in Amsterdam.

Will most definitely do!

 

[GoodMan32]

You're damn right, all it takes is one slip.

One thing I've heard on this forum before is "If a woman loses interest in you, it's rarely because the woman found another guy. Typically, it's because you did something to make her lose interest."

While it's technically true to say (in most cases at least) the man did something to make her lose interest, it's still the woman's fault. Why is it her fault? Because her standards are unreasonably high. As you illustrated, she'll "next" you over the tiniest slip-up.

And even if the woman doesn't have another guy yet at the exact moment she "nexts" you, that's beside the point. The point is she could find another guy with extreme ease. If a woman, even with average looks, were to set up a swipe app profile, she could find 20 men looking to bed her within a few hours of setting up her account. Since a woman, in the back of her mind, knows this, she has no incentive to try to make it work with you after you do your first tiny slip-up.

 

[SW15]

While it's technically true to say (in most cases at least) the man did something to make her lose interest, it's still the woman's fault. Why is it her fault? Because her standards are unreasonably high. As you illustrated, she'll "next" you over the tiniest slip-up.

And even if the woman doesn't have another guy yet at the exact moment she "nexts" you, that's beside the point. The point is she could find another guy with extreme ease. If a woman, even with average looks, were to set up a swipe app profile, she could find 20 men looking to bed her within a few hours of setting up her account. Since a woman, in the back of her mind, knows this, she has no incentive to try to make it work with you after you do your first tiny slip-up.

Female abundance is one of the biggest changes in dating since the 1990s. Women have far less tolerance for slip ups now than in the 1980s-early 2000s because it is now easier for them to generate abundance as compared to the 1980s-early 2000s.

In the 1980s-early 2000s, women could generate abundance. It wouldn't have that much effort but it would take enough effort. The effort that it would take was enough of an incentive for a woman to try to make it work after some tinier slip ups. In the 1980s-early 2000s, women needed to get dressed provocatively and go to bars to generate interest. They might even need to show up on multiple first dates after meeting men in bars too. While that isn't a lot of effort, it's enough of an effort to incentivize a woman to stay in an interaction.

In more recent times, a woman can generate a lot more interest sitting at home on her smartphone or computer as compared to the 1980s-early 2000s. All she needs are a few good pics and a video that a friend can get for her. She puts those on Instagram and/or a swipe app and she has far more male suitors than she would have had going to a bar 3 nights a week looking for men in 1999.

I agree with you that women know this in the back of minds. Tech-based dating forms have been de-stigmatized now for around 20 years and women 18-early 40s today know well about how easy tech-based dating is for them in terms of getting men interested in them.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

All this fear of being abandoned by a woman... If a woman abandons you for making an honest mistake, she's unworthy of your care and affection. People here should really work on their self-esteem.

 

[Sega Genesis]

While it's technically true to say (in most cases at least) the man did something to make her lose interest, it's still the woman's fault. Why is it her fault? Because her standards are unreasonably high. As you illustrated, she'll "next" you over the tiniest slip-up.

It depends on the stage you're in; if you just began dating, and thus she's observing your behavior (as YOU should be doing as well) then depending on the "slip" that lightswitch swiches off and she's done.

She most likely was not that into you and/or found it difficult to connect with you.

Considerate it a blessing and move on from it.

On the other hand, if you have been dating (banging) for a while and she's very into you, she will "forgive" just about anything, barring abuse, cheating, deception. But even then, she may forgive you, I've seen it!

Even if it involves deluding herself which as a woman and not proud to admit, I have been known to do, as have many women. As I've matured not so much anymore but I used to.

Abuse, cheating, no I don't delude myself about those things, I leave quietly.

I think it's a great insult to men to say they're left clueless and guessing as to why she left?

Intelligent men know exactly why she left if/when they screw up, they don't need her to tell him. Only to then accuse her of creating drama or something in some cases, not all.

But again for the most part, IF she nexts you for the "tiniest thing" then she was looking for an out, a reason to disqualify you and most likely not that into you.

Important distinctions.

 

[GoodMan32]

Female abundance is one of the biggest changes in dating since the 1990s. Women have far less tolerance for slip ups now than in the 1980s-early 2000s because it is now easier for them to generate abundance as compared to the 1980s-early 2000s.

In the 1980s-early 2000s, women could generate abundance. It wouldn't have that much effort but it would take enough effort. The effort that it would take was enough of an incentive for a woman to try to make it work after some tinier slip ups. In the 1980s-early 2000s, women needed to get dressed provocatively and go to bars to generate interest. They might even need to show up on multiple first dates after meeting men in bars too. While that isn't a lot of effort, it's enough of an effort to incentivize a woman to stay in an interaction.

In more recent times, a woman can generate a lot more interest sitting at home on her smartphone or computer as compared to the 1980s-early 2000s. All she needs are a few good pics and a video that a friend can get for her. She puts those on Instagram and/or a swipe app and she has far more male suitors than she would have had going to a bar 3 nights a week looking for men in 1999.

I agree with you that women know this in the back of minds. Tech-based dating forms have been de-stigmatized now for around 20 years and women 18-early 40s today know well about how easy tech-based dating is for them in terms of getting men interested in them.

As much as I like how convenient it is to live in 2024 (thanks to modern technology), one unfortunate side effect of modern technology is the ease in which a woman can "next" a man.

I remember one of the posters on here (probably you) said on a past post that a woman in the current year can get more suitors in one month (thanks to technology) than a woman a mere 30 years ago would have had in a lifetime.

Even though I'm against this idea, I see why a lot of incels support the idea of assigning a woman to a man. As you pointed out, the sheer abundance the modern woman has access to is unreal. The sheer abundance in 2024 also explains why incels are much more of a thing now than 30 years ago.