All I want is...

[ChrizZ]

...a hot girlfriend that I can have lots of sex with.

I got every part of my life handled thanks to this site, however I still don't get it when it comes to getting the extremely fine chicks.

Lots of people say some guys just have it and some guys don't, but I don't give a fvcking horsesh!t about those people. I thought that I mastered my approach anxiety, but I was wrong.

I'm 18, just started college today, I'm above average looking, tall and I am walking past the hottest chicks u can imagine everyday. However they don't care for me. I'm not the kind of guy that makes them wet their pants when I enter a room. Deep down I know my problem.

My problem is I lack confidence and simply the balls to approach them in a direct manor. Of course I can go up to them and ask them for the time or some other BS excuse, but I'm done with that. Direct game is much harder than I thought, but I don't wanna do indirect game anymore because I believe it might fight the symptom, but not the cause. I want to get unstoppable confidence. I want to be so confident that I can just walk up to any woman, anywhere, anytime and tell her that I want to have sex with her. However everytime I'm trying to do this, fear is what holds me back. How can I fight that fear? Now don't give me some KJ advice, tell me to read the bible or tell me to do a bootcamp. I want to know from people that are experienced with DA and how they overcame that fear. I don't want to look back one day and think of my youth which I wasted because I was being a pu$$y.

thx in advance...

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

You must overcome your fear! I just think of women as another guy. I just go up and start a conversation. I don't worry about myself or what the girl I'm talking to is thinking. My eyes are on the target and I go in for the kill. Pretend in your mind you already have a girlfriend. Cause if you did, your not worrying about trying to pick up the girl your interacting with. You need to get into that mindset that your the MAN! Don't just be yourself, be your BEST self. You just need to motivate yourself and get your mind right. Women are like us except we're opposite sex. Once you can get this kind of stuff into your head and practice using it. You will then, have all that confidence your seeking.

 

[lYlasTer]

Ever man's been in your position before, are you going to let it hold you back during some of the most exciting years of your life, or are you going to man up?

Reading articles and posts on the forum is good, but experience is better. You have to go out there and just do it!

 

[ChrizZ]

You must overcome your fear! I just think of women as another guy. I just go up and start a conversation. I don't worry about myself or what the girl I'm talking to is thinking. My eyes are on the target and I go in for the kill. Pretend in your mind you already have a girlfriend. Cause if you did, your not worrying about trying to pick up the girl your interacting with. You need to get into that mindset that your the MAN! Don't just be yourself, be your BEST self. You just need to motivate yourself and get your mind right. Women are like us except we're opposite sex. Once you can get this kind of stuff into your head and practice using it. You will then, have all that confidence your seeking.

that's great advice! I remember when I had my last gf I couldn't care less what other chicks thought of me and I suddenly became an alpha male and very popular with the ladies.

keep posting guys!

 

[ChrizZ]

Ever man's been in your position before, are you going to let it hold you back during some of the most exciting years of your life, or are you going to man up?

Reading articles and posts on the forum is good, but experience is better. You have to go out there and just do it!

I know, but it is really tough. I've never met a guy that could just walk up to a group of girls that walk his way and mack on them successfully. I think if u can beat that fear then you'll be successful with girls and anything else, too.

But all this is easier said than done, but I'd rather die trying than give up and accept my life the way it is now.

 

[Derek Flint]

Remember when you first learned how to ride a bicycle?

You were scared. You fell many times. Scraped up your knees and elbows. Maybe even cried.

Did you quit?

No.

You got back on, and eventually, you fell less and less. The scrapes on your knees and elbows occurred fewer times.

You soon went from just being able to coast in a straight line, to being able to pedal, turn, stop and start at will, with ease to the point where it just became automatic - something you did and were/are able to do, easily and without even thinking about it.

Soon afterwards, you started doing "wheelies" and jumps and other things that a few months earlier, you could have never imagined yourself doing, never even thought it was even possible for you to do.

Go out there and approach, even if you have approach anxiety. Approach Directly. Get blown out. Laugh about it. Learn from it. Move on. Then repeat.

Repeat as often as necessary, until you no longer have AA, until you no longer get blown out. And until it becomes automatic and you soon start doing things that a few months earlier, you never imagined you'd be able to do, never thought it was possible for you to do.

Then, laugh about what a scared AFC you used to be, and how it all seems so silly now to have been worried about something so trivial as approaching women and wanting to get to know them.

Because a Man and a Woman meeting and mating is the most natural thing in the world.

It is what God, or Nature, or who/whatever, put us on this Earth to do.

Meeting and mating with Women is what every normal Man was put on Earth to do. It is your, mine and everyone's destiny.

So go out there, and do it.

Reading will only get you so far. Do you think you could have learned how to ride a bike or hit a baseball by reading about it?

No. You had to go out there and try repeatedly, until you were able to do it.

BTW, you don't want to walk up to a girl and tell her you want to have sex with her. At least not in those words.

And, when I was 18, I was so shy I could hardly even make eye contact with women, let alone talk to them.

There are no shortcuts. You have to go out in the field and approach, fail and learn until you get better. And even then, you never stop learning or getting better.

 

[Dongfu]

I want to be so confident that I can just walk up to any woman, anywhere, anytime and tell her that I want to have sex with her.

This doesn't work for anyone. Most women do not respond to this at all. Asking for the pvssy first is like asking for the money before the customer has seen the car. Whether you like it or not, the game has to be played. That's why it exists to begin with.

DJ's and PUA's didn't invent gaming women because they wanted to. It is a result of the strange way women behave. We must be prepared to approach indirectly in this country. That's pretty much the way it is.

Confidence is about patience and paying attention. Just like martial arts. I doubt Bruce Lee ever said, "I wanna be able to go up to anyone and kick their ass."

But he was always ready for it. He had the real kind of confidence you are looking for.

 

[ChrizZ]

This doesn't work for anyone. Most women do not respond to this at all. Asking for the pvssy first is like asking for the money before the customer has seen the car. Whether you like it or not, the game has to be played. That's why it exists to begin with.

DJ's and PUA's didn't invent gaming women because they wanted to. It is a result of the strange way women behave. We must be prepared to approach indirectly in this country. That's pretty much the way it is.

Confidence is about patience and paying attention. Just like martial arts. I doubt Bruce Lee ever said, "I wanna be able to go up to anyone and kick their ass."

But he was always ready for it. He had the real kind of confidence you are looking for.

so u mean direct game doesn't work even if u are good looking?

Well, I don't really care. I will try everything I can to beat the AA. However I don't think it's a good idea to approach chicks at my campus cuz I'll prolly run into them again sooner or later. I don't want to get the reputation of a creep because I will prolly crash and burn many times before I succeed on a constant basis. I will also stop masturbation cuz I don't really feel a real sex drive when I talk to chicks. Wish me luck guys...

 

[InevitableHello]

Good luck man. I know I'm in the same situation as you. Just getting into college. Pretty good looking, etc.

But when I approach, it'll go reasonably well but then it goes nowhere. It's REALLY frustrating. But I still don't think direct-game as you're describing it is really the way to go.

 

[ToughLove]

**** dude just be sexual!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Derek Flint]

so u mean direct game doesn't work even if u are good looking?

Well, I don't really care. I will try everything I can to beat the AA. However I don't think it's a good idea to approach chicks at my campus cuz I'll prolly run into them again sooner or later. I don't want to get the reputation of a creep because I will prolly crash and burn many times before I succeed on a constant basis. I will also stop masturbation cuz I don't really feel a real sex drive when I talk to chicks. Wish me luck guys...

Stop caring what other people think.

Approach as many women as you want, whenever and wherever you want.

Reputation as a creep? Why? For telling a woman that you find her attractive, and that you would like to get to know her?

What is creepy about that?

If someone thinks you are a creep because you are being honest and sincere when it comes to with how you conduct your life, including how you approach and talk to women, they have a problem, not you.

I mean, how phucked up is that, that someone would think you were a creep for being honest and sincere and complimentary towards a woman you wanted to meet?

Again, stop worrying what other people think about you. It's holding you back.

I don't think you're a creep. I think you should be proud that you know what you want, are willing to do what it takes to get it, and that you are going to do so in a straightforward, direct and honest way.

Creepy is asking a girl "who lies more, men or women" when you aren't interested in who lies more, but you are only asking who lies more because you don't have the balls to express your interest in her, and that you are hiding behind indirect openers and making excuses for your desires.

That is creepy.

Never ever apologize for having desires and expressing your natural desires.

It would be unhealthy not to.

And, you will crash and burn, but you will also succeed eventually and that will start a positive cycle of more success.

 

[ChrizZ]

Okay, today I felt like sh!t. However I still tried to get over the AA by asking hot chicks for the time and they responded very friendly. Tomorrow I'm gonna turn it up a notch by being direct with them. I'm also trying to get balls in other areas of my life.

I dropped my communications class on the first day of school because the teacher was a total b!tch. So I told her I'm not gonna put up with that bullsh!t and left the classroom.

It is hard to be always straightforward, but it definately makes me feel happier inside. Now I only gotta be more direct with the girls.

 

[ChrizZ]

okay I went partying tonight. Everything went fine except that I wasn't horny at all. I talked to a chick and she gave me IOIs, but I didn't take any action cuz I just didn't feel horny and I finally got AMOG'd by two guys.

I believe I found my core problem why I can't approach women. I have 0 sex drive.

It's masturbating to porn. Right now I'm deleting all my porn. I hope quitting masturbating to porn will make me so horny that I'll have to approach.

 

[Last Man Standing]

...a hot girlfriend that I can have lots of sex with...

A hor - a free prostitute!! Hors are not to be chased - they are only to be found!!!!!

 

[ChrizZ]

A hor - a free prostitute!! Hors are not to be chased - they are only to be found!!!!!

yeah, I want a hor ! ! ! ! ! ! ! ! !:cheer:

u still have to talk to them though. It's not like u can buy them in a grocery store...

 

[zerocelcius]

...a hot girlfriend that I can have lots of sex with.

...I want to get unstoppable confidence. I want to be so confident that I can just walk up to any woman, anywhere, anytime and tell her that I want to have sex with her. ...

thx in advance...

Now that is the MOST DA I've heard!!! Pure DA at it's purest quality!

 

[Last Man Standing]

Because hors are super-masculine, it requires that you, as a male, be above super-masculine - quite a task if you are an introvert!!! But this is the task - being more masculine than a hor without looking awkward in your pursuit, if such a stance is within your social make-up!!!!

 

[ChrizZ]

Okay, honestly I still couldn't cold approach a woman. It's not even about getting pu$$y anymore. I just wanna fight that fear. I feel like I'm always so close, but then I puss out. The frustration also affects other areas of my life, however in a positive way. I catch myself doing everything not to confront that fear, so I push myself in every other area of my life. That's both good and bad I guess. I will give it another week. If I can't approach after next week I will have to find a different solution.

 

[ElStud]

Haha and you talk about me. Well since I'm mature though instead of shoving it in your face like you would've done to me, I'll help you out. Just approach man. JUST do it, don't give a sh*t if you fail just do it. You can tell me I'm wrong and all that sh*t, but hey I've got plenty of FR's to prove I'm over my approach anxiety so who cares.

 

[ChrizZ]

Haha and you talk about me. Well since I'm mature though, I'll help you out. Just approach man. JUST do it, don't give a sh*t if you fail just do it. You can tell me I'm wrong and all that sh*t, but hey I've got plenty of FR's to prove I'm over my approach anxiety so who cares.

I'm not talking about indirect approaches like the ones you are doing. I'm talking about approaching HB 9s and 10s on the street in a direct manor while they are walking your way surrounded by a bunch of other people and hiding behind biga$$ sunglasses while rushing through the street and talking to someone on her cell phone. It's just hard for me to do it. I'm talking about tapping her on the shoulder and telling her she's sexy and that I'd like to get to know her better.

I wished it was as easy as u described.