Mr. Non-Juan
Don Juan
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The ways of attracting women are usually OPPOSITE of the way guys BELIEVE they should work.
One of the rules guys tend to fall for is the one that says they have to be in constant communication with a girl. Granted, if you are in a relationship with a woman, you may want to spend time with her every now and then so she’ll know you haven’t run off to another country with some other hot-looking babe.
However, if you’re just starting to see a girl, did you know you can actually use repetitive communication as a way of making her LESS attracted to you?
Thanks, in part, to advances in technology, men now have TONS of options they can use to talk to a girl 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Not only do these things make a guy a constant presence in a girl’s life (whether she wants him to be or not), but they also make it that much easier to deter a woman’s interest, and have her running away from you faster than a politician from his wife! (Three cheers for making a current reference!)
Texting, video chatting, instant messenger, Twitter – so many ways to make sure a girl knows you’re around all the time! Why ask a girl out on a date where you have to physically see her in person anymore – that’s SO 2009!
Furthermore, why give your newfound dating partner time to miss you, think about you, wonder what’s going on when you’re not around her – ya know, all the things girls tend to have to do in order for her brain to build up an interest in you?
Nope, instead you can now do to her what all the OTHER guys she’s not currently getting with are doing – message her all the time!
At first I didn’t understand how doing this would wane a girl’s interest. When I used to meet girls, I would get their phone number, email, AOL screen name and twitter account information.
Clearly, any of the girls that gave me all this info wanted me to take them out. Of course, back then I was still too nervous to actually pick up the phone and call a girl for a date, fearing they’d laugh at me so loudly that other girls would hear her and never want to date me again. (In all fairness, it only happened ONE time.)
However, I figured I could warm them up to the idea of sitting at dinner with me for a few hours by first communicating with them a few times via text messages. I’d send a few little messages to a girl throughout the day, for several days, to make sure she wanted to talk to me.
Next, I’d move it up to the “Instant Message” phase (which, for me, was as close to going steady with a girl as I could get without having been on any actual dates with her). This, combined with the aforementioned texting, would go on for a couple more weeks.
Once I felt our technological communication was at its peak, I’d begin emailing her personal messages, telling her how much I liked her, and how I couldn’t wait to show her a good time. Keep in mind that, during this whole time, I still wasn’t actually ASKING the girl on a one-on-one date.
Even when I finally DID ask her out, it wouldn’t be via phone call. Instead, I’d either send her a text or email message asking her if she had any free nights coming up that week. That’s when I’d get the message every “Non Juan” gets from women:
“Oh, I’m sorry, Non Juan – I can’t go out with you because (insert one of the following excuses: ‘I have a boyfriend;’ ‘I just don’t see you that way;’ ‘I’m not trying to date anyone seriously right now,’ etc.)”
So why did these girls, who I seemed to have great communication with via these various messaging services, end up rejecting my date offer?
As I later found out, while messaging a girl may SEEM like a good way to get to know a girl, it doesn’t allow her to develop as strong of an attraction to you as she would if she were physically able to be around you. A text message doesn’t allow her to get see your facial expressions; an instant message doesn’t allow her to hear your laugh or vocal tone; an email doesn’t replace how connected she’d be to you by simply giving you a hug.
And of course, sending her a consistent barrage of messages doesn’t give her enough of a break from you to think of intensives for HER to contact YOU. You’re actually KILLING her brain’s ability to think of ways to convince YOU to be around HER by messaging her all the time!
But hey – if you’re trying to actually LOSE the girl you’ve been chasing after, keep on sending those text messages! I’m sure she’ll LOVE reading them later – ya know, after she gets dropped off from the guy she’s on a date with NOW that actually had the GUTS to ask her out!
-Non Juan
Non Juan’s book, “The Non Juan’s Guide to LOSING The Girl of Your Dreams: Why Everything Men THINK They Know About Dating is WRONG,” coming soon!
One of the rules guys tend to fall for is the one that says they have to be in constant communication with a girl. Granted, if you are in a relationship with a woman, you may want to spend time with her every now and then so she’ll know you haven’t run off to another country with some other hot-looking babe.
However, if you’re just starting to see a girl, did you know you can actually use repetitive communication as a way of making her LESS attracted to you?
Thanks, in part, to advances in technology, men now have TONS of options they can use to talk to a girl 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Not only do these things make a guy a constant presence in a girl’s life (whether she wants him to be or not), but they also make it that much easier to deter a woman’s interest, and have her running away from you faster than a politician from his wife! (Three cheers for making a current reference!)
Texting, video chatting, instant messenger, Twitter – so many ways to make sure a girl knows you’re around all the time! Why ask a girl out on a date where you have to physically see her in person anymore – that’s SO 2009!
Furthermore, why give your newfound dating partner time to miss you, think about you, wonder what’s going on when you’re not around her – ya know, all the things girls tend to have to do in order for her brain to build up an interest in you?
Nope, instead you can now do to her what all the OTHER guys she’s not currently getting with are doing – message her all the time!
At first I didn’t understand how doing this would wane a girl’s interest. When I used to meet girls, I would get their phone number, email, AOL screen name and twitter account information.
Clearly, any of the girls that gave me all this info wanted me to take them out. Of course, back then I was still too nervous to actually pick up the phone and call a girl for a date, fearing they’d laugh at me so loudly that other girls would hear her and never want to date me again. (In all fairness, it only happened ONE time.)
However, I figured I could warm them up to the idea of sitting at dinner with me for a few hours by first communicating with them a few times via text messages. I’d send a few little messages to a girl throughout the day, for several days, to make sure she wanted to talk to me.
Next, I’d move it up to the “Instant Message” phase (which, for me, was as close to going steady with a girl as I could get without having been on any actual dates with her). This, combined with the aforementioned texting, would go on for a couple more weeks.
Once I felt our technological communication was at its peak, I’d begin emailing her personal messages, telling her how much I liked her, and how I couldn’t wait to show her a good time. Keep in mind that, during this whole time, I still wasn’t actually ASKING the girl on a one-on-one date.
Even when I finally DID ask her out, it wouldn’t be via phone call. Instead, I’d either send her a text or email message asking her if she had any free nights coming up that week. That’s when I’d get the message every “Non Juan” gets from women:
“Oh, I’m sorry, Non Juan – I can’t go out with you because (insert one of the following excuses: ‘I have a boyfriend;’ ‘I just don’t see you that way;’ ‘I’m not trying to date anyone seriously right now,’ etc.)”
So why did these girls, who I seemed to have great communication with via these various messaging services, end up rejecting my date offer?
As I later found out, while messaging a girl may SEEM like a good way to get to know a girl, it doesn’t allow her to develop as strong of an attraction to you as she would if she were physically able to be around you. A text message doesn’t allow her to get see your facial expressions; an instant message doesn’t allow her to hear your laugh or vocal tone; an email doesn’t replace how connected she’d be to you by simply giving you a hug.
And of course, sending her a consistent barrage of messages doesn’t give her enough of a break from you to think of intensives for HER to contact YOU. You’re actually KILLING her brain’s ability to think of ways to convince YOU to be around HER by messaging her all the time!
But hey – if you’re trying to actually LOSE the girl you’ve been chasing after, keep on sending those text messages! I’m sure she’ll LOVE reading them later – ya know, after she gets dropped off from the guy she’s on a date with NOW that actually had the GUTS to ask her out!
-Non Juan
Non Juan’s book, “The Non Juan’s Guide to LOSING The Girl of Your Dreams: Why Everything Men THINK They Know About Dating is WRONG,” coming soon!
