Ain't nothing like the Holidays that let you know how alone you trully are

[women haze]

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I'm gonna get in my feelings a little bit, but that's because it is safer to do it online and on a forum instead of at the end of a bottle or at the point of a gun.

You know a man has to always be strong and ****....
He has to keep on walking, keep on working, because things could always be worse. I mean what keeps me going off the deep end is remembering that there are people out there starving, destitute, some lost family in brutal wars.

What makes this hurt worse is a family that is alive and well didn't even invite a brotha to thanksgiving dinner....

I don't have a woman in my life so that's out...No friends really invited me out except one.

Ever since i lost my Mother to cancer man the void in my soul gets deeper and deeper. The hurt everything, the isolation, I just don't know...

I'm sorry about this ramble, but i would love to just have my fellow donjuan people share with me their thankgiving alone stories?...

maybe we could laugh, relate , and cry together......

 

[ElChoclo]

Thanksgiving is just a culture specific celebration found in perhaps only your country. That leaves quite a few other places where you wouldn't even have to worry about it.

There is a far more significant turkey eating celebration arriving next month, so there will be more turkey eating possibilities very soon. If you had booked a few days in Hawaii or the Bahamas you wouldn't be feeling bad about it. They probably serve turkey with pineapple there.

 

[women haze]

LOL I'll remember that next time..thanksgiving in hawaii

 

[Desdinova]

What makes this hurt worse is a family that is alive and well didn't even invite a brotha to thanksgiving dinner....

Let me tell you a little bit about my situation. ALL holiday celebration was removed from my life when I was five years old. Christmas, Thanksgiving, Halloween, Birthdays, they all went out the window. My mother converted to a boneheaded cult that forbid celebrating any of it.

Fast forward to me at age 18. I leave the boneheaded cult and try to get back into celebrating all that stuff. Adapting to these celebrations after never having much exposure to it is a challenge.

Fast forward to this year. I was alone for Thanksgiving (Canadian Thanksgiving is in October.) I made myself a mean-ass bachelor Thanksgiving meal and enjoyed the hell out of it. Most of my small family doesn't celebrate anything, and the one that does didn't invite me. Oh well.

This year for Christmas, it's just me and my kid. I mean, I have a girlfriend now, but she has a family to spend Christmas with. Not only that, I have to teach my kid about Christmas and start our own traditions because I don't have any.

I made a realization about myself this year. For most of my childhood, I was pretty much alone all the time. I wasn't depressed about it, in fact I quite enjoyed time by myself. Why should I reject being alone when I've had some of my best times alone? I've decided to embrace my alone time rather than dislike it. It's made me a much happier, more content person.

Ever since i lost my Mother to cancer man the void in my soul gets deeper and deeper. The hurt everything, the isolation, I just don't know...

Count yourself as lucky that you actually had a relationship with your mother. I personally think my life would improve if mine died. She's one of the most miserable, negative people I've ever known, and she constantly treats me like a fvcking idiot. I envy those who have a mother they can love and respect.

But, back to the subject. If you don't get invited to participate in a family dinner, fvck 'em. Do your own thing. Instead of being invited to someone else's celebration, create your own. Invite other friends who don't have family to celebrate with. I also find that when you've got a gf during one of the holidays, her family will invite you over to celebrate with them. Enjoy those moments because she won't be around when you find someone hotter

 

[f283000]

Interesting post Desdinova.

When I do well in something whether it be a project or just anything in life I like to reward myself with a nice meal. Pick a quality restaurant and spoil myself with good food.

I do the same when i'm feeling blue/lonely. Treating yourself to good food can do nothing but make you happy.

Instead of being at home alone with no turkey dinner just go on google, find a restaurant you never been to that has good reviews, head on out for the night to treat yourself to good food. Take an empty stomach and go back home with a full stomach.

 

[backbreaker]

Let me tell you a little bit about my situation. ALL holiday celebration was removed from my life when I was five years old. Christmas, Thanksgiving, Halloween, Birthdays, they all went out the window. My mother converted to a boneheaded cult that forbid celebrating any of it.

Fast forward to me at age 18. I leave the boneheaded cult and try to get back into celebrating all that stuff. Adapting to these celebrations after never having much exposure to it is a challenge.

Fast forward to this year. I was alone for Thanksgiving (Canadian Thanksgiving is in October.) I made myself a mean-ass bachelor Thanksgiving meal and enjoyed the hell out of it. Most of my small family doesn't celebrate anything, and the one that does didn't invite me. Oh well.

This year for Christmas, it's just me and my kid. I mean, I have a girlfriend now, but she has a family to spend Christmas with. Not only that, I have to teach my kid about Christmas and start our own traditions because I don't have any.

I made a realization about myself this year. For most of my childhood, I was pretty much alone all the time. I wasn't depressed about it, in fact I quite enjoyed time by myself. Why should I reject being alone when I've had some of my best times alone? I've decided to embrace my alone time rather than dislike it. It's made me a much happier, more content person.

sounds alot like me

i remember like it was yesterday, when i was struggling with my firstr business, like, reallyy struggling, like not knowing if we would be able to keep our apartment another month struggling, it was christmas of 03. didn't get a present from anyone, no phone call, not even momma. out of sight, out of mind. not invited to dinner, nothing.

the first part of my day i sat in my room pouting about how pissy my life was.. i mean keep in mind i';m not dealing with just the family disowning me, i'm broke, just a lot of fail going on in my life. but i had a break throuh that day like you had. about 5pm i said you know what.. **** em. i'm going to be successful regardless of what it takes, regardless of how many christmasses i have to go familess. screw it. so you knows what did? called like 10 different food places into a found an open pizza shop, ordered a large pepperioni pizza, and sat in my living room watching OZ and eating pizza all night long. actually was a pretty good night.

in a different world now, i have a family now of my own, my own family has mnore than "accecpted" me back, hell i'm typing this at my mom's house now, and i admit i like the feelings of thanksgiving/christmas with the wife and son with the family, it's a good thing. But i would not be here today, if i didn't go through those ****ty christmases.

while I'm having more fun now, those christmases where more important to becoming the person i am today.

at some point in your life, you have to learn to not let other people's situtations, circumstnaces or actions dictate your life/happiness/outlook on life. who gives a **** if your dad is too short sighted to call you for thanksviging (yes i'm talking about my dad) **** em.

 

[Rubirosa]

3 invites and I chose to stay alone today.......
Instead of elaborating on my circumstances which have led me to my choice, I will share this with you.....
When I got divorced many years ago, the holidays were emotional torture for me.
What helped me get through this form of negative thinking is that it's just another day really........
If you add up all the special "holidays" here in the States, I don't think you will get a number higher than ten. That leaves you 355 other days to live and enjoy life. So you're alone on Thanksgiving..........Thanksgiving 2011 will be over in a few hours.

 

[ProDJ26]

Currently alone and disowned by family as well. But rather than spread more negativity about how it sucks the only thing I can think of at this moment was Killapete's post on the only person you really can count on is you. It's relly strange how your in a rut nobody wants to lend you a helping hand but the moment your on your game thats when everybody is looking for the handouts. Skinny guy at the gym gives advice nobody listens. A guy 6'2 245lbs solid muscle mass walks in and sits down to get a quick sip of water everybody is asking him advice. Someone else asking people "Hey do you got a dollar so I can catch the bus?" People look at him crazy laugh and say no. But yet this same person (the one asking for a dollar) makes it on top of his gam (or at least looks like it) then everybody starts asking him "Whats yur secret? How do we get like you?"

Catch my drift?

 

[Bible_Belt]

The holidays account for a lot of alcohol sales. Bars will be packed tomorrow night, and cops will have the dui checkpoints open. People without families are sad to be alone, and people with families are stressed and annoyed...by their families.

 

[women haze]

man ya'll right everyone in here is right....today is what it is, tomorrow is another day.

 

[ArcBound]

Sorry to hear, but don't you have any friends, cousins, relatives, uncles, aunts, nothing?

At times I felt alone in life, but then I realized I could put effort into sh!t as well.

What's to stop you from holding a small get together with your friends? Find out which friends aren't doing anything for Thanksgiving, invite them over for a small get together and just have fun, eat a meal whatever.

Called up 2 friends went black friday shopping got a lot of sh!t then had a huge post thanksgiving meal. We had good times, a lot of jokes and memories for the future. Sometimes you have to do the calling, but it isn't a bad thing.

 

[Serialized3]

The holidays account for a lot of alcohol sales. Bars will be packed tomorrow night, and cops will have the dui checkpoints open. People without families are sad to be alone, and people with families are stressed and annoyed...by their families.

Time for the players to go get some vulnerable, inebriated holiday pussy!

 

[r0cky]

Ain't nothing wrong with being lonely http://wimp.com/foreveralone/

 

[metoo]

eh, go hunting, plink some tin cans, shoot some IDPA or IPSC combat pistol or rifle matches, learn karate, get over yourself. Once you get GOOD at this stuff, LOTS of guys want to go learn these things from you. I've never spent an entire day at a match that I couldn't get invited home to supper with somebody, if that's what I wanted.

 

[AAAgent]

I used to be like this until i realized how much drama and setback girls cause me. I actually prefer to be single and just have fun now.

I try to look at it from a positive perspective. If i find a girl i like its hard to detach myself from them and focus therefor my career suffers, my ambition suffers, and all in all my life suffers. I want to sort myself out before i get caught alone 40 years from now as opposed to being alone a few years now.

Besides it's not like girls aren't single now anyways.

 

[metoo]

forget em, until you have enough money to live decently on your investments. Then get one that is very smart and beautiful, from the phillipines, you won't regret it. You WILL regret almost anything else that you do.