Originally posted by Metaphysikal_Lover
major break ups have a way of aging you.
taken weeks before I dumped young ****:
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v487/Player_Supreme/chriscraig3.jpg
I was still getting carded at 43.
taken a few months ago:
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v487/Player_Supreme/CROPPEDHEADSHOT1.jpg
I've aged from what folks thought was 29 to late 30's.
I say find the right match in age and
personality.
I can understand and agree with just about everything you said here. Unfortunately, older women...although seemingly more settled...are that way for a lot of reasons...many of the reasons are not necessarily good. As women get older...they generally don't get better looking. A lot of the settling they do has a lot to do with fewer opportunities in terms of being approached by men...and also the weariness that comes from all the responsibilities of adult life. The mortgage, children...so forth and so on.
This is perhaps why I've read several other posts regarding older women being easy. I've actually heard this a lot...and understand it. I am not saying that this is true all the time...but there is some truth to it for the reasons I listed above. Please don't be offended (anyone). I just want to be honest in my opinions and support my perceptions. So although they do tend to be more stable they are also a lot more set in their ways and less receptive to change...whether it be good or bad. Their are pro's and con's to dating both older and younger women.
I am not speaking against older women...but perhaps instead making the point that age and other superficial qualities in and of themselves really aren't determining factors for much of anything. I think, more importantly, it can be difficult to find someone that is on the same wave legnth as yourself. I agree with the statement that really, anything more than a decade is kind of excessive. You see, at 10 years...you two can share some of the same memories...when the other person was born you were still a child, or vice versa. I find it difficult to comprehend relationships where there is as much as 2 decades between two people. One person was a full grown adult when the other was just coming into this world. In some ways that's a lifetime of difference.
Anyway...I'm straying from my point. Connecting with someone closer to your age is preferable for understandable reasons...but it really is so much more than that. Ask some of your friends in relationships with women near their own age. I bet they don't have too much more to say on a positive note than you do.
I enjoyed the pics and saw your point. You've learned some useful things that have helped me too.
The real difficulty is in finding someone that you can eally connect with and trust with your feelings...
That supercedes age...
Thanks.