Age Difference and dating younger women/what society thinks

[SL2012]

I am a 36 year old male, in good physical shape, full head of hair, 6 feet tall, etc. I can pass for 30!

Like alot of guys my age (atleast I assume) I am not interested in dating women my age, I am attracted to girls 18-30 tops.

Women start going downhill at 30 in my opinion.


I know all about the 1/2 your age, plus 7 rule and I know we shouldn't care what others think. BUT>>>

This is how I think Society (mostly women) views the age difference thing. (With the man being older)

0-10 years-- Society doesn't even raise an eyebrow--completely normal since you are still pretty much of the same generation.

11-14 years-- This is where some people will start to raise eyebrows, think you're a perv, etc. However, you are sill NOT old enough to be her father, so you can get away with it.

15+--Forget about it! You are a perv, cradle robber, dirty old man, creep even if you are good looking and have money. You are now old enough to be her dad!


Let me know if you agree with this asessment and please no Hollywood examples, since they don't live in reality

 

[ludis]

I am attracted to girls 18-30 tops.

30 years old? Why these are old hags!
22-24 should be your hard limit with your appearance and age, unless she's really fresh and young looking.

What society thinks is irrelevant, society won't suck your c0ck first thing in the morning or make you a snack in her petite lingerie while softly singing.

 

[zekko]

Yeah, I really don't give a crap what society thinks. This is one of those things though, where I think people today make a much bigger deal out of it than they used to. When I was growing up, no one really batted an eye.

The rock bands in my day used to bang 14 year old groupies routinely. That wasn't legal, but no one was really shocked, it was kind of expected. Now days, even guys on this forum would be enraged about it, and throwing around the "pedo" word.

I've always tended to date younger, but I've encountered surprisingly little guff over it. I just don't think it's a big deal, so people around me don't either.

 

[evan12]

I think people shame the man who look for younger but cant get her , once he get her people think he should be smart or some thing to be able to get such a beautiful young girl.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Zecko,
"The rock bands in my day used to bang 14 year old groupies routinely"....That's right,I remember Jerry Lee Lois marrying a 12 year old!

 

[Stagger Lee]

Yes I agree that is basically how society now views age difference for an older man and a younger woman. It didn't use to be that way. And another messed up thing is a much older woman can go out with a younger man and no one tries to shame her. That is shameful for an older woman and younger man if anything was.

You can say who cares what society thinks. But the problem is the younger girls care what society thinks and are influenced by it. So in that way society makes it a lot harder to date younger girls than it naturally would be. It's a woman's world nowadays.

 

[zekko]

Another thing that has changed is the teacher/student relationship (not talking about underage girls here). Even a college professor dating a student is frowned upon today, while when I was growing up it was very common. If you've ever seen the 1963 movie "The Nutty Professor", notice that was the storyline. I think they even retained this theme for the remake with Eddie Murphy in 1996.

I've read several posts from forum regulars here condemning the teacher/student relationship. Aside from it being unprofessional, apparently one of the objections is that the teacher is in a position of influence over the student, which supposedly makes it wrong.

That's right,I remember Jerry Lee Lois marrying a 12 year old!

I believe it was his 13 year old cousin, but the point remains.

 

[zekko]

I can understand the reasoning behind the teacher/student thing because of the possibility of quid pro quo. Although overall I'm not sure how this would affect other students unless the course were graded on a curve. Otherwise maybe a happy professor = better grades for all! :rock:

But as Stagger said, it's a woman's world. I work at a university and am careful to guard my professional reputation. I've been hit on directly and indirectly by co-eds. I was married for most of it, but even now I won't do anything unless she has a diploma in hand. But that's not because I'm 100% altruistic. It's because the administration is mostly Feminists and manginas. I have to protect my interests. This is for students directly in my program and over whom I have influence.

If I were in such a position, I wouldn't do anything either. But only because of the environment we live in. Something like that could put your job, and reputation as a professional, in danger. It's not worth the risk, because as you note, we're living under women's rules.

What I'm saying is that back in my day, this sort of thing wasn't frowned upon, it wasn't seen as a big deal. I don't think quid pro quo was the main worry in attitudes changing. I think people were concerned about the female "victim" falling under the spell of a man who had undue influence over her. That was the supposed danger. It goes along the lines of the whole "no sex is consentual" feminist type of viewpoint - just another way to portray more men as bad guys, and more women as victims.

 

[evan12]

we're living under women's rules.

most Canadian men are 100% supporters for all these laws , so not sure if it is women rules. it could be because we are single and looking for more freedom we noticed how unfair it is ?
It seem men in relationship supports such laws because it protect and make the hitting less on their women.I think some married men are ready to vote for laws what put who ask woman out in jail.

 

[MatureDJ]

Dear Zecko,
"The rock bands in my day used to bang 14 year old groupies routinely"....That's right,I remember Jerry Lee Lois marrying a 12 year old!

She was 13 and was his 1st cousin once removed!

She was his 3rd wife, and he's currently on his 7th!

 

[Desdinova]

I personally don't care what society thinks about me dating women who are 10+ years younger than me. The problem is she will most likely care what her friends, family, and society thinks about it. For her, it will be a battle between attraction toward you and how others percieve her. If you can maintain her attraction toward you, then you'll be okay.

 

[The_411]

The 1/2 your age +7 is a guideline. The problem is that longer term dating with a 21 year old isn't exactly practical from the standpoint that women at 21 are still in their wild phase so they are still likely to pull the GIG card. They're great for plates and short term dating because they're still allowed to be young and experience life.

Doesn't mean you can't have a long term relationship with a 21 year old at 36 but you need to acknowledge that most 21 year olds have a hard enough time knowing what to eat for dinner each night and being ready to get involved isn't a likely possibility.

 

[Greasy Pig]

We live in a world where "cougars" are glorified and encouraged but where men who quite rightly and justifiably pursue young women are shamed.
Any man who can maintain a relationship with 20-25 year-old who is 10 or more years younger than you has my utmost admiration.
I can imagine the pressure being applied on her by her friends and family would be virtually undefeatable.
It's a fvcked up paradox of today's world.
In the 1940s my 45yo grandfather knocked up and married my 20yo grandma. No one cared about the age difference, they just cared that he was a man of means who could take care of her.
Where did we as a society go so wrong since then?

 

[Colossus]

The whole reason women shame men for dating younger women is to protect their own SMV. If 40 year old men were widely dating 22 year old girls, this would be a huge blow to the post-wall female. All the career harpies who played the phallus field while earning master's degrees would suddenly be a lot less desirable.

 

[HoneyHitter]

One way they try to shame older men for dating younger women is by playing the "vulnerability" card. According to them young women are easy targets and should be "protected" from dating fully matured males.

But that's just BS. If it's so wrong to mate with a "more vulnerable" FERTILE female, women should also NOT be "marrying up" either. They should just stick to dating guys with an income just 25% above/below their own income.

I bet these materialistic *****es would really like that.

 

[Desdinova]

Any man who can maintain a relationship with 20-25 year-old who is 10 or more years younger than you has my utmost admiration.

When I was dating my last LTR (she was 21 and I was 12 years older) it was difficult. They thought that I was too "mature" for her, and then throw in the problem of her oldest sister who had a crush on me and was jealous. All of them were lecuring her about how incompatible I was for her. Despite the uphill battle, we got along very well and lasted a year and three months until she just couldn't take any more of the pressure from her family.

I'm currently dating a 25 year old who doesn't get along well with her family, so I doubt the age difference is going to be a problem.

According to them young women are easy targets and should be "protected" from dating fully matured males.

Young women are regarded as "immature" and "stupid" when they're dating a guy who's much older and well-grounded in his life, while women who get revenge on their ex-husbands by taking them to the cleaners in a divorce are glorified as being strong and intelligent.

 

[GS750]

This is oh so true

 

[Zunder]

A 22-24 year old woman with tight yet supple skin, pert ass, and real titties, versus a washed up 38 year old milf with droopy labia, and stretchmarks?
Easy fvcking choice I say.

 

[zekko]

If 40 year old men were widely dating 22 year old girls, this would be a huge blow to the post-wall female.

You mean they're not? If they aren't, they'd like to be. I know where I work, the 22 year old girls are getting hit on by guys of all ages.

 

[Colossus]

You mean they're not? If they aren't, they'd like to be. I know where I work, the 22 year old girls are getting hit on by guys of all ages.

Hitting on 22 year olds is one thing, but there is still a stigma with dating and that big of an age gap. The shaming increases by an order of magnitude with 20 years versus 5 or 10.

And let's be honest, if it were legal, men would be sacking up with 15 year olds like there's no tomorrow.