After you got her number

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Hey so I'm not sure if I've been doing this right but what do you guys do when you get her number from OLD or in general in detail. I feel like I chat up too much and then when I finally ask her for a date she flakes. I also don't like talking on the phone so I usually just stick to text when I got a girls number.

I also find it awkward to text girls for a week because I'll feel like she'll lose interest if we text too much. For example If I text her on a Monday and set up a date for a Saturday. What do I do during those 5 days of the upcoming date, should I continue to text her everyday until the date or what?

Do you guys text her first and set up a date that way or call her up? What do you do when you first get her number? How many times do you text her a day? I want a detailed bullet point list of what you do after you get a girls number. From texting her or even calling her. I'm curious to know how people on this board do it.

 

[wifehunter]

Taco tuesday is tommorow!!!

 

[Dr. Reed]

Do NOT text back and forth and do not take her out on Saturday. Saturday is for gals in your established rotation. You are dating other women, yes?

So, now you want to know what to do during the three days you have? Nothing. No text, no phone. You should be dating other women and hustling phone numbers, not obsessing on this one gal.

Here is what you should do. Take your other women out....you do have other women, yes? No, you don't? Then you should be calling from the numbers you have. You have at least 6 or 7 other numbers, yes? No, you don't? Why not? You should be getting at least one number every day, Yes? No? Why not?

You are opening at least 3 women a day, Yes? No? Why not? Use structured openers until you natural game improves. Please go read my article on natural vs structured game. I recommend the Jealous Girlfriend opener for you.

At your level you will probably only get a number from 1 out of three. But you should be getting at least 7 numbers a week. As you get better, that number will go up. I am ugly, but I can still number close 90% of the time.

 

[AlphaNate]

You should be texting to set up the date and very little else.

I can't even tell you how many guys I've seen blow opportunities by over-texting.

 

[Dr. Reed]

You know what you become via excessive texting (or phone)?

Her girlfriend

 

[Trump]

I also don't like talking on the phone so I usually just stick to text when I got a girls number.

Bro don't ever tell her that. Otherwise she'll say "if we talk on the phone I'll give you sex tonight." You pick up the phone and already she has made your head spin.

For example If I text her on a Monday and set up a date for a Saturday. What do I do during those 5 days of the upcoming date, should I continue to text her everyday until the date or what?

Don't set a date so far in advance. She could get married and pregnant in that time. Set it 2 days in advance and disappear until the day of the date. If you have to set it 5 days in advance, don't contact her until the day of the date. You guys already have the date set up, what do you think you can gain by contacting her in between?

Do you guys text her first and set up a date that way or call her up?

I don't know if this is serious, but anyway, yes text her first and ask for a date

What do you do when you first get her number?

What do you mean "what do you do?" You go on about your day and next day you text her. Come on bro, not brain surgery.

How many times do you text her a day?

"Hi how are you?"
"Are you available for a drink Friday night?"
"Great see you then."

Again bro, you are asking a 20+ year old girl for a drink, not performing brain surgery on a world leader.

I want a detailed bullet point list of what you do after you get a girls number. From texting her or even calling her.

I'm curious to know how people on this board do it.

Come on bro, there is no set way. Get her number, ask her out. How do you guys hold down jobs and mortgages and deal with everyday life if this is so difficult?

I could probably get a HB9 number in 120 seconds and get a date in 150 seconds. It's not that hard.

 

[Serenity]

I want a detailed bullet point list of what you do after you get a girls number.

Bullet point list coming up

• Get number, do nothing the day you get it. Contact her next day.
• Don't call, nobody does that. Use texting, it's completely normal.
• Set up date as soon as possible, don't plan it 5 days in advance unless she just don't have time sooner.
• Do not set up a date on Saturday, she will most likely be busy.
• Do not chat with her until the date, only text about stuff relevant to planning the date.
• Just go about your day until the date.
• Go on the date.

About the timeframe between texting and date, this is flexible. Sooner is better, but don't insist if she just can't. It's better to have a date a week or more in the future than none at all. If she is available the next day then go for that, if she can't for a week or more then go for that.

The reason you don't chat until the date is that it undermines the point of the date. Everything you tell her on text could have been saved for the date. If you really text a lot you might end up on a date with nothing left to talk about, which is pretty awkward. It kills the suspense and excitement of the date, just like spoiling the plot of a movie before you watch it.

@LARaiders85 If he's got the number on OLD he would probably have already chatted enough. No need to continue with texting.

 

[bigneil]

You want to establish a rapport in the early stage.

When you get her number, you want to train her to be excited to see your name.

You want to send 2-3 texts every other day early on. Just enough to stay on her mind. Early on you are trying to compete with lots of distractions and other men so you "must be omnipresent" as Robert Greene said in Art of Seduction. Absence only works after you have established yourself (which isn't until about 6 weeks minimum). Disappear too early and you are simply forgotten.

Now, the day of the date SHE MUST be the first one to text.

Example

Monday:

You: Hi Dollface. We should get together Thursday. Meet me at Joe's Crab Shack at 15 elm (hyperlinked to address) at 8pm. I'll be at the bar.
Her: Ok, I'm excited!
Her: What should I wear?
You: Surprise me, you always look great, but I'll be in a tie.
Her: Thank you! Ok I will think of something. Getting my nails done that day also.

Wednesday:

You: 12:00pm - The restaurant we are dining at tomorrow was just rated 95 on Zagut.
Her: 12:08pm - I can't wait!!

Thursday:

Her: 6:30pm I'm getting ready. See you soon!
You: 7:55pm At the bar now.
Her: 7:56pm Pulling up now!
Her: 11:38pm I had a great time tonight, thank you for dinner!
You: 11:40pm You looked amazing. Good night.
Her: 11:40pm Thank you! Good night handsome!

This is a perfect scenario IMO.

Ideally you will repeat this process in about a week.