after sex...

[PurpleHaze]

guys tell me wat u think....

right after i orgasm after having sex with a chick, I lose total attraction...i lose all interest for the next 1 hour. I dont even wanna talk to this chick. I can care less about her. I just want her to leave.

Is this normal?

I know that after you orgasm, you release all your hornyness, but if I dont have any feelings for a chick after sex does that mean I dont like her that much?

This is confusing because before I have sex with her, I like her and I love spending time with her, but right after sex I just lose all interest. But then after one hour I'm kinda horny again and the old feelings of being interested in her are back.

I read somewhere that true love is when after you have sex with her, you still have the same feelings and you like her just as much. So, if you lose your feelings for her after sex, you don't like her as much as you think.


opinions???

 

[Evil-Rom]

that happens to me also and smoke weed everyday

 

[Avsguy01]

Could just be your way of taking in the good feeling and relaxing. I on the other hand enjoy cuddling right up with my girl after sex and relaxing. Of course i am in love with her though.

 

[Climax]

My opinion...

PurpleHaze: My opinion is that you dont have any real feeling for this girl, and that she is probably an attractive chick that u think that u like because of how attractive she is, but all she really is is attractive, thats it.

She is like a chocolate that u LOVE, after eating a slab of it, u dont want it anymore, and u couldnt care less if u had any more of that chocolate, untill later on when u start to crave it again

Laterz...

 

[zerocelcius]

Believe it or not but this happens to a lot of men to some degree! See I am assuming that you are ejaculating during this Orgasim, and there for your hormones change very very rapidlly. INFACT after Ejaculation you are hormonally speaking closer to the levels of a woman than ever. SO why do you feel this great loss of attraction? Because you just shot it out your Mr. WINKEY!!

After you Ejaculate you are left with nothing but emotions of careing and genuine respect. Obviously you have none of that towards these or this girl. Is it wrong.... Depends on what you tell her. If you tell her you care for her and all that than you are lying to her. If it is just a sexual encounter than it is no big deal. Just communicate to her instead of acting out on it.

Even though you don't respect her at least try to be civil while you bundle her clothes up and nicelly ask her to take her crap and leave.

BUT if you are asking because you want to change this. Than don't worry about it you won't feel this way once you find sombody you are truelly smitten by and honostly respect, and maybe you have some commitment and trust issues you might want to look into. Could also be a compitition for you in regards to your father figure...*dosn't have to be your dad just sombody you looked up to in this department* and you are competeing against them. Once you are done it is like a runner that ran his best .... once the run is over the runner don't want to be on the track anymore.

I would really try to look into multible orgasims or prolonging your performance, because even a man that can go awhile is usually never even long enough for woman... unless you just want to get your rocks off and be labeled a lousy lover. I can point you in the right direction if you are intrested in it.

any way my 2 cents worth... thanks for asking!

Peace.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

Yeah I'm starting to think men are just wired that way..lol.

I hear married guys,singles and ltr's say the same.I think alot of guys are playing themselves with all that love non-sense.

Not all but most.

 

[NewMan]

It's a natural feeling to lose interest after an orgasm.

EG.

When looking at porn - right after you orgasm, you lose interest in the porn.....

But this should not effect your desire to be around her......

If you truly enjoy being around her for her - and not just for her physical aspects, then you would not be feeling that way.

 

[Dillinger]

PurpleHaze I am just like you and a lot a men act this way. After I would have sex with a woman, I would try to kick her out my house as soon as I came. But those girls were just objects to me.

Once I found a girl that made me love her more after sex, that's when I committed.

 

[DeathDealer]

This is normal. In relationships it is ALWAYS THE GIRL that maintains the relationship to keep you interested. That's why in todays society, Nice Guys assume they should be the MAINTAINERS when it's supposed to be women.

 

[Climax]

Wakeup call...

Originally posted by DeathDealer
This is normal. In relationships it is ALWAYS THE GIRL that maintains the relationship to keep you interested. That's why in todays society, Nice Guys assume they should be the MAINTAINERS when it's supposed to be women.

If i could stick my hand through this computer screen and brake your nose i would.

Where on EARTH did u come up with that nonsence? 1 thing i can tell you, if u ever get into a serious relationship, or even a normal relationship for that matter, with THAT attitude and way of thinking, u wont get far at all!

I suggest u rethink and analys what u just said, in order for a relationship to work BOTH sides need to "maintain" cause eventually the girl WILL have ENOUGH of being the only "maintainers" and they will just give up/end it. And if u think that what i am saying is b.s, then you are argueing against reality, cause i speak from experiance. Unfortunatelly, i also use to think like u, and it got me nowhere! The longest relationship i had with THAT attitude and way of thinking was 3 weeks.

Tiome for you to change ur way of thinking, and change it quick, before u get burnt!

Laterz...

 

[PurpleHaze]

thanks for the responses guys...some interesting stuff.

so you guys are telling me if i dont have feelings for her after sex, then I'm just using her because I'm sexually attracted to her and nothing more?

I dunno if that's totally accurate because I have a friend whos in a LTR and he LOVES her a lot but he told me he feels the same way I do.

 

[Climax]

PurpleHaze said:

so you guys are telling me if i dont have feelings for her after sex, then I'm just using her because I'm sexually attracted to her and nothing more?

Well... If right after having sex with her all u want to do is get her out the door, then yes, there are no feelings involved, cause if there were, then u WOULDNT want her OUT THE DOOR asap.

PurpleHaze said:

I dunno if that's totally accurate because I have a friend whos in a LTR and he LOVES her a lot but he told me he feels the same way I do.

Alot of people fall for this. They are so attracted to a girl that u THINK that you "love" her, but in fact u dont, u are simple infatuated with her (or should i say, her looks) But i highly douhgbt that your friend REALLY loves this chick.

Laterz...

 

[Vince]

I think it's because after you c*m, you have allowed her to see you as human--vulnerable. It's a mental issue. I felt that way with women that I didn't love or care about. I lost interest and wanted them to leave, didn't want to talk to them....even though I forced myself to try. I don't feel that way with the girl I am with now...because I love her.

 

[zerocelcius]

I think you all get it. I can see you don't agree that you don't have feelings for these girls, but I am woundering if you are just wanting to have feelings for them so you don't feel bad about not having feelings for them. (confusing I know)

But it is OK to have no feelings for them at that level. Let me ask one question:

"on average how long have you known these girls or girl before you have sex"?

 

[wiggadude]

I've only had gf's that I was physically (but not mentally) attracted to. After sex, I don't give a **** about them.

I know of one girl that I really like (but she's not available)... I know that if I had sex with her, I'd kiss her for hours after sex...

Originally posted by Dillinger
PurpleHaze I am just like you and a lot a men act this way. After I would have sex with a woman, I would try to kick her out my house as soon as I came. But those girls were just objects to me.

Once I found a girl that made me love her more after sex, that's when I committed.

 

[jackknightly]

Originally posted by PurpleHaze

I read somewhere that true love is when after you have sex with her, you still have the same feelings and you like her just as much. So, if you lose your feelings for her after sex, you don't like her as much as you think.


opinions??? [/B]

Are you quoting me? Cos i've never been in love then.

 

[whistler]

Yeah. If you have feelings for her beyond physical attraction, then you'll want to continue to be intimate with in some way after sex. I've found that to be the case. It really seems like you're in a state of clarity after coming, minus the horniness.

 

[tom121]

you have a fetish to sex with her, not having a "normal" relationship with her

I get that same feeling when I don't feel the "vibe" between us, but when I really like this girl, the feeling stays and moves farther more

 

[Caldus]

If you aren't feeling anything after sex, then yes it may mean that you're just only physically attracted to her and that's it. I mean think about it. Do you actually like her otherwise? Think very carefully about it. Imagine that she wasn't as attractive as she is now. Do you still like her?

 

[Scoiland]

ya i used to get this feeling as well.

I dated the girl for almost 2 years and after sex i didn't want to have anything to do with her .

We broke up and i now realize that i never did love her even though i told her i did.


I think that if you are truly in love with a girl, after sex the feelings should still be there.

They may not be there physically but mentallly you should feel that you want her to be there. I believe this will signify if you love her. People lie to themselves too often saying they are in love when they really aren't.

Purple Haze your from OT right?