after f*cking this girl friday night i realized......

[hb]

I f*cked this girl friday night and I realized something........ Maybe you older guys have come accross this already.
Sex isnt everything and everything isnt sex. Its wayyy over rated. I feel like i want a girl friend, I want a girl to fall inlove with, thats what its all about. I've ****ed while I was "inlove" before and it felt 100x better...... This isnt the first girl I've ****ed after I was inlove either. Another thing is, i didnt feel happy or anything about gettin p*Ssy, i felt disguisted. P*ssy is all the same.

LoL after this, i got scared so yesterday i went home and popped a porno in.... and it didnt turn me on. Its as if its all the same to me now.........

Anyone whos gone through this, let me know wtf is happening to me pleaseeee......... and i aint gay, i still love woman its just that i dont wanna just get p*ssy from them. This is what this site teaches! Since I've really started payin attention to this site, i havent been able to LIKE any girls, I've just lusted girls.

 

[squirrels]

We put too much emphasis on sex in today's society. It's the must-have consumer good of our generation: we need to have the big houses, fast cars, bling-bling jewelry, and sex with as many hot women as possible.

I know EXACTLY what you're saying. I don't know how I feel about having sex with someone I have NO connection with.

I don't think you need to be "in love" with someone to enjoy the sex, but there DOES have to be a certain chemistry between the two of you. Whether that's a long-term romantic relationship or just an intense physical attraction, it needs to be there. You're NOT going to feel right just f**king for f**king's sake or f**king because it's what you're "supposed to do with girls."

This site teaches a LOT of things. There IS a predominant opinion that getting p00n is all that matters, but this site wasn't started for that reason. A lot of that is spill-over from ASF and other sites with guys who have a passion for sexing women and have dedicated their lives to studying and perfecting get-laid techniques. That works for some people, but the greater majority of us like to have sex for fun, and it's just not fun for a lot of us unless the mental connection exists.

For me this site is no longer about being able to lay as many women as possible. It's about, when I see that girl who makes my toes go numb, knowing how to handle her.

I think you may need to take a break from "this site." You worry too much what your SoSuave peers think of you. That's no better than worrying about what women think of you.

 

[Blurred Elevens]

HB- It's simple. Don't make moves when your hearts not in it.

 

[Duke]

Originally posted by hb
Since I've really started payin attention to this site, i havent been able to LIKE any girls, I've just lusted girls.

Same here. I feel like I am playing a game and that everything is mechanical. It is extremely hard for me to "fall in love" anymore because 90% of girls seem the same. I guess that's the price you pay for eating of the tree of knowledge (sosuave etc.).

 

[Big Pappy]

Squirrels has told you the answer. I look at a woman, I picture her naked and it's all ho-hum. The only girls who give me a thrill are the ones that I've connected to in some way, whether it be emotional, intellectual, etc.

I believe that once you reach this state of detachment, that's when women percieve you as a "challenge".
Now it will get interesting for you.

 

[silverwex]

i feel the same man.

ive messed around with girls for years now (ok i know im only 21!) but i really do wanna get involved with one i like.

i havent been in a relationship (if u cud call it dat) for years!

 

[NewMan]

Sex is great - don't underestimate that.

Try being in a relationship with a girl - and your not getting sex regularly.... then sex will be important.

After a relationship, you've got to let yourself greeve and heal. Many people here tell you to go out and fvck as many girls as you can - but it's an empty fvck - that may wqork for some people not for others.

It will become easier as time goes by......

Just do what feels good to you - if you don't want to sleep around then hold off on that - you may change your mind in a couple of months... you may not.

As squirrels said - you've got to evelevate yourself above the pressure of your friends and peers = it's the "How many chicks have you fvcked" mentality. you don't have to fit into that box - your a DJ, you live by your rules.

 

[nan3109]

Originally posted by NewMan
Sex is great - don't underestimate that.

Try being in a relationship with a girl - and your not getting sex regularly.... then sex will be important.

maybe im just a man***** but ive shown my picture on this site and admitted to banging (happily) well over 10 women.

 

[allan976]

Brave post, hb.

I've turned away a number of hotbodies over the years, mainly because I found them to be vapid--overly obsessed with clothes and makeup and shopping, and/or high expectation-high maintenance types who constantly need me to feed them affection. What can I say, this is LA.

On a physical level, I wanted them badly, but just couldn't stand many of them on a personal level, so just I let them stew sexually, and eventually find someone else.

Finding a hotbody who is kind, honest, AND intellectually stimulating is extremely rare. To be honest, to find any girl who is kind, honest and intellectually stimulating is rare, regardless of her appearance.

I'm a newbie on this board, and have admitted right away and openly that I am skeptical of the hard core/extreme 'don juan' emphasis on 'scoring', for the purposes of gaining happines in a relationship, and have been accused of something called 'one-itis'.

So be it, but if a girl does not interest me personally, I have absolutely no interest in pursuing a girl and enduring mind numbing 'talks' and dinners with her to score some sex.

As a matter of fact, I strongly suspect that for those of you on this board who are having trouble maintaining long term relationships, it is because you insist on a dogmatic version of the 'don juan' strategy which leads you to withhold even reasonable amounts of romantic affection, in favor of showing 'dominance' and 'self sufficiency.' I am simply the extremes are just that: extremes which should not be indulged.

Allan

PS: I'm not trying to be a 'hater', but after reading the FAQ on this website and many of the posts, I wonder: aren't DJ's simply playing the male version of the old female game of 'playing hard to get?' When the 'required' reading suggests that we end conversations early to keep them wanting more, that we have evidence of other interested females as 'social proof', that we not show too much interest too early, this sounds EXACTLY like playing a GAME (of 'look at me: I'm hard to get'), and an immature one at that.

My last girlfriend was a beautiful lady from Sweden. We met at a party and talked for nearly two hours the first time we met. What if I had taken up the DJ board advice not to show too much interest in her too soon? That's right, she would have walked! Instead, I took my time to get to know her, thoroughly enjoyed my time with her and watched the chemistry fly as she locked eyes with me as we talked. She's beautiful, but hardly a shop a holic. She's also one of the kindest most sensitive people I've met. No games were required. Due to my shyness, she eventually asked me out first to go dancing. No games there!

If she had played 'hard to get' and if I had played 'hard to get', jeez. If you are an interesting and reasonably attractive male, I don't think there is a need to obsess over social proof or about demonstrating alpha male status etc.

I'm not a hater, I'm just trying to keep it real, and offer up some balance and self criticism. Let the flame wars begin!

 

[jakethasnake]

Bump this shyt.

 

[hb]

Man we're all f*cking brain washed how the hell are we supposed to get outa it? and now i gotta start all over and find a way to actually LIKE girls not just see them as a piece of @ss and show them i like them, lol whos with me????

 

[NewMan]

PS: I'm not trying to be a 'hater', but after reading the FAQ on this website and many of the posts, I wonder: aren't DJ's simply playing the male version of the old female game of 'playing hard to get?' When the 'required' reading suggests that we end conversations early to keep them wanting more, that we have evidence of other interested females as 'social proof', that we not show too much interest too early, this sounds EXACTLY like playing a GAME (of 'look at me: I'm hard to get'), and an immature one at that.

You've got it all wrong.

No one is saying you don't talk to them - far from it - what it states is be a mystery - don't tell her everything about you - let her find that out for herself.

You end the date early.

You don't spend hours talking on the phone - why should you when you should be out on a date with her talking to her?

People will use the DJ principles for many things - some to get laid - some to find the "One" - if such exists.

You've got to take what you want - and figure that part out for yourself. Whilst it's called the "Bible" it's certainly not something you should take verbertum. Use what works for what you want out of this.,

 

[ManOMan]

verbertum? or verbatim?

There is nothing wrong with wanting a woman or companionship with an emotional tie.

Im not sure how many of you guys have been in love before, but it is a great feeling to have a g/f that adores you and worships the ground you walk on.

I would think most men and women strive to find a person to fulfill their lives

Like the guys said, sex is overrated and most guys think quantity is better than quality

If you feel disgusted after sex with a girl, take a break and try to establish a connection with a girl before sexing her up

 

[Avsguy01]

Very interesting topic. I too agree that sex can be overated. Especially when it is someone that you want to **** for ****'s sake. Ive been hanging out at this party house (in a band) and theres been a pretty good amount of girls that have walked through the door. Some have been hot, and some have been not.

What is interesting is that I seem to have a few girls that are all over me. That range is from hb-4 to hb-8. Obviously theres a few hb-4's and 5's that i have no interest in at all. Then there are the hb-7's and 8's that yeah i wouldnt mind getting them in the sack, but for some reason i really am not on a more personal level with them. Its really strange. Then theres this hb-6 that is all over me too, but you know what, she is really kind, honest, cool, and intellectually stimulating and it feels good. Even though she isnt the most attractive, i feel the most attraction or connection toward here. Strange?

 

[InLawsHateMe]

Originally posted by nan3109
maybe im just a man***** but ive shown my picture on this site and admitted to banging (happily) well over 10 women.

You could be bro.... you could be. .....sex is great, but it isn't the main ingredient to what we're really after... it's a big a$$ part, but not THE main thing. I'm fortunate to have had sex, all my life. There was a brief period when I kept a low profile, but it was do to the AIDS scare... once I learned enough about it, I was back on track to Pimpville. Simple put, if you had it served to you on a platter all your life, it doesn't become something of great importance. Hell, I stopped counting back in Jr. High... what I'm trying to say this early in the morning is the same thing this thread is about... sex doesn't pwn me. I pwn sex. I pick and choose when I want it, and with whom. I don't pass it around like candy, because this type of love making, is only for the privileged, you know what I'm saying?

 

[Skel]

your right, sex isnt everything. Its a bonus.

ONce you get older you realize that having a partner is more fullfilling than just One nigh stands

 

[Kidquick]

I know what y'all are sayin' - since I'm not 17 anymore I don't consider gettin laid a top priority, in fact, lately it tends to cause more problems than it's worth, which probably explains the case of one-itis I've been battling these last weeks.

 

[ematsuda]

WTF! Well I'm smack dab in the middle of one of these situations where she plays "hard to get" and I play "hard to get". If you've read me post today and others that I've posted recently, you'd see that I got my "feelings" into a relationship with a girl I once only wanted for sex. Let me tell you that all this "game playing" pretty much destroyed our relationship. Just going back and forth without anyone ever giving in. What a loss man... I feel like sh!t now.

 

[NewMan]

Let me tell you that all this "game playing" pretty much destroyed our relationship. Just going back and forth without anyone ever giving in. What a loss man... I feel like sh!t now.

You've got no relationship - you've known her for a month and gone out on 4 dates.

Read the bible.

you've got to pull yourself up by your bootstraps on this one.

 

[myfriendblu]

Im loving the responses and this post. On one hand, this site is more than just gettin laid. Its a whole new way of looking at things. A way to become more knowledgeable and powerful in the world of women. However, like Duke said amazingly, there is also a price to pay for all this newfound knowledge.