after class pickup

[danthemann]

In short, whats the best way to approach a girl after class whos always looking for your attention. Ive always had this problem because for whatever reason, to me, my pickup comes off as a bit forced or obvious. Im more of a spontaneous person whod rather catch the girl off guard and a girl whos looking for my attention after class is going to be expecting it. But maybe I should just take charge of my situations.

In my situation theres this girl whos moved her seat to right infront of me, changed up her route after class to match mine, and is always playing with her hair and making these noticeable checks over her shoulder at me. Im pretty good at picking up on it all but its hard for me to transition it outside of the classroom because obviously im not just trying to be her friend. Situations like this also make me laugh a bit inside because I know exactly whats going on and it sort of messes up my mindset. Its almost like I know I already won because I know she wants me.

Anyone have any good experiences with approaching girls after there class is over. I mean I could think of some easy openers but is there a way to not come off as obvious or is that basically the way its gotta be. I also thought it would be funny to mess with her and to make her pick my pencil up during class when I “dropped” it… good or bad idea? Thoughts?

 

[r0cky]

You're thinking way too much. Stop looking for the best approach and just approach.
The reason why most guys don't get laid is because they waste too much time thinking about the perfect scenario, meanwhile the guy that takes action is already taking advantage.

 

[Nicholas]

Interesting, because I'm facing the exact same trouble. 100% match. I wanna be spontaneous. Seems like my brain is telling me 'If you are that obvious you are not cool and the interaction isn't going to be awesome'. I don't know how to get rid of these thoughts and actually do something.

I'm wondering how would I be percieved by her. That's the problem, I mean you can't possibly know what's gonna happen it's just your brain throwing these false scenarios to stop you going out of your comfort zone. Also I think it might be proper to act in any way, otherwise she might think you're just a wuss or a creep. I guess being direct and dropping a joke is a win here.

We just need some kind of entry.

 

[Iceberg]

You're thinking way too much. Stop looking for the best approach and just approach.
The reason why most guys don't get laid is because they waste too much time thinking about the perfect scenario, meanwhile the guy that takes action is already taking advantage.

Exactly.

All you gotta do is talk to her. It doesn't have to sound like a pickup.

Hell, since she's in your class, you don't even have to go for the number immediately. You have time to build rapport. To give her an excuse to chill with you after class for some beers.

This approach requires the least pre-planning of them all.

In my situation theres this girl whos moved her seat to right infront of me, changed up her route after class to match mine, and is always playing with her hair and making these noticeable checks over her shoulder at me. Im pretty good at picking up on it all but its hard for me to transition it outside of the classroom because obviously im not just trying to be her friend. Situations like this also make me laugh a bit inside because I know exactly whats going on and it sort of messes up my mindset. Its almost like I know I already won because I know she wants me.

I'd also like to add - Back in the days when I was overthinking, this was stuff that I noticed too. The problem is, it's usually just happening in your imagination. A girl could think you're handsome. But, let's be real, she's not going to adapt her whole approach to class around that. It's more like, "Dantheman is a good looking dude. And so are 8 other guys in this class." It's not, "Dantheman is a good looking dude....let me sit closer to him, play with my hair, etc, etc. just to get him to notice me." Being attracted to someone isnt a fulltime job, ya know? Even if she likes you, I'm sure you're not the ONLY guy she likes....just like she isn't the ONLY girl you like.

My point is - stop looking for IOI's (because a lot of the time they're imaginary), stop trying to passively read attraction, and just talk to girls. Her response to one conversation-starter will tell you more than 2 months of staring at her.

 

[ezio]

Talk to her, build rapport and take it on from there.Stop over analysing or waiting for the perfect moment. those are just excuses you make to justify your inability to approach her. atm she wants you, which places you in a position of power. its better to make your move now before she loses interest and you start chasing after her, which is not a good place to be, believe me i know

 

[r0cky]

Interesting, because I'm facing the exact same trouble. 100% match. I wanna be spontaneous. Seems like my brain is telling me 'If you are that obvious you are not cool and the interaction isn't going to be awesome'. I don't know how to get rid of these thoughts and actually do something.

I'm wondering how would I be percieved by her. That's the problem, I mean you can't possibly know what's gonna happen it's just your brain throwing these false scenarios to stop you going out of your comfort zone. Also I think it might be proper to act in any way, otherwise she might think you're just a wuss or a creep. I guess being direct and dropping a joke is a win here.

We just need some kind of entry.

You cant get rid of those thoughts voluntarily, they just go away when they loose their power to influence you. They lose all their power when you recognize that overthinking scenarios will always cause you to make them seem weirder or more frightening than they really are.

 

[danthemann]

You're thinking way too much. Stop looking for the best approach and just approach.
The reason why most guys don't get laid is because they waste too much time thinking about the perfect scenario, meanwhile the guy that takes action is already taking advantage.

Honestly, getting laid isnt really my priority. I have a girlfriend whose awesome in the sack right now but just isnt cutting it relationship wise, so i can live for a little while without the sex. I'm just trying to find a good chick for once whose independent and not a b!tch.

I'd also like to add - Back in the days when I was overthinking, this was stuff that I noticed too. The problem is, it's usually just happening in your imagination. A girl could think you're handsome. But, let's be real, she's not going to adapt her whole approach to class around that. It's more like, "Dantheman is a good looking dude. And so are 8 other guys in this class." It's not, "Dantheman is a good looking dude....let me sit closer to him, play with my hair, etc, etc. just to get him to notice me." Being attracted to someone isnt a fulltime job, ya know? Even if she likes you, I'm sure you're not the ONLY guy she likes....just like she isn't the ONLY girl you like.

Im not saying she plans her whole class around me but id say im the best looking guy in the class to begin with and because i had a class with her last semester and caught her giving me IOI's then, it makes me wonder a bit.

While I agree i probably do overthink, what r0cky was saying in his last post is 100% true. I cant just voluntarily erase the thoughts. I just have to accept that these thoughts dont get what i want. and as you said one approach will save much time wondering.

I had the idea of "dropping" my pencil in class and getting her to picking it up for me. and then i guess after class ill just catch up with her and just start by saying hey. i mean what could possibly go wrong.