afc's last resort

[paradox88]

well things as of now are as bad as they can get. while attempting to approach this girl for a semester, I still can't do it and yes i realize its entirely my fault. I know that i might not see her again after this school year ends, which is about 2 months left till summer vacation. I see her almost everyday in the halls and make eye contact occassionally while i pass her. she was in my class for first semester before i transferred out, so it's even more awkward now to speak to her. Even though i am not sure if the guy she walks to class with etc is her bf, do i really have anything to lose if i do a direct get to the point approach, wanting to get to know her over the summer and not spend the rest of these years thinking about her all the time and yeah i know, i should not put her on my pedestal but i cannot help it. i have not said a word to her and should i just finally introduce myself at the end, winning or not it's the attempt that counts, at least in my book it is.

 

[DrSoSuave]

How about forgeting about picking up girls in classrooms if it seems all that difficult for you? Try to have a hunter's mentality when seeking out prey, if you keep staring and watching - that prey is going to get away.

 

[diablo]

Originally posted by paradox88
should i just finally introduce myself at the end, winning or not it's the attempt that counts, at least in my book it is.

No, that's just... weak. Go talk to her next time you see her. Grab your balls, walk over to her, and ask how things are going. It's that simple - she's not going to point and laugh, and a guy isn't going to pop out from behind a door to crush your head in for starting a conversation with a girl. It's something that guys have been doing for millenia - don't get so hung up about it...

 

[yunghova35]

Wow i feel sorry for you, MAN UP!!!!!

I really dont see why people LUST over people they don't know think of this, say you finally meet this girl, even somehow go out with this girl and you find out she a COMPLETE azz hole, what if you find out she a person that gets atrill out of stealing or lying, den you will say to yourself "what the hell was i thinking. put it like this PEOPLE have faults, just because you got a feeling for her that started in your pants and you mental masterbated about her for the whole school year does NOT mean she good for you OR a good person.

But guess what you will NEVER know what she's like or what could come, UNLESS you DO SOMTHING ABOUT IT.

Have a fuggin conversation with her, bust her ball about something she wearing. for crying out loud SAY ANYTHING!!!!!!!!!!

 

[Royal Elite]

Originally posted by paradox88
well things as of now are as bad as they can get. while attempting to approach this girl for a semester, I still can't do it and yes i realize its entirely my fault. I know that i might not see her again after this school year ends, which is about 2 months left till summer vacation. I see her almost everyday in the halls and make eye contact occassionally while i pass her. she was in my class for first semester before i transferred out, so it's even more awkward now to speak to her. Even though i am not sure if the guy she walks to class with etc is her bf, do i really have anything to lose if i do a direct get to the point approach, wanting to get to know her over the summer and not spend the rest of these years thinking about her all the time and yeah i know, i should not put her on my pedestal but i cannot help it. i have not said a word to her and should i just finally introduce myself at the end, winning or not it's the attempt that counts, at least in my book it is.

Listen you have to realize there are thousands of other people in your school, if you don't approach her how do you think she is going to know you like her? If you like her more then likely other guys like her, and you can't really expect her to just know about every guy in the school who likes who do you? Of course not, so the only way she will know you exist is if you let her know you exist.

Just go up to her and let her know that "she seems to be a very nice person, who seems to have a nice positve energy and that you would like to get to know her better". You havent put your ego on the line if she says no, you havent scared her away by telling her you are madly in love with her. It's a very flattering positve, but clear massage to her. Even if she has a bf she will probably want to stay in contact, since anything can happen with her bf tomorrow.

 

[S0LID]

Man, I think youve broken the 3 second rule . You have built her up to be perfect, untouchable, sh1ts roses in your head. Your head is so full of doubt now, it's dripping ut of your ears. If you approach her now you'll probs start stuttering or something. If you get rejected by her now man, you will be crushed, confidence etc will be zero.

I'd change that lust into hate. Then next time I see her I'd ask th time, dam dude, that will be hard enough. From this you can gadge if she's approachable or not. If you bust on her watch you can gadge her reaction, say something like "wow my little sister has that watch/mobile, what sweets did it have in it?". If shes all giggling then you have a decent change, if shes angry, well NEXT!.

If the watch neg hit worked you will have a little bit of rapport. Next time you see her smile and say someting like "you still got that sweet holder?".

After this you can strike up a convo saying "awww u know I was only teasing you about your sweet holder, btw, whats your name? Hi ___ I'm paradox88". Small talk about uni blah blah blah It was nice talking to ya, I'll send ya a txt to see how things are going, whats ya number?

Gd luck

 

[Rondavu]

The bottom line is you don't know if you like her because you don't even know her. Ideals are ideals. They're good for one thing, and it ends with "bation".

 

[BeLoSH]

psych yourself up and do it mate. it gets a lot easier once you over come the first one for you to do it over and over again. make it seem fun and not some serious issue that your mind's telling you that it is.

just relax!