AFC me then DJ me VS this great girl (a 9)

[AqVe]

So this 9 both in look and personality, was for some reason into my AFC self some months ago. Of course she being the one who kinda seduced me, our "relationship" never had a chance. Being the AFC I was, I never had a clue why the hell would a girl like her wanted me for. (we both work spare time at this place, and I'm few years older than her, and she was new to our workplace)
Then when it all ended, for various reasons I realized I was acting AFC, then only less than couple weeks ago I became the DJ. I immediately realized every single mistake I did with her, and let me tell you there were too much mistakes!
But now I guess it's too ****ing damn late, it's always LATE when you realized your mistakes!
During my last couple weeks as a turned DJ, I did my best to win her back, I thought I was doing dam good, and if she was still single, she would be mine in no time. Then just few minutes ago, BAM she told me on SMS (she is still in high school, she is a senior, so I can't call and talk to her since she is actually at school right now) that she has a BF. (I asked her if she is free on Valentines Day, and she told me she would be with her BF). I was shocked, but played it cool, like "haha i didnt know u had a bf, you guys have fun on that day then :-D ", then her reply: "but we can take another day then" Being the morally good guy that I am, I thought since she is with a BF she is now lost cause, and I can safely NEXT her and move on with other girls, so I replied "HUH?" and I haven't gotten any SMS from her yet.

LOL I guess she wants to be with her BF and hang out with me at the same time, what a ****ing *****!
Screw that, I don't think I'll go with that set up.
Unless there are actually some experienced DJ here that knows any ways to turn the table around, so I could be the one she is going out with on Valentines Day instead? I won't settle for being number 2, either I'm her best choice or none at all.
I'm not really after sex, I've found out that she is definately GF material and I want to be with her, not just once for the sex...So any help here pls? How to do I work this girl at this point? If noone says anything I'll just NEXT her, for dam sure.

 

[AqVe]

ok so now after reading the posts in the "Merged: girls with boyfriend" thread in the archive. I decided to send her another SMS: "Well on Sunday I got something going on, but not sure yet. Just a little question. How long have you and your BF been together? Hehe just wondering."

On sunday me and my buddy was scheduling a laser tag (kinda like paintball thing) at this place. We're in the process of gathering people, more people more fun. So I thought I'll ask her there if everything is going as scheduled.

 

[Technical1]

no offense man, but youve already lost some power being an AFC to her, she has a boyfriend and you still go for it, even though I doubt you are experienced enough to pull girls away from boyfriends, since you just recently stopped being an AFC. So you are acting half like an old AFC, half like a well advanced DJ, and I dont think youre either of these things.

Its best to drop all contact with girls you knew when you were AFC. Until you get really good as a DJ, then you might try again, but I think you may be fooling yourself. Nexting fast is key. Always keep your eyes on the future.

No girl, no matter how much you like her, will justify being in a position of powerlessness. You're emotional investment in this thing makes me think your old AFC self has yet to die its final death. Just my opinion. Good luck man.

 

[pr3d3]

no offense man, but youve already lost some power being an AFC to her, she has a boyfriend and you still go for it, even though I doubt you are experienced enough to pull girls away from boyfriends, since you just recently stopped being an AFC. So you are acting half like an old AFC, half like a well advanced DJ, and I dont think youre either of these things.

Its best to drop all contact with girls you knew when you were AFC. Until you get really good as a DJ, then you might try again, but I think you may be fooling yourself. Nexting fast is key. Always keep your eyes on the future.

No girl, no matter how much you like her, will justify being in a position of powerlessness. You're emotional investment in this thing makes me think your old AFC self has yet to die its final death. Just my opinion. Good luck man.

So what u mean is that becoming a DJ you must meet new people and try to not game your past girl friends (for ex: class mates ) .

 

[AqVe]

Ok so I just now got her reply: "In January. But leaving for england on thursday"

Hehe so apparently she got hooked up with this guy AFTER our "relationship" failed. Exactly what I thought. Goddam my AFCness! It again shows that a girl is willing to go for anyone even an AFC like I was when she is single. But my experience also shows that an AFC can't keep the girl in the end. I know nothing about this guy she is now with. I can only wish for that he is a lesser man than me, that's my only chance. I really don't want to let this girl go.

I still don't know what she'll do in England, maybe she goes there with him...Maybe she is just going there with family, what ever. Since school isn't over for couple more hours, I don't wanna call her and ask, and I really don't wanna call her to just ask about what she gonna do in England. I thought about writing another SMS something like: "England?? omg why did you move? In how many years will you be back to the old country again? I'll miss you, send me Christmas post card will you?"
But also I might not do anything, no SMS no call, but then I won't know what the hell she is going to England for, maybe it's not my business to know?

 

[Technical1]

Since school isn't over for couple more hours, I don't wanna call her and ask, and I really don't wanna call her to just ask about what she gonna do in England. I thought about writing another SMS something like: "England?? omg why did you move? In how many years will you be back to the old country again? I'll miss you, send me Christmas post card will you?"
But also I might not do anything, no SMS no call, but then I won't know what the hell she is going to England for, maybe it's not my business to know?

No disrespect, but you're not a DJ yet. You dont have the DJ mentality, otherwise you wouldnt be thinking these ridiculous thoughts about her England visit. In as far as you think this much about a girl that isnt fvcking you, you are an AFC. I say that as a recovering AFC, because I just got over this problem myself. I was in two or three similar situations, where I messed up, then later gained some skills and knowledge, and tried to make the old stuff work.
It is NEVER, EVER going to work. You already lost respect, and thats all you ever had to lose anyway. You're done.

If you're still going back to the old girls, you are NOT a DJ. Save yourself some weeks or months of your life and take my advice: make a fresh break from all your previous female relationships. I had to even tell my mom that I wasnt going to listen to her fvcking problems all the time.

The power of NEXT is one of the things that is central to DJing. Next her, even if only to prove to yourself that you can.