TylerVici
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I don't know if everyone goes through this kind of, um, sexual awakening, but this is my dilemma and no one I know ever told me how to deal with this stuff so... I need your opinion.
All my life I've been raised by fairly-strict Roman Catholics. Sex, or even just girls, was never a topic of conversation. As a result, I've been raised on a quixotic view of love and romance and libidinous desire. (I'm a Don Quixote, not a Don Juan, look it up.) So instead of being with girls, I spend my time reading about psychology, physiology, and philosophy. Instead of partying or w/e I spend my time lifting and reading about exercise and nutrition sciences, or thinking and writing about the books I read and whatever else in journals and notebooks. I never thought I'd be and object of desire for a girl, but I had a wake up call this spring when I was talking to these two girls from other schools, one a dancer and one a cheerleader. I ended up making out with the dancer and then never seeing her again (she wasn't all that great to be honest) and I just stopped talking to the cheerleader because I got bored with the conversation. Looking back on conversations with girls in class and whatnot, I realize that I missed many IOIs from many great girls, but I didn't see them at the time because of my upbringing/nice guy mentality.
Anyway, learning about psychology and history and the seduction community has taught me that some of the Roman Catholic beliefs (and the beliefs of religion in general) are false and just stupid. Sexual desire shouldn't be suppressed, that only leads to "shame and loathing" according to Sigmond Freud. It should be expressed(in a healthy way, preferably).
Now I'm going to be a senior in high school. I thought that during high school I would fall in love and be with some girl and all that w/e, but now I don't know what to think. I'm not going to be able to party much next year with 3 AP classes and lifting and a very demanding art class. There is a girl in my art class I met this year that I would could be in love with (in the boyfriend/girlfriend sense of the word), but I asked her out and got the LJBF response, although I know she is somewhat attracted to me and also has a fairly quixotic view of love. (after this rejection I found the seduction community and the error of my ways). I would absolutely love to be with this girl, but honestly I don't thinks she's the best I could do and I already made many mistakes. Besides, the PUAs say I should get out with other girls to forget about her, but idk. Casual sex isn't something I want to get into in high school, it can kinda mess you up.
Ok, so getting to the point, sorry for the long post. What would you do? As I see it, I have a few options:
1. Work on my summer art projects and wait to impress this girl in my art class next year (it's a very close-nit class and is longer than normal so I will have plenty of time to work on her. Plus I'm the only guy in that class that has anything of a physique or any sense of what it means to be manly)
2. Forget about her. Meet other random girls and party this summer because I won't be able to all school year long.
3. Combo of the two. Meet girls this summer/work on my game but don't go crazy, then see what art girl thinks of me in school and hopefully work something out. If not, my game will be better for all those other girls I missed in previous years.
I'm leaning toward number 3. Just work on my game and not really get into anything serious if I can help it. Art girl didn't return my text message when I wished her a happy birthday last week, so I'm guessing she doesn't want me to talk to her right now. I'm starting to think she has a boyfriend b/c of some things she said earlier this summer, but idk for sure.
Any opinions on this would be great. I really don't trust anyone I know to give me good unbiased advice, so I thought I'd ask a bunch of strangers anonymously. So DJs, gimme your wisdom.
All my life I've been raised by fairly-strict Roman Catholics. Sex, or even just girls, was never a topic of conversation. As a result, I've been raised on a quixotic view of love and romance and libidinous desire. (I'm a Don Quixote, not a Don Juan, look it up.) So instead of being with girls, I spend my time reading about psychology, physiology, and philosophy. Instead of partying or w/e I spend my time lifting and reading about exercise and nutrition sciences, or thinking and writing about the books I read and whatever else in journals and notebooks. I never thought I'd be and object of desire for a girl, but I had a wake up call this spring when I was talking to these two girls from other schools, one a dancer and one a cheerleader. I ended up making out with the dancer and then never seeing her again (she wasn't all that great to be honest) and I just stopped talking to the cheerleader because I got bored with the conversation. Looking back on conversations with girls in class and whatnot, I realize that I missed many IOIs from many great girls, but I didn't see them at the time because of my upbringing/nice guy mentality.
Anyway, learning about psychology and history and the seduction community has taught me that some of the Roman Catholic beliefs (and the beliefs of religion in general) are false and just stupid. Sexual desire shouldn't be suppressed, that only leads to "shame and loathing" according to Sigmond Freud. It should be expressed(in a healthy way, preferably).
Now I'm going to be a senior in high school. I thought that during high school I would fall in love and be with some girl and all that w/e, but now I don't know what to think. I'm not going to be able to party much next year with 3 AP classes and lifting and a very demanding art class. There is a girl in my art class I met this year that I would could be in love with (in the boyfriend/girlfriend sense of the word), but I asked her out and got the LJBF response, although I know she is somewhat attracted to me and also has a fairly quixotic view of love. (after this rejection I found the seduction community and the error of my ways). I would absolutely love to be with this girl, but honestly I don't thinks she's the best I could do and I already made many mistakes. Besides, the PUAs say I should get out with other girls to forget about her, but idk. Casual sex isn't something I want to get into in high school, it can kinda mess you up.
Ok, so getting to the point, sorry for the long post. What would you do? As I see it, I have a few options:
1. Work on my summer art projects and wait to impress this girl in my art class next year (it's a very close-nit class and is longer than normal so I will have plenty of time to work on her. Plus I'm the only guy in that class that has anything of a physique or any sense of what it means to be manly)
2. Forget about her. Meet other random girls and party this summer because I won't be able to all school year long.
3. Combo of the two. Meet girls this summer/work on my game but don't go crazy, then see what art girl thinks of me in school and hopefully work something out. If not, my game will be better for all those other girls I missed in previous years.
I'm leaning toward number 3. Just work on my game and not really get into anything serious if I can help it. Art girl didn't return my text message when I wished her a happy birthday last week, so I'm guessing she doesn't want me to talk to her right now. I'm starting to think she has a boyfriend b/c of some things she said earlier this summer, but idk for sure.
Any opinions on this would be great. I really don't trust anyone I know to give me good unbiased advice, so I thought I'd ask a bunch of strangers anonymously. So DJs, gimme your wisdom.
